I, for one, think it's a great idea. Not responding to a wink is one thing. They just weren't interested and I'm adult enough to realize that. Leading someone on and telling them what they thing they want to hear, is entirely different. True enough, they might be feeling it at the time they say it, but they need to make sure before they say it, that they aren't going to have any regrets in the near future. That's playing with people's emotions and that just not cool. When we start speaking from the heart, we need to be careful of what we say. On the other hand, I have had personal contact a guy on this site, who's very active on the message boards and comes acrossed as a dear sweetheart, but come to find out after 6 mos (off and on) the "sweet nothings" he was telling me in the beginning was just that....sweet "nothings". Unfortunately now, if I say anything about it, it's going to sound like I'm the jaded lover. One has to think, since he's all nicey-nice and presents himself as a real gem, who's everyone going to believe? It's too lengthy to go into here so I'll keep my mouth shut on the board, but I have much to say if anyone cares to hear. Think y*h00 if you want to chat.
You seem like one of the most together men I've ever heard of online, but you are a rare gem my dear! I'm not saying all men are scum, anymore than I would say all women are trollups, but online you can HIDE a whole lot more than you may in a face to face scenario.
I will say this, and a lot of the women hit the nail on the head here...just because you 'warn' folks about someone being a bit underhanded, doesn't mean they will listen or get it. And speaking from personal experience I met someone and he was 'wonderful' until all his little lies started to unwind.
Long story short, while he was seeing me...exclusively as he convinced me, I find out that he got another woman pregnant. Shock was a good way to describe the situation because I fell for this man in a big way, and I was 'warned' about him but chose to give him the benefit of the doubt.
I met this lively fellah online. I didn't listen to the warning from a woman I knew that also met him, but I found out after the fact that she was right and I was so wrong about him. I'm not saying I wouldn't have met him, regardless, but I should have been more open minded. I just figured she was spurned and trying to get even with him.
WE all have to make decisions, but I would rather have a 'friendly' heads up about a person than to go in completely blind. But all of this is a personal decision. I still date and enjoy the company of men, I just air on the side of caution and dont' take everything they say as gospel. Just my two cents for what it is worth.
I agree... I do not understand men that lead a woman on and she just wonders what went wrong or if something happened to him etc.
I have learned over the years he is just not that into me if he stops calling and I refuse to let a man twist my emotions wondering about it.
Get the book .. He is just not that into you" .. it is a great eye opened and written by a man for women to understand the male gender..
As far as the other posts about informing other gals of men who cheat , lie or are jerks.. Go for it.. I think that is great.. I am sick of lying men who just want to get you in bed and then take off never to be heard from again..
I have to agree here, too. I've only been talking to one guy on here, who seemed very sweet until he didn't call me for over a week. Still, I believe that he is just exausted from working 12-14 hours in the horrid heat down there. I'm still worried sick that he is in a hospital or dead, because he has been so good about phone calls before. I hope I hear from him on the weekend, or I will really be worried sick. (Even more than I am already!) I won't put his name up as some sort of bad person, because he's never done anything bad to me, but it would be interesting to see if he was talking to anyone else and broke their hearts. I hope not. I tend to believe the best of everyone. Still, I'd like to know.
Laura *with hope still in her heart*
Who decides which people get badmouthed? What are you using to judge by? If somebody is being rude and obnoxiuos, report them. If somebody is just not answering your mail or winks, think it over. Most of you out there are supposed to be adults and to know when to turn the other cheek. It's mind over matter. You don't mind because they don't matter. Why let people bring you down to their level. Some people are idiots because they know they can annoy someone or get attention. If they see they can't get a rise out of you, it ruins their fun. But again, if they are being rude and abusive, report thyem to the site itself and if need be maybe get the law involved.
Classy, that is a novel idea, provided it's not a witch hunt. I believe that some of us have met certain people we just didn't click with, but that doesn't mean they are unsavory characters.
I have met one person, and though he's a member here, I didn't meet him off of this site. He is, in my opinion, a person who advertises himself falsely but because he keeps his story the same, is believable. He's from the RI area, and his handle is ROMAD, or something to that affect.
I also had an odd encounter, via emails with another man from this site, and though he upset me, he did apologize, eventually for being way out of line. I won't mention his name, but if any ladies from the Massachusetts area wish to get in touch with me, email me. My name speaks for itself, "Yeah whooooo"!
WE all can have differences of opinions etc, yet blow me off because of an alleged death in the family, but make time to wink women here. I mean if you arent' interested, be man or woman enough to say so, but don't lie and make up bogus stories. I am a big gal but I'm hardly ignorant.
I think it's good to share the positive and negative experiences, because even while being as careful as you can getting to know someone, there is still no guarantee you are getting honesty and integrity from the party you engage in conversation with.