Love,

I can assure you, just after I wrote that post some fellow sent me an instant message..and I'm not going to repeat what he asked me, but I assure you it was not what I would start a conversation off with.

Instead of adding him to a jerk list lol...I just reported him and the instant message to Largefriends so they can deal with him and hopefully revoke his priviledge to use this site. I joined this site hoping to make some chat friends or perhaps meet Mr Special.

Now, I just read the posts and reply when I feel so inclined. I've even blocked my profile because the caliber of emails I've been getting just aren't worth the aggravation. It's sad that so many join these 'dating' services just looking for a quick encounter.

If I need a walking partner..married or not...you can find me looking at Curves :) And when I've gone on long walks, typically I'd ask my sister or girlfriend to be my walking partner..cuz trying to keep up with a man's stride is a lot of work for a short gal such as myself.

He may be a cad, or whatever,BUT he sure got alot of you ladies riled and wrting!!LOL

Mr GW...Handsome you may be, but get REAL! If you were married, and I would presume you are not, would you want your wife looking for an excercise partner on a 'dating site'? What happened to just going to the gym or walking in the park and meeting folks outside of the internet?

I would be suspicious of anyone whose married and can't find a 'friend' to walk with, besides his mate, and feels the need to use the web to go looking. I mean I'm not disgruntled..I'm being realistic...and I think his intial "profile' was more honest than his "updated" one.

I'm sure there are many reasons why his wife may or may not be able to walk with him, and I believe married folks can have friends in both genders, but I would think looking at home or using a gym would make more sense...if walking and getting in shape is all he has on his mind.

Both genders have made dating a 'virtual nightmare' at times, but if I had to base my opinions of men solely on how I've been treated via instant messages, emails and eventual dates, I'd sign myself up in the local convent. I'm not suggesting ALL men are hound dogs, but a lot USE these sights to prey on women of low self esteem.

Shame the dumb ones keep hounding me....and I just tell em where to go..such a shame they HAVE NO CLUE HOW TO FOLLOW DIRECTIONS. And I've said it before and I'll say it again...if it looks like a duck, walks like a duck and sounds like a duck..I bet it's a duck. I rather air on the side of caution and reason than believe everything I read on a profile.

Perhaps if men and women more clearly defined their ideas of FUN and CASUAL dating, than women wouldn't be so jaded and men would be better understood.

Just my opinion though.

Well, this thread (and another one on here) have made me a believer in Male PMS! Gee whiz guys.... tiredguy ASKED for our OPINION and we gave it.... it just proves that men and women see things totally different. If you don't want to hear our opinion, the for pete's sake DON'T ASK FOR IT! I was not critical in my post... I stated how I interrupted what I read. I am not a disgruntled woman... I am just a woman with an opinion. I think someone needs to relieve a little tension if ya know what I mean... geez!

I just read all the comments. Now, its not just the women that are suspicious. If a woman had posted that kind of ad.. men would have been suspicious too. I would think so anyway.
However, you asked them for their honest opinions... When they gave them... you came back in a "poor me" attitude. And then "tried" to make them feel guilty for assuming what the ad actually implied. I hate guilt trips!
if you dont want peopel to be suspicious then dont write anything that sounds suspicious.
If you dont want honest opinions... dont ask for them.
And in all honesty... MALE or FEMALE... when a person specifies that they ONLY want a person of the opposite gender and then ads romantic or sexual innuendos...then it is only natural for people to become suspicious or think it is an advertisement for a "booty call".
if it looks like a duc, walks like a duck, and acts like a duck... its a DUCK! :-)

tireguy.... I just went back and reread your profile after you said you fixed the wording and that is MUCH better. I have noticed that the site has been very slow the past few days in posting the actual comments so I think the other ladies were also basing their comments on your original profile, not the corrected one. Please do not be upset. You asked for our opinions and we gave them. I hope you do find an excercise partner... but if you don't mind, can I ask why you are specific about it being a female workout partner.... why not search for a man as a workout buddy? just wondering

I agree, the "maried" status is a turn off to some women on this site. It seems we are more interested in a long term relationship, not "friends with benefits".

To me you are wanting a "friend with benefits" that your wife knows nothing about ....

Well, my suggestion would be to join a gym. * smile * I don't think you are very clear in what you are looking for and I hardly think your wife would be okay with you taking someone, other than herself, to a movie and out for drinks.

Hugs are a nice thing, but why not hug your wife...family pet or relatives? I have a lot of male and female friends, but only my very close and personal friends I have known for years, are those who'd I'd feel most comfortable hugging.

I'm not suggesting that married people can't have friends of the same or opposite gender, but if my husband told me he was joining a 'dating' site looking for a walking partner I'd be very skeptical. I dunno...perhaps I just am not as trusting of people as I should be or could be. C'est la vie!

I agree with Joy.... kinda sounds like you are wanting more than just friendship. I personally wouldn't answer your ad if I lived closer. It's one thing for a married man to have a female penpal/chatbuddy (WITH his wife's approval that is) but it is a totally different thing to want another woman to spend "time" with. I think there's a specific "muscle" you're looking to excercise... just MY opinion.... that and a nickel will get you a nickel!

Personally I think you contradict yourself by stating you want an exercise partner to walk with you so you can live longer. That's great and nothing wrong with that however you then go on to say it must be a female, you want to watch movies, go out for drinks, share your day and hug lots and lots...hmmmmm...just sends a mixed message in my mind.