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Posted on Thu, Dec 01, 2005 06:47

my sentiments exactly, someone may be adonis the 2nd but if he has the personality and emotions of a plank of wood it's going to get boring very quickly. my favourite way of describing myself is well rounded lol

  


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Posted on Wed, Nov 30, 2005 20:20

I agree Dee....

I know we all cringe at the old cliches like "beauty is only skin deep" and "it's what's on the inside that counts", however there is a bit of truth to these old words of wisdom. Isn't it amazing sometimes how unattractive someone typically considered "hot" can become when they open their mouth and you see actually how ugly and vapid they are?

While we all have our lust objects, when it comes to long term....give me someone with a great soul versus a great body any day!



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Posted on Wed, Nov 30, 2005 17:17

Actually one of my favorite Rikki Lake movies was called "Babycakes". In this movie she got the guy over a skinny woman and she didn't lose a pound. Came by my nickname I liked the movie so much.

  


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Posted on Wed, Nov 30, 2005 15:15

Cathii wrote:
Wonder if the philosophy behind the tv show * The Biggest Loser* were a mandatory practice would there be any more fat people left to *LABEL???*
Maybe something like WASSSBBWNIAM... *Was a Super Super Sized Big Beautiful Woman Now I am Hot*



Ok, I have seen you say things to this effect a few times on this board, and I just have to say this:

Not everyone thinks that being fat means you can't be hot. If someone wants to lose weight for their own reasons, whatever they may be, it's their own business. Doing so does not make them any hotter than they were before. Everyone has the potential to be attractive at whatever size they are, it's more in how they carry and take care of their appearance (slovenly is not a good look, no matter what your size).


ok, and now I will get off my soapbox.



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Posted on Wed, Nov 30, 2005 14:17

Well I usually prefer "big" or "BBW" but sometimes I've told guys I'm "fat" and rather enjoyed the freedom to say the word... was kind of liberating and made me chuckle to just be so upfront once in awhile. ;) However, it's different if you say it about yourself or someone else says it about you....

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Posted on Tue, Nov 29, 2005 14:49

You Go Girl! Love your attitude!

  


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Posted on Sun, Nov 27, 2005 05:10

When I'm talking to someone I never use the term BBW. I just tell them I have some meat on my bones and if they are looking for a skinny woman I ain't it.



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Posted on Sat, Nov 26, 2005 20:31

I hate the word fat
does that mean deep down inside I hate myself ?
had to ask someoneon the site what FA meant tonite
I'm so dumb
& then he was only looking for a sex hook-up
jeeeeesh ! ! !
not crazy about the term chubby chaser either
i think big or large are better



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Posted on Thu, Nov 24, 2005 11:55

Precisely my point!! LOL!!



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Posted on Thu, Oct 20, 2005 11:54

Weight comes and goes but a beautiful heart and soul can always be seen for exactly what they are!!

When people ask me what I am.. I say "I am just right for me"
Weight comes and goes but a beautiful heart and soul can always be seen for exactly what they are!!

When people ask me what I am.. I say "I am just right for me"

  


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Posted on Thu, Oct 20, 2005 04:35

Yeah I agree with what you gals are saying about the "Beautiful" term in BBW , it just seems to be a label thats across the board, so if a guy asks me online if I am a BBW, I usually say, "well I am big, and I am a woman, as to whether you think I am beautiful or not is another thing". As the old saying goes, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, whether you are fat or skinny or whatever ....
Yeah I agree with what you gals are saying about the "Beautiful" term in BBW , it just seems to be a label thats across the board, so if a guy asks me online if I am a BBW, I usually say, "well I am big, and I am a woman, as to whether you think I am beautiful or not is another thing". As the old saying goes, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, whether you are fat or skinny or whatever ....

  


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Posted on Tue, Oct 11, 2005 19:41

I have to admit I had never encountered the term BBW before I joined this site, so for me at least, it has no fetishist connotations (though from what you folks have said it does seem to have those connotations for many people).

I also have problems with the inclusion of the word 'beautiful' in BBW. I'm sure that most of us are using the term to mean that even though we are big, we are still beautiful, or can still be beautiful, and in that sense - the 'fat does not equal ugly' sense - I support it.

But as several of you have pointed out, not everyone who is big is necessarily beautiful... and if you think they are, maybe you have a fat fetish.

I agree with what many of you have said about the word 'fat' - I often use it to describe myself, and I'm okay with it when I say it or my friends say it, but I don't like it when a**holes throw the term at me in a way that is clearly derogatory.

I once overheard one of my friends, trying to describe me in a politically correct way, refer to me as 'husky-looking'. That cracked me up.



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Posted on Mon, Oct 10, 2005 19:28


SpiceIsNice write:

Theophrastus write:
I think it's important that big people reclaim the term fat. It is often an ugly word and thrown around far too easily. If we can reclaim it then it looses all its power over us.


Amen, Theo!

We're here!
We're fat!
Take that!

I used to hate when people pointed and whispered (or didn't bother whispering) something about "look how fat ..." whatever blah blah blah.

Now I just turn to them and say "Gosh, you're right. I *am* fat. You're a genius. Almost no one notices!"

heh heh heh.

Spice



What a great comeback! I'll have to remember that!



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Posted on Mon, Oct 10, 2005 19:27


kewannap write:
musicnut46... you ARE beautiful!




I agree!

And maybe we should take back the word fat! As in, "hey, I'm fat, get used to it!" lol



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Posted on Mon, Oct 10, 2005 19:02

musicnut46... you ARE beautiful!



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Posted on Mon, Oct 10, 2005 17:32


Arlene802 write:
Thought I'd put my two cents in here. I think that in America the words "fat" and "ugly" seem to go together far too often. How many times have we seen commercials for the lastest diet scam that talks about loosing that "ugly fat". Interesting too when you consider just how many of us are overweight anyway. Think that we are becoming schizoid about the whole thing.

Then there is the case of the women who had to complain to the medical board about her doctor because he told her that she was too fat and that no man would ever want her because of her "ugly fat". (And I note here that he was no prize himself!)

Real woman have real curves. That's my story and I'm sticking to it!



I agree... I think the 'ugly' connection makes me hate the 'fat' term. I know I'm fat... but it just sounds like an insulting term to me. I prefer large... and no, BBW doesn't offend me. I do think it is used too loosely... as I've said before... not all large women are beautiful. I don't necessarily think I'm beautiful, but I don't feel I'm ugly either...

Wish there were not labels, but as long as there are the terms 'thin' 'average' 'small' 'petite' 'heavy' etc... there will be the label 'fat' 'large' 'husky' 'chubby' AND BBW/BHM/SSBBW...



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Posted on Mon, Oct 10, 2005 12:38

I have no problem with Fat. On the other hand I told some guy from another site I was fat and he emailed back " I don't mean to be mean but do you have a problem with your weight" I didn't but apparently he did and he said he was such a nice guy, shocking!
After some thought i do realize I don't really like BBW.
If some arsehole tells you that you are fat just turn around smile and say thank you, I know, or got with spices idea.



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Posted on Mon, Oct 10, 2005 11:08


Theophrastus write:
I think it's important that big people reclaim the term fat. It is often an ugly word and thrown around far too easily. If we can reclaim it then it looses all its power over us.


Amen, Theo!

We're here!
We're fat!
Take that!

I used to hate when people pointed and whispered (or didn't bother whispering) something about "look how fat ..." whatever blah blah blah.

Now I just turn to them and say "Gosh, you're right. I *am* fat. You're a genius. Almost no one notices!"

heh heh heh.

Spice



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Posted on Mon, Oct 10, 2005 02:54

I think it's important that big people reclaim the term fat. It is often an ugly word and thrown around far too easily. If we can reclaim it then it looses all its power over us.

It's like gays taking back queer and black people taking back n**ger (although that's been less succesful admittedly).



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Posted on Sun, Oct 09, 2005 23:41

Thought I'd put my two cents in here. I think that in America the words "fat" and "ugly" seem to go together far too often. How many times have we seen commercials for the lastest diet scam that talks about loosing that "ugly fat". Interesting too when you consider just how many of us are overweight anyway. Think that we are becoming schizoid about the whole thing.

Then there is the case of the women who had to complain to the medical board about her doctor because he told her that she was too fat and that no man would ever want her because of her "ugly fat". (And I note here that he was no prize himself!)

Real woman have real curves. That's my story and I'm sticking to it!