I can honestly say that I havent had a guy go after me cause of my weight, and if they did, they didnt let on .... but I know a lot of guys who genuinley do love Larger gals and arent afraid to be seen with them, if anything are proud of it .... and thats a GREAT thing
For as long as I can remember, I have been put down because of my weight. My daughter's father even had the nerve to say, as he was walking out the door, "I'm not a camel jockey". Go figure. It was just fine the day before. Oh well. I've had a real hard time getting close to anyone else since then. Sometimes the family doesn't help (of course I'm the only one with the extra weight). And I don't get invited to a lot of things because of it. Which is their lose, not mine. I want to lose a little, but not a whole lot. I've been like this my whole life. It's WHO I AM!! I am still working on being comfortable with it, and letting anyone in. It's really hard after being put down for as long as I have. I haven't found too many men in my area that like larger women. They look and sneer, and make little comments under their breath, just loud enough for you to hear. I am who I am. And I'm not going to change for anyone. My brother got married a little over a month ago...Guess who isn't in any of the wedding photos???
My whole life I have always liked larger women. I now know that it is not simply a fetish of some kind, but a geuine(?) attraction. I'll admit that it is a physical attraction, but once you get to know someone their appearence becomes secondary. At any rate, I'm comfortable with it. I know what I like and that will never change.
I couldn't sleep last night and was "forced" to watch Adam Carolla's new show on the Comedy Channel. He was doing a "bit" on his "definitions" of different phrases. One of them was something like "If a woman says she's sensual in a personal ad, it means she's fat." He meant it as a putdown (of course), but I think it's pretty telling that even men who dislike us realize our potential for sensuality tends to exceed that of our skinny counterparts. Just a thought.
Ny men are a little rough on plus size women also..they want to see these large,luscious breats and touch all night long in the bedroom but always want to be seen out with the little skinny "trophies" at dinner..have ya ever seen a little skinny woman eat?? I've had my share of "I know that guy over there from work,lets not go into the movies yet..." or "you're the largest woman I have ever been in bed with" or "you're not going to eat all that,are you?"(re:a Denny's main meal,not a buffet)I have accepted the fact that I am plus size but my family gets quit concerned about it.I've run the gauntlet on diets (remember the liquid protein diet? Can you spell yo-yo?)I just want to be loved,cherished and have someone anxious to hurry home @ the end of their day to spend some quality time with me,not just a video and a little presumed sack time and back out the door!No Shallow Hals allowed here!!! So,I rarely date...hmmm,go figure!
Topic: Men love BBW's 'cuz we feel SOOOO good. And we're freakin' gorgeous. They love us all over the world. It's North American, anglo-saxon society that's kinked!
True enough. My last boyfriend (I was his first bbw)was always amazed and so delighted when he could put his weight on me without either squishing me or being impaled on one of my hip bones. We do feel great, and I notice in talking to my thin friends how much more sensual I am than they are...imagine me, hating my big old behind and jiggly legs and I love my body more than my size 6 friends love theirs!
I love the theory of large women have to put up with more scrutiny (my words) and feel the judgement of this society against the 'large' among them. It's a bit daunting to be surrounded by more of yourself when you're not used to it. Sometimes I look behind to see who's following so closely behind me...oh - it's just me! Gives you a chance to watch, since no one seeks you out to talk or flirt, like they did when you were sleeker. It's a fact, that we are brought up to see beauty in the thinner person. Takes a real mench to get it right. And why is chocolate so damn appealing?! Do you think using honey on a "friend" is a no-no on a low carb diet? So many questions...great, now I'm hungry!
Not being much of a poetic person, what else can be said then what has already been said, but being the romantic that I am I have no problem repeating it over, and over,, and over again!!!
A larger woman fills up my life, most likely because of her honesty and whole hearted devotion. I have not dated since the death of my wife and this is the first I have eveery discussed it at all. In the seven years we were married and as we had children my wife became larger and larger. Some men would have a problem with this. I actually became more and more physically attracted to her. She always wondered why.... I suppose that we are all made up from the experiences we have in this life. As a result the slanted and often painful experiences many larger people go through that this makes them more strong, more understanding, more .... many things. All of this I find attractive!!!
I guess that is as best as I can put it.
Okay this will probably not get thru to be posted but...
In my experience.. the men I meet are only after bbw because they think we are "easy".. no one eles would want us..
Now don't be nasty,,I don't think this at all.. but amost every man I meet wants to have "fun" but not date and spend quality time with me....I give up!
I have been on this site for a short time and it's been like a breath of fresh air! Thank you ALL for your honesty, candor and good humor! I finally feel that there is hope; that there will be a man out there who can SEE the ENTIRE package of ME, not just the "wrapping" as someone else said. In fact, it's pretty amazing to me that there are men out there who will like the "wrapping" too. I have always known that inside I have lots to offer; finally I believe someone might actually see me and say "I want some of THAT"! LOL!
Keep the responses to this post coming! I love how everyone is so supportive of everyone else!
I think this all goes back to 'survival of the species' back in 'cave-man' days. Just as men are 'inclined' to spread as much of their 'seed' as possible so as to ensure a continuation of the human race, I also think they are really genetically disposed to look at women and think, 'there's one that doesn't look like a stick, they know how to get food, they'll be able to carry and support children', just as women are 'inclined' to look for the strongest hunter to provide the food.
This is just a theory/my opinion, so I could be totally wrong :)
I just HAD to "weigh" in on this one... "men" who are rude enough to simply tell a woman that she is too fat, big, ugly, or skinny have a much deeper problem. Another question might have to do with why are they dating, seeing, or Married to the women they think are so terrible? The root of their problem quite likely has to do with their own self-esteem. You might want to consider things like what he might feel is missing in his life, is he having problems "functioning", there are a host of other causes for his rudeness. Of course, he could just be a jerk. Does he even realize how he hurts you? You are a beautiful woman and maybe his being a jerk is some sort of defense mechanism to enable him to deal with seeing you get attention from other men.
I am attracted to the face more than the body. Also, the personality plays a big role in it too.
I would rather make love to a large woman with a great personality than a model with none at all. I also find that large women are definately more affectionate and will accept affection in return.