Ok people.. Im new here.. Im Lisa.. but you guys are funny.. I am pretty chunky and my boyfriend is a bean pole.. lol which looks funny but oh well who cares.. I am one who does not personally really care what someone else thinks.. they dont like how i look, then look away.. lol i am not there to please them.. nor am i worried about any of the stupid rude comments they make because trust me i can make one a thousand times worse but that would sink me to their level.. so blah on them.. better thngs to do in my life. As far as being attracted to one particular type of body, I really cant say that i am. I didnt like that my boyfriend was so skinny when we first got together but we have grown so much together and the more i come to love him the more i love his body and everything about it. So i dunno, life is weird and it will eventually turn out ok so just laugh at dumb people cuz they are pitiful
I don't see anything wrong with the two posts either. Nothing degrading about them in the least. I too am appreciative that there are men who like a "handful". It's the guys that are just downright sick about it that turn me off.
Everyone will find that they are mostly attracted to certain types of bodies. For some men in particular they really find the curves appealing and the softness of the body sensual.
It's not superficial to be attracted to large or thin people. It's superficial when you can't see past the outside to see the real person inside and in truth large or small everyone wants to be accepted and desired for who they are inside. Not for how they look.
Remember love looks not with the eyes but with the heart.
MrGW.... I personally do not find the previous two posters comments as derrogatory or demeaning. They are being honest in stating why they like big women. Which if you are honest about it, that is typically the reason most men do like larger women. There is nothing wrong with a man wanting a larger woman because she is soft or has lots of curves or lots of surface to love.... it is just what they like. And I for one am glad there are plenty of men who do like the more cushin for the pushin... because that's me! So I am personally not offended in the least by their opinions or comments.
Geez, with posts like the two which are previous to this one it's no wonder that a lot of women think that men are scum. I just hope that all of the women here don't judge myself and other men by the "standards" set by the two previous posts in this thread. This is a place to share constructive ideas.
kewannap write: I too have fought with my weight all my life... or so I thought. I have always thought of myself as being fat, even in high school. Funny thing is that I recently pulled out my yearbook and photo albums and really looked at myself back then. Guess what? I WASN'T FAT! My 2nd husband totally humiliated me saying that he loved me for who I was on the inside but that he was disgusted by my body. I didn't understand because I was this size when we met and got married. It totally devastated me and it has taken me a while to feel s e=x=y again. But now.... I have realized that s_e_x_y is an attitude... and baby... I've got plenty of that! I no longer let any man put me down. I am a beautiful person.... inside AND out! If he doesn't like it, then he can go on down the road!
Oh, I've been there. I once had my heart totally broken by a man who left me because, in his own words, "I would never lose weight". Strange thing to say since I weighed that much when he met me.... hmmmm..... what's with these guys like that?
Anyway, now I'm older and wiser and as far as I'm concerned, men like him can kiss my big, beautiful behind!
Why do men love more generous sixed ladies ? I can only speak for myself, and in my case its because the thought of having all that surface area to caress ... all soft and no bony bits....and my first experience was with a very beautiful big lady who was big all over in personality, generosity, and sexuality.. thats probably fixed my attitude since... the thin ones are not a turn on..
All you generous ladies out there .. be who you are !!
Being a large lady myself find that men love us large women because we know how to treat a man with repect just as we like to be treated in return.Ive been big all my life and it doesnt stop me from doing anything and i mean anything lol
I too have fought with my weight all my life... or so I thought. I have always thought of myself as being fat, even in high school. Funny thing is that I recently pulled out my yearbook and photo albums and really looked at myself back then. Guess what? I WASN'T FAT! My 2nd husband totally humiliated me saying that he loved me for who I was on the inside but that he was disgusted by my body. I didn't understand because I was this size when we met and got married. It totally devastated me and it has taken me a while to feel s
e=x=y again. But now.... I have realized that s_e_x_y is an attitude... and baby... I've got plenty of that! I no longer let any man put me down. I am a beautiful person.... inside AND out! If he doesn't like it, then he can go on down the road!
Sooo love the fun and giggles on this subject, and I am gonna add my bit!
My late hubby adored the way I looked, and felt, and when I was ready to start thinking about dating again, several years later...I did think, oh heavens, I am gonna struggle to find a fella who fancies me!
BUT...at the end of the day, if you are honest, genuine, have a sense of humour, and things to talk about..It realy doesnt matter what size you are.
Yes, of course there are guys who like their ladies larger...Thank heavens!
If i get a wink, that says nothing but...have you any naked pics...in my wicked moments I am tempted to take one and send!!!!
But I dont...coz its obvious that tis only one thing they are after.
Might give em a shock though!!!!
Just be honest, genuine, and I reckon there is someone out there for everyone
My Hubby just kept it simple and said..babe, its just more to love, more to explore, more to touch!
I happy with that thought too!
eyesoblue04 write: For as long as I can remember, I have been put down because of my weight.
I know the feeling. I'm the same way, I feel judged my whole life because of my size. Yes, it does limit me in some things because I'm not comfortable with myself.. just waiting for the next remark. My sister is also large, but she doesn't care what people say and after awhile, people just accept her... I wish I was like that, but I'm not. She tells me all the time to just do what I like to do and don't even think about what people are thinking or saying... that's her personality, not mine.
Seems the men I meet are either looking just for a s@x partner or so disgusting (that is not a size... it's hygeine thing) that I can't imagine being with them.