I am sorry that it took so long for me to come back... The company that I work for has contracts with over 10,000 hospitals and medical clinics in the U.S. and after the hurricanes we've needed everyone to help out with clients... I've been on the road nearly non-stop for over a month.
Mrbiggles, thanks for keeping us posted about you and Nicole. I think that it is so wonderful that you and she have found one another. I haven't cried this much over another man's writing since Nicholas Sparks, "The Notebook".
I have to say that this post touched my heart in a way nothing has for a long time...I am so happy for you and your lady.. does my soul good to hear good things from the internet when so much is focused on the negative these days!
Best wishes for a long and successful relationship, MrBiggles
Mr. Biggles.... thank you so much for giving us an update. I cannot tell you how truly happy I am for you and Nicole! So many people are skeptical of internet dating but it is simply a tool of meeting someone you might have never come across. Your story is truly amazing and one you can tell your kids for years to come! CONGRATULATIONS and may God's blessings continue to be on your union!
P.S.: Can we all come to the wedding? We promise we won't each much at the reception!
After Re-reading through my postings, I wanted to get a few other things out...
Things have not been completely rosey and perfect. Nicole and I have managed to get in a few angry arguments occasionally. Those were tough because we have mostly been apart from each other all this time and after settling things we weren't together to make up.
My family is also very happy about the marriage, including my own daughter. She things Nicole is great and is grateful that I found someone so wonderful. However, she's not thrilled about the fact that I have to move to Kansas. We're still working that out.
And even though she's 21, there have been a couple of jealousy issues concerning Nicole's daughter who is 6. I wasn't around when my daughter was 6 (long story) and given how close we've become over the past 11 years she still gets upset when she thinks about the time we weren't together.
Also, Nicole and I are gonna rent a house our first year together. It will give me a chance to get settled in my job when I find one and give us a chance to look for a house to buy together. Unfortunately, she has three dogs and that is making it difficult to find a rental. Most rentals don't allow pets at all and 3 dogs is a bit much when they do.
Unfortunately, because of that, I may have to leave my own dog behind for a while. Which is gonna be tough because we're so close... and he's been going through a mild depression ever since I started travelling a lot and haven't been around him.
But we're working things out and planning things. Over all we're excited and happy. And quite frankly, I can't wait until I can be with her every single day for the rest of my life...
Nicole and I continued to talk on the phone daily. And we chatted through IM a good part of the time when we weren't on the phone with each other.
The more we talked and shared, the more we have been falling in love with each other.
I even spent quite a bit of time on the phone with her daughter. We got along wonderfully and she couldn't wait to meet me.
I've spoken to her parents a few times, so I finally decided to throw caution to the wind... I called her mother up and asked for permission to marry her.
A little old-fashioned, perhaps, and if she said "No", it wouldn't have mattered. I was more interested in gauging her opinion. Especially since I hadn't met Nicole's daughter in person yet.
She and Nicole talk daily, so she knew how Nicole feels about me. And she thought we were rushing things a little, but she also felt that we needed to follow our hearts. She and her husband gave me their blessing.
One thing I have learned is that the best thing to do about the engagement/wedding ring is to let 'her' pick it out. Don't assume that you will find that perfect ring... and the ring itself matters more than even the wedding.
So, a couple of weeks ago I got a few days off and went to Kansas to visit Nicole again. And to finally meet her daughter. If that meeting with her daughter went well, I decided to ask her daughter if it was okay that I marry her mommie.
The meeting did go very well. Her daughter is even more charming in person than on the phone. And the morning of the third day I asked her if it was okay if I married her mommie... She love the idea and made me promise her that she could be the flower girl.
That afternoon I proposed to Nicole at Chuck E Cheese (grin). Her daughter really wanted to eat there and we were meeting a few of her friends and their kids.
I completely caught her off gaurd (as I had hoped). I used my high-school class ring as a temporary engagement ring. She accepted. It was one of the most spectacular moments of my life.
Her friends cried and the crew at CEC announced it over the loudspeaker and everyone in the place clapped for us. They even played a special song for us and we danced on stage with the animals. (grin)
Her best friend watched her daughter while I snuck her out for an hour to take her to a jeweler to let her pick out her engagement ring. It was hard getting her to not just buy some dinky budget ring, but with persuasion from myself and the saleslady, she finally got a nice set.
I've got another month of travelling ahead of me. But all of that extra overtime is great because by January I will have enough money saved up to afford 4 to 6 months of living expenses so that I can move to Kansas.
Unfortunately, my job doesn't have an office in Kansas and I can't work my position remotely, so I'll have to find a new job.
Monday morning, before she left, I got a call from work about my having to spend some time in Texas with some clients... I don't usually travel that much, but it's "all hands on deck" as the damage has been extensive.
I finally got home this week after quite a bit of time in Texas, Louisiana, Florida and Mississippi. However, I did manage to sneak in a 3 day weekend visiting her in Kansas again...