do you think its sad that i am 21 and never been on a date. i have had boyfriends and one night stands but have never even been asked on a date . am i the only one??????

No youre not the only one!!!
I myself has been in youre shoes but havent been on a date. I think that the "date" term is a little bit overrated... what do you think Saintly???

Exactly! So, when she said she's had boyfriends... I figured she gets all of that. Not so much with the one night stands, but boyfriends go out, hold hands, and take their girlfriends out places. Maybe I'm mistaken or maybe things are just different here, but if she's had boyfriendS (plural) then I'm pretty sure she's got all of that "mushy stuff" as you call it.

That being said, the fact that she wants more from a guy who's not her boyfriend, just sounds like a free night out.

Thats not always true. We are girls and girls love all that mushy stuff. A movie, diner, a drink, holding hands and just knowing that you are both there because of the other one.
Not because you dont want to sit at home but have no money to do anything so you get some s*cker to pay for it. Ill be honest that comment was just rude.

Ummmm, what's so wrong with having boyfriends but not having dates? Sounds like you just want free nights out.

I don't think it's bad I am 24 and I never had a boyfriend nor have I been on a date and on top of all of it I am a virgin (by choice I might add).

I went to a small private catholic high school and always had trouble asking out girls. I was popular, but heavy and spent too much time and energy thinking about sex, not just having fun dating and flirting,etc.
I went on a few dates in college, but didn't even lose my virginity till I was 27. I still have had very few dates, but hope to change that!

This is the first time I have been on this website and i thought I was the only one who was 22 and never been kissed. Although it sucks, it feels a little better not to be alone. But i guess as everyone says......when its supposed to happen it will happen!

I am 21, and have only been on a date once, and still have no clue if it was something I enjoyed or not. All I know is the guy wasn't who I thought he was, even though it wasn't all bad......

I'm 37 and i have been to several dates that I regret, actually 99% of them, and if I could go back in time I would probably prefer to be like you ... The problem is that our romantic side tends to imagine that dates are all great, but the truth,is that... some times after you have dated a while... you think that maybe dating is not so wonderfull after all...

i'm 25 and never been on a proper date as in met someone abnd asked them out to get to know them and all that stuff so dont worry hun, as if i live near you or LadyShyness, i'd be knocking on your doors to go out with you.

I had my first date and kiss at the age of 22. I wish I had not had the kiss with the guy I did but the date was one of the best. Cant beat San Clemente in the summer time.

Awww dont feel bad. Let me tell you something, i'm 22 and have never been on a date and never had my first kiss, so just know that you dont have to worry alone

Hi Saintly
how are you? would you like to chat sometime

Hi Saintly thanks for your wink, i would like to get to know you

I didn't have a date until I was in college, and I only had 2-3 dates then. So it's not THAT unusual to be dateless at 21.

But you stated that you've had boyfriends and sex, but no dates. That is unusual.

DATE? Does anyone even use that word anymore? But if you want to use that word but bring it to an up to date context, going out somewhere (or even just going to or him coming over to your place) and enjoying one anothers company and then wanting to see one another again is a 'date'.

I was 23 and never had a date... now I'm 24 and had 2 dates. No boyfriend ever though. Don't feel to bad, your not alone.

I was 20 and had never been on a date (assuming you mean romantically, of course) until around August last year, and even then there was no mention of our "outings" being dates. This guy was 27 when we first started 'seeing' each other.
Guys don't seem to realise what they're missing out on until they're above the age of 25, I've found most (note the most, I don't mean any offence to the guys on here, you're all sweet ... well, so far anyway, heh) guys, in my (rather limited due to where I grew up) experience, under that age will look at girls like us and say "Not likely!" based simply on appearances and current popular image. There are guys out there that look beyond image, it's just that at our age and taking into account the ages of most people girls our age hang around with (most of my friends are within the 19-23 bracket), they're few and far between.
Hang in there, get chatting with some of the guys on here (none that I've spoken with have bitten ... yet!), and I'm sure you won't be dateless much longer *hug*

at 21 dont worry hun, when u are maybe 81 and still never been on a date thats when u shud start worrying lol. enjoy yr freedom right now, cos one day u will wish u had it again lol
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