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Posted on Mon, Aug 22, 2005 16:09

The "nice" men I have met as of late seem to like women who use and abuse them. I have no tolerance at this point in my life for the men who whine and gripe about a woman who used and abused him and then left him after they gave them all their money, time, love, etc. He does not attract me, since he allows this type of woman in his life and he is not attractive to me if he is not attracted to women who try to be emotionally healthy, treat men with respect and expect respect from men.



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Posted on Sun, Aug 21, 2005 17:13

Did somebody open the window?
I can definitely feel a breath of fresh air in here........

  


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Posted on Sat, Aug 20, 2005 14:05

I've had several women say they were attracted to "bad boys." It wasn't a rejection of me, they just go for a different type. Although they are my friends, these women are usually "hotties" who follow fads and fashion to an extreme. I fyou are ignored by those kinds of women, good for you. Move on and look among women with healthy intellects and hearts... like here.



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Posted on Sat, Aug 20, 2005 02:54

I think of myself as a nice guy. I just fear women.

  


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Posted on Thu, Aug 18, 2005 10:20

The nice guys ? Where and when ? Dear if there were any nice and wonderful guys in KY or near I would have snatched them up and ran off. Send some to KY and I would glady appreciate it.



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Posted on Thu, Aug 18, 2005 09:43

"Why are all the nice guys overlooked?"

Sadly, I have asked myself this question many times over...

  


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Posted on Wed, Aug 17, 2005 13:57

I have to admit that Theophrastus makes a good point. I used to say the same thing about men and because I believed it, I subconsiously lived it. "Nice" men were repelled by me, while those who prey on lonely women, (ie; substance abusers, those who were emotionally vacant, etc,)were more than happy to seek me out. After my last bad break up, I decided to stop trying to find love until I had an idea of the kind of man that I wanted and until I decided that I was WORTHY of having that kind of love. It was a year to the month of my breakup with my previous boyfriend, that I met the man that I am in love with now. I didn't have to search long, nor did I have to go through dozens of profiles before we met.

So I do think that how we REALLY feel about ourself is what attracts the kind of people who we meet. I don't think that it is a conscious act, though. I do think that if we tell ourselves that we are worthy of love and are specific in what that means to us, we will find it.

Just my two cents worth.



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Posted on Wed, Aug 17, 2005 09:30

I certainly dont go out of my way to look for horrible people.. or guys with more drama than most daily soap operas... but as my mother says.. I just seem to attract them. Yep, if you are married and looking to lie and cheat.. or if you have to take more drugs than a pharmacy to get through your day... you will be attracted to me!!
But seriously, there are nice guys out there.... but even the nice ones usually have hang ups... :) Same with women... Dont think im pointing fingers at the men...
Perfection is a myth.... Im just looking for someone who I mesh with... that meshes with me.. :)



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Posted on Tue, Aug 16, 2005 14:57

Really? You've never had women tell you they like bad boys? I have heard it a lot, and end up a crying shoulder when things end badly.

BBW's, as a general group, don't tend to follow that trend, though. That is why I am here. I may be big, but I'm not slow.



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Posted on Tue, Aug 16, 2005 10:29

ship some to oklahoma.. please

  


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Posted on Wed, Aug 10, 2005 17:36

I agree...but we (women) have the same problem, the nice guys seem to overlook us as well...You're a "HOTTY" so I don't know why you would have a problem ;o)



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Posted on Wed, Aug 10, 2005 15:12

Are there Nice guys????



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Posted on Tue, Aug 09, 2005 22:12

Well, I don't know about anyone else but I think you are a cutie! I can't imagine anyone overlooking you. A cutie and a nice guy... just the combination most women ARE looking for! At least I hope they are.

  


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Posted on Tue, Aug 09, 2005 08:19

All I can say is it's too bad I'm old enough to be your mother! You have NOTHING, absolutely NOTHING to worry about! Thanks for your thoughts and for voicing your concerns. We all need to be encouraged from time to time!



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Posted on Tue, Aug 09, 2005 00:15

Glad to know some of the females still have some liking for the real men out there!



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Posted on Mon, Aug 08, 2005 18:41

Allupinem...nice guys are the best! Please don't feel discouraged. You're cute...hehe

Gordy...glad you feel that way!



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Posted on Mon, Aug 08, 2005 17:45

Allupinem, NorthernGordon ....

Believe me, if you guys weren't so far away, I would be *seriously* looking at you ...

  


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Posted on Mon, Aug 08, 2005 13:08

You're at the right place mi amigo, we don't get overlooked here!



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Posted on Mon, Aug 08, 2005 12:26

All,
Actually i found you very attractive. It is hard to pick a "nice" one from a pic and profile, so just keep plugging away and you will find the "one". Join us on the chat and maybe you will meet her sooner than later.
Kat , I couldn't agree more. The nice ones seem to pass me by , too.
Mae



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Posted on Mon, Aug 08, 2005 08:28

I for one don't overlook nice guys. I look only for nice guys. Unfortunately they are never interested in me.



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