LOL..Just think of all the categories we could come up with!-Make them earn points to get on the good list! A board of directors could review them LOL The directors ,of course being women who've been burned!
I am new to this -but here's my opinion for whatever it's worth: Why not start a list for all the WORTHWHILE guys out there?? A list of jerks would start up alot of flack for sure.- Oh and let me add that I would be willing to offer my services to check out any potential candidates for that list-Just looking to serve my community...LOL
I'd like to add...if one person says something about another person, one could chalk that up to just bad feelings. If 2 people say the same thing, could give one a reason to pause. If 3 people say the same thing, that's a pattern. There's too many idiots out there as it is and I for one don't have the time to weed through the BS. Any help that someone wants to give me, I'll take it. You read about the crap all the time where someone has taken 10, 12 men or women for a ride, and I'm not talking about a long, leisurely ride in the country in a convertable. If someone wants to take the time to inform others about someone, I'll read it and MAKE MY OWN DECISION. I have no one to blame but myself then if something goes wrong.
I, for one, think it's a great idea. Not responding to a wink is one thing. They just weren't interested and I'm adult enough to realize that. Leading someone on and telling them what they thing they want to hear, is entirely different. True enough, they might be feeling it at the time they say it, but they need to make sure before they say it, that they aren't going to have any regrets in the near future. That's playing with people's emotions and that just not cool. When we start speaking from the heart, we need to be careful of what we say. On the other hand, I have had personal contact a guy on this site, who's very active on the message boards and comes acrossed as a dear sweetheart, but come to find out after 6 mos (off and on) the "sweet nothings" he was telling me in the beginning was just that....sweet "nothings". Unfortunately now, if I say anything about it, it's going to sound like I'm the jaded lover. One has to think, since he's all nicey-nice and presents himself as a real gem, who's everyone going to believe? It's too lengthy to go into here so I'll keep my mouth shut on the board, but I have much to say if anyone cares to hear. Think y*h00 if you want to chat.
I agree... I do not understand men that lead a woman on and she just wonders what went wrong or if something happened to him etc.
I have learned over the years he is just not that into me if he stops calling and I refuse to let a man twist my emotions wondering about it.
Get the book .. He is just not that into you" .. it is a great eye opened and written by a man for women to understand the male gender..
As far as the other posts about informing other gals of men who cheat , lie or are jerks.. Go for it.. I think that is great.. I am sick of lying men who just want to get you in bed and then take off never to be heard from again..
I have to agree here, too. I've only been talking to one guy on here, who seemed very sweet until he didn't call me for over a week. Still, I believe that he is just exausted from working 12-14 hours in the horrid heat down there. I'm still worried sick that he is in a hospital or dead, because he has been so good about phone calls before. I hope I hear from him on the weekend, or I will really be worried sick. (Even more than I am already!) I won't put his name up as some sort of bad person, because he's never done anything bad to me, but it would be interesting to see if he was talking to anyone else and broke their hearts. I hope not. I tend to believe the best of everyone. Still, I'd like to know.
Laura *with hope still in her heart*
Who decides which people get badmouthed? What are you using to judge by? If somebody is being rude and obnoxiuos, report them. If somebody is just not answering your mail or winks, think it over. Most of you out there are supposed to be adults and to know when to turn the other cheek. It's mind over matter. You don't mind because they don't matter. Why let people bring you down to their level. Some people are idiots because they know they can annoy someone or get attention. If they see they can't get a rise out of you, it ruins their fun. But again, if they are being rude and abusive, report thyem to the site itself and if need be maybe get the law involved.