No Sweetie , you are far from ugly. That was an ugly man. You are beautiful That man is very ugly on the inside where it matters the most. People like that are just insecure and have to be ugly to others to make themselves feel better.
It's not the first time that has happened to me, I'm used to it by now but I remember the first time I stood up for myself and I makes me laugh.
I was with my best friend and her brother. I was complaining about the lack of guys in the area, my friend told me not to worry and that I'll find someone just takes time.
I replied to that with "there are many more fish in the sea" well her brother told me that the only "fish" I was going to find was in the Dead Sea!
I was stunned for a moment then I answered back with "at least I don't have the Bermuda Triangle hanging around me cause every girl you go out with always seems to disappear in the end!"
lol I still remember his face when I said that and to this day he still hasn't found a girl who will stay with him for more than a few weeks!
You keep on answering them back, Dana.
When I was 21, I had no self-confidence at all, even though I was a lot smaller than I am now (that was 3 babies ago!)
It's only now, at 38, that I'm feeling comfortable enough to not give a flying feck what anyone else says. If you can come back with something witty & scathing, then I think it makes you feel much better.
Thanks Chopeter, I've finally found my voice to stand up for myself to these people who think that us BBW/BHM have no right to be loved or admired in anyway.
The guy that said that to you obviously fell out of the Ugly Tree, hitting every single branch on the way down.
lol! that's the exact same thing I told a guy today who said to me that i shouldn't even waste my time looking at him(it was my friend who was standing next to him i was looking at). that i wasn't worth any attention or any thing like that. I told him that i would never waste my time on a guy who fell out of the ugly tree! lol
Boy did he have a red face and was laughed at!!
no your not ugly the man who said this is ugly and twisted inside and he should have be greatfull that someone took the time to smile at him as in this world we live in not many have the time to smile at others anymore you keep smiling and Ignore the man with that ugly streak in him
First, let me echo other comments by saying I think you're really cute.
Second, your experience makes me wonder, why is it that the a**holes of the world feel obligated/allowed to make fun of big people?
I can't tell you how many times I've been walking down the street and some jerk has called out "Hey, Porky!" or muttered "Jeez, you take up the whole sidewalk" or whatever.
What perplexes me the most are the ones who shout something along the lines of "Hey! You're fat!!"
What exactly is the purpose of such comments? Do they think I don't KNOW I'm fat? What makes my size their business, when I haven't even looked at them, let alone tried to talk to them? And what's so wrong with our society that people derive such utter glee from making these horrible statements?
secondly i think he may actually be a bbw admirer in the closet! he probably doesn't wanna admit to himself or any1 else that he finds us curvettes attractive!
also has anyone ever noticed when you stare in the mirror or at a pic of urself u look more unattractive by the second?
and my last comment is people like him are put in this world to......try our patience......make us look at ourselves and ask am i who i want to be?...... and make us p~ss ourselves thinking uglyness is a matter of sight and i will be above all else more beautiful than a slime bag like u can ever be!!!!!!!
What an effing jerk. I think I would have kicked him in the jewels, all the while still smiling........
Seriously, you are an adorable girl with a bright, warm, welcoming smile. Don't let people like that get you down, and don't believe what one idiot says. Believe Us, here in the forums!
The only thing "ugly" was his attitude. And unfortunately, you can't judge that kind of ugly until they open their mouths. Too bad they don't make attitude adjustment pills. He needs one. You are definately not ugly! Don't let this guy get to your head and fill it with what isn't true!
gEnAvEe write: i totally agree!! u are soo not ugly at all... that guy was a total jerk off!! don't even waste your time thinking about what he said... i've asked myself that same question... am i ugly??
Sometimes all it takes is ONE negative comment to make us wonder, yet all the positive comments you may get seem to go out the window, especially from the people that matter in your life .... strange huh
It always surprises me how much peoples comments can affect us....i mean really...these are people who we'll probably never see again...and although their comments may sting for a bit...you know the person you are.
i totally agree!! u are soo not ugly at all... that guy was a total jerk off!! don't even waste your time thinking about what he said... i've asked myself that same question... am i ugly??