within a matter of weeks I found someone worthwhile. I have come accross a few other very good freinds as well. Even if you aren't looking for a relationship, it is extremely possible to find one or a really good friend at the very least. Nice to have somewhere that the bbw's and bhm's can go and be appreciated. :o)~

I have signed up a short time ago and was encouraged by my sons. It is frightening even for a man to meet like this. My wife was 5'2" and over 300 lbs. Size should not matter. It is the comfort gained with each other. I am looking forward to meeting someone who will be my second partner in life. I enjoy reading all the posts.

I have been meeting folks online since 1995. There is no perfect formula...it depends on the man and the woman. The screening process is a huge pain in the @ss but totally worth it. I even have access to criminal and dps websites and am not shy about looking people up to make sure I'm not being played. I have caught more married men that way. I highly recommend (if you're in the states) a subscription to publicdata d o t com as you can look up all of that stuff there. It should assist with the screening process immensely. I know people recommend chatting for a month or more before meeting in person but with my new man, we e-mailed each other for one full day, chatted for one full day and then couldn't help ourselves and met that second day and have been inseperable ever since. He's different, though. They're not all jerks...I promise. The right one is out there for you. If I found mine, you'll find yours. And please do yourself a favor and read "He's Just Not That Into You" to avoid the waste of time that is trying to decipher the actions and thoughts of men. It will help you immensely. :)

Try this one on for size as a way of "weeding out"....

Before ever agreeing to meet face to face... have a long phone conversation and totally lay out what your expectations are.

They will either like you more for your forthrightness, or go running and never contact you again. Either way, you come out ahead!! *smile*

Thanks for asking Jenny, I have no idea. I know that I have dropped winks or messages to ladies, and then I'm told that they have no interest in just talking or meeting with someone over the internet, not face to face. Without using a dictionary, I would say cyber dating is a couple talking just over the internet and falling in "like" with each other. You declare your love, yada, whatever, and then before you know it you have all these little chips running around. I think what I was trying to do was to maybe remind ALL people, not just the dames, to make sure you fill in the profile the way you want. If all you want is hot action, say so and don't waste peoples time that don't interest you. I have some people that I just write to and shoot the feces. Then there are a few ladies, and I do mean LADIES, that want to hear what we would do if we were together.

FYI-For those of you not into cyberdating or chatting, you might want to delete the "pen pals" line from your profiles. There have been other posts where ladies get all bent because they say guys don't read the profiles, they just look at the pictures, so just in case some "crazy" guy gets on this site and ACTUALLY READS a profile, make sure it says what you want.

jennygirl1 I totally agree with you. I have tons of guys email me, but I have only been on 2 dates in the last few months. it seems that the men who contact me are just intrested in cyber dating and chatting not atcuallt meeting for a date. Does anyone have any pointers.

Hey jenny... the "weeding" process may be time consuming but when it comes to protecting your life and trying to make sure you find Mr Right... It's worth it.
I think we all have our bad days. I have been alone for 6 yrs now and there are days when my self esteem is really shot; then I have to think... thats ok... the right one will come along one day.. and when he does I'm gonna rock his world! I hope he has good insurance too... hahaha

That is so cool. I know everyone of us out here... male and female alike have to be very careful when we do decide to meet up with someone from the net. I have met a few people from my paltalk chats and they have all been awesome. One was a family from New jersey that came to visit me when I lived in Georgia... they were so sweet. The woman has since passed away but I am so glad I got to meet her ... she was a really neat lady. The other was a guy from Wisconsin... he was totally cool. Thanks to him.. I got my first real vacation and my first plane ride. I have to say Summerfest in Milwaukee was AWESOME!!.. whats even better... there were no strings attached. A perfect gentleman. I met one weirdo... we wont even discuss that... LOL. However, I think if we all use common sense and take our time to weed through the garden... we might just find our rose. :-)

Good for you... I'm glad to hear you have had wonderful success here.

I too have met some really wonderful people. While some meetings end up being just like "ships passing in the night"... still others have become life long friends for certain.

Happy dateing !!!