Hi all... Just wanted to get your input on this subject. Why is it that men...and women for that matter, idealize someone that they happen to see a pic of online. You write that you are of a large size, yet they are actually looking for someone much less than large. You meet, in person, and have a nice time, exchange a short but sweet kiss goodnight, and never hear from them again. Myself, I am upfront and honest about my likes, dislikes as well as my size. If people are not interested, they can and should move on, rather than have tunnel vision and blank out the fact that you are of a larger size. It is because it is all subjective? How do you make this all clear, without having to publically state your weight or bra size.... or your pp size...? lol No, I don't have a pp, I just thought that I might also represent the male counter part. I have never been shy about meeting someone in person I am, however careful. But come on.... state what you are looking for, and if "we" happen to meet, and you are not interested.... Heck, I am an adult.... just tell me. Any takers on this subject?

Hello young lady I realy like your profile I'm in Pennsylvania area if I'm not to far away give a holla pluck13

I tend to agree with the idea that people look at a pic and focus on what attracts them the most and tend to forget there are other parts connected. I know I am a bigger person, but I don't let that stop me from being me. I know I am not a toothpick, but I still am sexy in my own way. All of us bigger women need to realize that. We are sexy and there are men (and women for those who swing that way) that appreciate women as they are supposed to be appreciated. Size shouldnt matter because in 20 years.. who's to say you will look the same. It should be about communication and compatibility and companionship. Everyone is going to get old one day, find someone you are able to talk to on a daily basis rather than "oh they are hot!"

Yes it is so true that the letters ... BBW, SSBBW or whatever do mean different things to different people... I use the SSBBW for super sized BBW while I saw another on here say she used it to indicate smaller sized BBW but I do believe in making sure anyone I hear from understands exactly what I am trying to tell them....... I state in the very first email to anyone I write that I am a big girl (ok I am flattering myself by saying girl lol) and that I am bigger than Barbie plus 40 lbs so they will get the general idea....... and most do..... they either write back that it is fine or I never hear from them again and that is fine too....

..... and for the record I agree with everyone that Music is beautiful and I love the way she put her feelings because I agree 100% if someone does not like my wrapping that is ok.... because some day I will find the one that does and he will be happy with the inside as well........ I may not be beautiful but I am nice and I do have a lot to offer the rite guy........

Best to all......... smiles, me

Very very well put!!

Very well put, NaughtybutNice!

I think that perhaps part of the problem is that people tend to look at a picture and either focus on certain parts of it, or idealize parts of it, and then create an image in their minds about the person, one which, invariably, the other person cannot meet, because (speaking from experience) people tend to focus on things that don't matter, rather than the things that do; let's face it, looks change with time, but what makes a person worth getting to know shouldn't be changed by a few gray hairs or a few wrinkles.

Maybe it's not so much that they're against dating someone their size. Perhaps it's as simple as just being attracted to someone of a smaller size. That would seem a bit more feasible to be, but I do take into account that your perspective on it is quite valid also.

I know this is strange coming from me.... but Music... I don't think he meant it as a slam. You are beautiful and young looking and a truely wonderful human being. I am trying really hard to understand Theo's sense of humor.... man it is making my head hurt! now where did I put that bottle of aspirin? Have a wonderful day!

Only you can turn a compliment into an slam.

I wouldn't say you looked 30 but you do look good for your age Musicnut. But then a lot of BBWs age very well. An ex used to say that it was the flab flatenning out the wrinkles lol

No, I don't look younger, but it's so sweet of you to encourage me! You all are sweethearts!

Sigh** I wish that was a stat that you have to give, too.

BTW what a cutie you are.....

ok..so i am very new to this...but can i tell you...i agree with the few girls who said that you are beautiful!!! and wow...i look older than you do..my god! You know..if people don't like the your wrapping..i mean really..they are either blind or slow..sad to say. stand up and be proud of who you are what your wrapping looks like!!!! I really feel for those who don't take the time to look... :)

WOW! Thanks!

I think some people put a standard profile on EVERY dating site..no matter what it is. Just a matter of being to unmotivated to upgrade or alter present profile to fit the dating site.

Just my view...

First of all, I agree; if you're using *THIS* website, it should be clear that size is not a question that *should* matter; after all, largefriends prety much sums it up.However, one thing that needs be kept in mind is the fact that people often have different definitions of what large is (I recall 25 years ago when my girlfriend who was 5'6" and 170lbs; I was razzed for liking her; some of the comments were downright cruel. Times HAVE changed though... but I bet it still hurts having your feet run over! *grin*

My bet would be that the webmaster/owner(s) has left that option available for those who are not at all interested in BBW / BHM as partner(s) or date(s).

No doubt, as with persons of various colours; there are those who don't prefer their own body type.

Personally, the site name says it all. "LargeFriends".

Frankly I got tired of other sites where I stated clearly in my profile that I am BBW and still had those who liked 'em "skinny" (which, truly, is subjective)

As for how much anyone "weighs" - again, we all carry our poundage/stones/kilograms differently so that number, as with chronological age, has little to nothing to do with who were are as human beings.

I just recently wrote about this in another post, but it's possible that some of the people you're seeing are BHM's looking for average or thin girls. It's really no different than the BBW's on this site whom don't want BHM's and list they are seeking thin or average-sized guys.

Personally I think both the BBW's and BHM's whom do that should think about why it is they are so against dating somone whom is like them ... says alot about them I suppose, but it's their choice.

Rodney aka bbanditx79


Hello Rodney... I completely agree with you... however when one states that they are of alarge size, and someone contacts you and you view their profile, and you see that they are seeking slim, petite or average sized women, well that makes me doubt that they even read my profile entirely. Perhaps they only looked at my pic. That was all I was trying to say......

Now come on .... AS your friend... you know me well enough to know that I am not going to say anything I don't mean! Being biased has nothing to do with it. I would not have said it if I didn't believe it to be so.... because after all.... I say what I mean and mean what I say... LOL