oh let me just ask u all something excepting frey, i thought this is a large FRIENDS site, i agree that she may have come across as a little shallow, however that doesn't mean she is haven't we all not replyed to winks because there was no physical attraction to the person staring back at u? would u go upto some one in a club or what ever thinking well i don't find them attractive but they might be a really nice person? (not that i would actually approach any one!) but i hope that i am not shallow but why just because u are larger than most can u not be fussy? i am not a fussy person i must admit but if i was it would be coz i wanted a person i didn't just settle for because i didn't think i was good enough for any one else! do u all think u shud have to settle just because it may take a little longer? i hope u all find some one if u r all still looking (as am i) and give the poor girl a break!
Yes, you are shallow Maria. Just accept it and live with it. It might be the reason why men don't find you attractive. I admit we are captivated by women looks, but it's their personality, heart and charm what makes us move earth and heaven to give them everything that they need and deserve. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder! Once beauty is gone, the heart, soul and feelings are left behind, take care of those and you will get your partner. By the way, all women are beautiful, in their on particular and special way. Is just that sometime, we men are too stupid to look at it. Eventually we realize how wonderful you ladies are, just take a look at the thousands of art pieces, poems, and songs created by us for you.
Were have i said i only date drop dead gorgeous people?
I'm sorry, I didn't say you said that Freysh... I was just using that as an example of a criteria... and the "you" was not meant to be specific. And I didn't say she was hateful... I really didn't... I was referring to how I perceived her comments. No rudeness or harshness intended. Just like I didn't get upset when you said I was rude because that's just how you perceived it. It's all good.
Hahahahahaha... very clever treasure, I love it ;)
I dont think there is anything wrong with having a preferance as to the kind of person you would date, whether intelligence is your thing over sense of humour, or blonde hair over dark hair, or whatever, so many people on here and everywhere else say they choose personality over anything else, but a lot of the time that BS as well .... the thing you have to ask yourself Blue (not that I think she is going to come back to this post) maybe you arent the type the guys you think are good looking are after (did that make sense) and thats not having a go at you either ....
I honestly admire people who describe themselves as "hot" or "I am good looking" or "s3xy" , good for you, cause if I even remotely thought of myself as any of those, i definately wouldnt be advertising it, because I know I am not everyones taste, I have been told I am ugly before, irrespective of what anyone else thinks .... its good to have self esteem, but we shouldnt get offended if someone else doesnt think the same ....
I completly agree with your statment and think that peoples responses to this thread have said a lot about the writers hummmm.
You see.... here is a perfect example of what I was trying to say in the other thread..... each person reads these posts with a different slant on things. I have read each one and did not see anyone attacking her. It is all about perception! Yours is different from mine... and mine is different from someone elses. But with comments like this... no wonder people get a bad taste in their mouth.
I personally think to each their own. If you want to only date guys/girls who are drop dead gorgeous and have a certain look.... more power to ya! However, if that's the bar you are setting, then don't complain when there are no men/women that meet your requirements. I usually prefer to date tall men... but if I had stuck to that requirement, then I would have passed by on the love of my life. I am so glad that I didn't let physical aspects of a person determine who he was as a man. We are all free to set our bars at whatever level we want.... I think I'm just gonna go sit AT the bar for a while! Have a wonderful day to each and every one!
"I completly agree with your statment and think that peoples responses to this thread have said a lot about the writers hummmm."
Name names. If you've got something to say, come right out with it all. Don't take shots from the blindside, nothing worse than people who can't say something to someone's (virtual) face.
Just my opinion. You all have yours. I have mine. And yes, I'm bitter, I came here to find true love, not to be told that I am not allowed to find it because I'm not attractive enough or not rich enough or not clever enough.
Well guess what? I've got a heart, a hell of a big one at that. It gets me in trouble sometimes but what the hell, I'd rather wear it on my sleeve than be shallow.
The woman who wins that heart may not be driven around in a Merc, may not eat lobster, may not go to the Bahamas on vacation, but she will be loved 110% and treated like a princess when my finances allow.
Lokirook you do have a point. The orignal post was rude and yes offensive. If she wanted to get herself noticed there are better ways. If you think that some of our posts to this were bad think how it would of been if a man was the orignal poster! Just for the record I would be the first to tell you that at times I can act childish, actually I think that is something to that effect in my profile.
this is going to sound like an attack - but so what it seems like thats the point on this thread.
if everyone is so adult and mature here i would think they would be less likely to lash out in such childish ways. team playing against someones outreach. yes, the wording of the first post could be viewed as offensive but it is also a valid post, as is any other post i've yet seen on this site. No post is going to be perfect or the standard setting for posts. for crying outloud its a forum.
I've seen a few guys i find attractive on this site, ive seen many many more that dont strike my fancy at all. as a dating site - and ive said this before many times- looks become something you start to base a little of your ideas off of. this is a site, not real life and you have to look into something else a little bit more to make up for what youre missing.
if anything i didnt view this thread as offensive, but as a way to catch the eye of guys who might not already have looked into her profile and to put herself onto the feild.
y'all need to stop jumping at everyone like elementary school kids round a pinata!