Mrbiggles, you handled the situation perfectly. Bravo for you!! You seem to be able to read people and you seem to be able to express yourself very well. I hope that she accepts your extension of friendship.
Many times we think that people aren't interested in us because we don't think we have anything to offer anyone. But really, what do we have to offer anyone, but a chance to make a connection with them. A chance to be an acquaintance or even become a friend. I consider myself to be quite shy and despite being shy, I still have a need to meet people and interact with them. In order to do so, I make a conscious act to speak to at least 3 strangers a day. Even if it is just to say "hello". Sometimes I get a conversation and sometimes I don't even get a nod, but I have met some nice people this way. Alot of times when I get a response, I also get a smile out of the person and that makes me feel good too. It may seem like a small thing, but it helps me to not feel that I am insignificant and that I am invisible. And it might have made someone feel that way too.
Hey I've been dumped so many times I'm thinking of legally changing my name to "Toxic Waste".
I cry my eyes out for a day or two, have a drink or ten, then eventually you get back into your routine that you had before you were dating, and realise that there's a whole world of great women out there and you WILL find someone one day.
The way I look at rejection is, it's the rejecter's loss, not mine. I too had a thing for a co-worker once and we actually went out on a date in the fall of 2001. My attempts of getting a second date with her didn't work out. About a month later she told me she was pregnant. NO, it wasn?t from me, because we didn't go that far. Apparently someone else was chasing her at the same time I was. I lost that race, but I look at it positively because I was not ready to have kids at that time. I'd say that fate was working against me here, for a good reason.
MrB. I just looked at your profile! You are a fine man and one day you will find a woman worthy of your love! Please continue to be yourself and I feel certain you will find love. God bless you in your search!
You keep your head up and jump right back in there. I think some women are attracted to the "shy guy", but probably more women are attracted to the confident guy. You can be an Adonnis and a real jerk - - but if you let your personality come thru, that's what catches this eye, anyway. And it may be a good thing that the coworker thing didn't quite work out. Seems like with the whole "both going thru the divorce" thing together, you may have been each other's "rebound" relationship, which is usually never a good thing. I just did the divorce thing, my friend; after 17 years. I know it's tough, but I promise, the sun rises again and you will find your happiness. I have found mine within myself. Good luck!