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Posted on Thu, Dec 15, 2005 07:51

Ya, your right . It's just those guys that think that everything should just come to them but they are wrong. Me, on the other hand, I rather work for I want and get , then things can go the way it should with no drama. I'm just 27 years old and I know alot things when come people those . I am around those type of people everyday.



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Posted on Fri, Dec 09, 2005 20:31

Hi from Australia - all (no most) of the replies i get (from other sites as well) are just for sex. I am flattered but there is more to life - surely. Where are all the GSOH guys out here (in Vic AND MY AGE) and looking to make friends?



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Posted on Fri, Dec 09, 2005 12:59

Why would you say that Steve? :p

silken



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Posted on Mon, Dec 05, 2005 12:30


strictlyred write:
Are there Nice guys????

[Not in Canada, duh!!!!!



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Posted on Sun, Dec 04, 2005 11:23

Sorry it upset you GW, I shared that story to make a point about how easy it is for someone to label themselves a "good guy" even if they aren't. The same can apply to either sex, not just men. ;)

A good story... hmm, let's see. I have an ex-boyfriend who knows I've been ill lately and has been calling me to check on me. He has even insisted on paying for treatment if I can't afford it. And before anyone says he's got a sexual interest in me, we broke up 9 years ago and he's never tried to get back together with me so I don't believe that's the motive. So there, there is the story of a very decent man. :)

Now fair is fair, let's hear your story of a decent woman. ;)

silken



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Posted on Sun, Dec 04, 2005 10:09

How come all you women seem to only talk about the Losers who you've met? I, for one, would love to hear about some of the good Husbands, Dates, partners, and etc... You women seem quite ready to share the bad stuff; how about some of the good stuff? I'd sure appreciate some advice which might help me to be more of a Gentleman.



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Posted on Sat, Dec 03, 2005 08:51

Hi folks, I just wanted to add one example to illustrate what I mean about someone labelling themselves as a "nice guy" but wrongly so.

I just broke up with a man who talked about what a "nice guy" he was and how he's had these bad girlfriends who've taken advantage of his kindness...

Things started out really well and he spoiled me by taking me out to dinner all the time, calling me everyday, etc. However, soon into the relationship he began to show that he was pretty selfish and self-centred and would get into a foul mood whenever he did not get his way on something. We had a few "talks" about this through the relationship and would mend things but I never felt quite right about these things. However, I decided to try to give this a serious try rather than just breaking up quickly in case I was overreacting.

However, we very recently broke up because I became ill and he began loading on pressure, telling me how "inconvenient" it was for him and "what a b*tch it was to him" that I could not do this or that because of being ill.

I won't go into the whole story but the straw that broke the camel's back was one night when I had him over for a visit. I passed out that night. Rather than helping me to the bed, etc., he never moved or did anything at all and instead began to talk about how he needed to get a sliver out of his toe and would I go find him some tweezers and a bandage. He wasn't the least bit concerned about me. That was a really good indication that hew as not the "good guy" he thought he was. ;)

The moral of this story is don't go by the label ("nice guy") but rather always test the contents and then decide if the advertisement is true. ;)

Signed,

Silken - Single Again but it's better than having a lousy boyfriend ;)hehe

P.S. How is this for being a winner... since we broke up he's now back pedalled and suggested we "take a break" because if I get well then he would like to date me again. :P omg Isn't that nice... wants to break up before Christmas because I am ill but wants me back later if I get better. Wow, what a nice guy. ;) hehe

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Posted on Fri, Dec 02, 2005 17:20

Well I just got back from Stateside (that's what us border-living Canadians call the U.S.) ;) heheheh and I am too pumped up to read the whole thread. I LOVE Christmas and I do love going Stateside for some lunch and shopping. ;)

Although I haven't read the entire thread by far, I will just say that the term "nice guy" is used much too generally to mean much to me. I have dated a few guys who called themselves this but weren't. This reminds me of one guy I dated briefly who used to tell me all the time how he hated fights and was non-violent but got into at least 3 fist fights a week it seemed. ;) In other words I'm saying that some guys portray themselves to be "nice" or "non-violent" etc. etc. but it is not really a true reflection of who they are, it is more about them wishing to identify themselves with a group they feel is getting treated unfairly. I'm not saying there aren't genuinely nice men out there, I'm sure there are, but you can't go on self-advertisement, you have to try spending some time with the man to find out if he is actually nice or just thinks he is. ;)

Hope I made sense. :)

silken



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Posted on Tue, Nov 08, 2005 20:23

Hey man, life is too short to worry over it. You will meet "her" it is someone else's loss, not yours if they overlook you. First perfect person stand up and say I. Ive learned the older we all get as well, the more important it is to LIKE the person your with more than just being ready to jump in the sack. Im not from England and my vocabulary is not as eloquent, but I'm not changing my simple country ways. I am who I am thats all I or you can be. My mother raised me right, life taught me the rest. When the lights are out, everyone is equal, whats inside counts the most. My .02$



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Posted on Mon, Nov 07, 2005 17:13

Hey there...it's not just a problem for the nice guys it's also a problem for the nice girls...especially for the bigger sized nice girls!!

I have the same problem here in Australia. I can get them easy enough but when they discover you're not a b*tch and are quite easy to get along with for some reason they panic!

I was having this discussion with my mother when I broke up with yet another guy (I thought this was the right one so was a little devastated at the time).

Unfortunately it seems dating is really a game and I for one am not good at playing games so I think I have opted out for a while and am happily single!!

Chin up there are lovely ladies who are trully looking for a good man!!

  


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Posted on Mon, Nov 07, 2005 17:10

I think all of the nice guys and nice gals are spread out in too many places. Lets start our own town and we will all move there and live happily ever after. That does happen in real life doesnt it?

  


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Posted on Sun, Nov 06, 2005 19:42

Nice guys are hard to come back. It is important that he treats me good, and once you have someone who treats you that way. Naughty boys are only interested in what they can get, not what they can do or give someone in a relationship.



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Posted on Sun, Nov 06, 2005 15:27

I think you're pretty cute! Great Smile! :o)



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Posted on Tue, Oct 25, 2005 18:48

Still in search of the the right one so niceness does count if they can show it." Actions speak louder than words"
Still in search of the the right one so niceness does count if they can show it." Actions speak louder than words"



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Posted on Tue, Oct 25, 2005 08:49

im always meeting really nice guys on these sites,they all mostly come from the USA, i might just pack up and go and live over there lol
im always meeting really nice guys on these sites,they all mostly come from the USA, i might just pack up and go and live over there lol



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Posted on Tue, Oct 25, 2005 04:30

i like to meet all kinds of people race is not an issue i like honesty just haveing a good time
i like to meet all kinds of people race is not an issue i like honesty just haveing a good time

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Posted on Tue, Oct 25, 2005 04:06

Welcome to the site Largeheart! Well, you have found the place for acceptance. Love is out there. It may be a little challenging to find sometimes, but never give up hope and always remember to smile... you never know who might be watching!
Welcome to the site Largeheart! Well, you have found the place for acceptance. Love is out there. It may be a little challenging to find sometimes, but never give up hope and always remember to smile... you never know who might be watching!



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Posted on Sun, Oct 23, 2005 11:53

I HAVE TO AGREE WITH THE CONSENSUS I DO LOOK FOR THE NICE GUYS YOU ARE HOT SO HON I THINK YOU HAVE BEEN REASSURED LOL SMOOCHES LOVE CANDY
I HAVE TO AGREE WITH THE CONSENSUS I DO LOOK FOR THE NICE GUYS YOU ARE HOT SO HON I THINK YOU HAVE BEEN REASSURED LOL SMOOCHES LOVE CANDY

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Posted on Sun, Oct 23, 2005 11:17

It's odd; as has been stated, we're all here looking for the same thing (friendship), people should realize that, of course, the people on this site aren't going to be Twiggy clones,and yet still I see posts from people saying they feel the reason they've had problems is because of their size.


Whatever happened to friendship? does it matter if your friend is an A-cup/300lb/green-hair/Classical music lover? (Not all at the same time, of course!)

The things that matter the most (at least to me) are the QUALITIES of the person, not their physical attributes.

Bottom line to everyone: Don't settle, you are WORTH IT, and if it takes a long time to find the right person to be with... just think about how long the time would feel if you realized all too late you were with the wrong person.


Chris
It's odd; as has been stated, we're all here looking for the same thing (friendship), people should realize that, of course, the people on this site aren't going to be Twiggy clones,and yet still I see posts from people saying they feel the reason they've had problems is because of their size.


Whatever happened to friendship? does it matter if your friend is an A-cup/300lb/green-hair/Classical music lover? (Not all at the same time, of course!)

The things that matter the most (at least to me) are the QUALITIES of the person, not their physical attributes.

Bottom line to everyone: Don't settle, you are WORTH IT, and if it takes a long time to find the right person to be with... just think about how long the time would feel if you realized all too late you were with the wrong person.


Chris

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Posted on Sun, Oct 16, 2005 18:18

As a child.. I was forced to be "nice".. as an adult.. I get to be just me