To be completely honest, I had no high hopes for actually finding someone on the Internet. There are just so many people looking, and there are so many horror stories about the lies and the games.

I posted my profile on this and other various sites, more as an excercise in feeling like I was "doing something" about my lonliness, than any actual hope of finding someone.

However, against what I thought were incredible odds, I did meet someone. And I'm riding this emotional roller coaster of excitement and fear. having never done this before, I'm not sure what to do or if I can trust my feelings.

I have heard about and read about those various stories and I obviously want to avoid those pitfalls.

Most of what I have has been about guys who lie to women about that true marriage status, or they're looking to take advantage of someone financially, etc. Occasionally there are women who do the same, but it appears to be rare.

So I guess what I'm looking for is some advice...

First, how do you be sincere and honest without being sappy and sounding like your just saying things the woman wants to hear. The woman I have met has been the victom of men from these sites that have attempted to decieve her and I'm afraid of being lumped in with them. When I say things to her, it comes from the heart and I say them without thinking because it's what I feel. But when I listen to myself, it just sounds like it comes from a movie. I don't know, maybe I've been watching too much TV.

Second, we've only been at this a short time, but we've been calling each other and chatting with each other online almost non-stop since we first met. I can't go 5 minutes without thinking about her and she tells me the same thing. I've barely slept in days and I only eat when I can get my stomach to calm down for a few minutes from all the butterflies. Am I moving too fast? I've chatted with her and talked with her on the phone for hours. I've never actually met her in person, but I'm falling in love... and quite honestly, that scares me. I'm typically more cautious than this. But with this woman, I just can't help myself. I feel like I should ask her for a break of a day or two to let things catch up with me, but I feel like if I did that it would kill me. I don't know how to proceed.

Third, and this is a doozy. We're 9 hours apart from each other. She lives two states over. Because of custody issues with her daughter, she would find it very difficult to move. And while I'm more flexible in that I "can" move, I really don't want to. I have family where I live and living away from them would be difficult. I know I probably should be thinking or talking about moving... but should I resolve that issue now before I let this go any further? What if we fall madly and deeply in love with each other and we're totally unwilling to move from our current locations. I think that would be worse that breaking things off earlier. I just don't know.

I would appreciate any advice or experiences anyone else can share.

I think to think positive and that the silence just means that they are too busy with "real" life to worry about those of us in cyberland. I am hoping that they are happy and in love and truly making a go of it.

Well I read these threads and got totally enthralled with the soap opera of this love affair, I too am concerned about the silence. I don't know you Mr. Biggles but I hope everything will work out, it's hard to straighten things out long distance but I hope it all goes well, you have a lot of emotions invested in it. Best of luck - Grace

Hey Biggles!!I hope everything is going well for the two of you, but the silence worries me. Let us know how you're doing, the number of posts you've gotten says lots of people care.

MrB I cannot wait until I see a thread someday that says you two are getting married! You have absolutely no idea how this wonderful story has picked up my waning spirits about finding someone. I wish you and your honey the absolute best! What a wonderful love story. Congrats!!!!!!!!

Yeah... I bet you WILL

i don't need no plans honey, cos i get my kicks on route 66 lol

I'm working on plans... are you??? lol

maybe you just not trying hard enough

I'm so excited for you! My heart just melted when you were talking about all the plans you've been making. She is a very lucky lady to have met someone that is willing to invest so much thought and time into making her visit special!

Gosh... I can't get a man to decide where to eat, let alone plan so far in advance! lol

Ooooh wow Mr Biggles-this is more entertaining than Coronation Street! I can hardly wait for the next installment!
Hat's off to you Sir for following your heart, and I sincerely hope she is as wonderful as you believe her to be!
I wish you the very best of luck,
Karen x

Sorry, Theo.....she's just cuter than you.



And congrats MrB. I hope everything goes well for you.

Wow, I almost feel like a celebrity. :)

Eight days away from her visit... I'm getting impatient and nervous...

I went to a local costume shop and picked up a chaufer's costume that looks pretty snazzy. And I've made up one of those "cards" that you always see in the movies with her name on it. I figure that will be a fun way to pick her up from the airport.

I was hoping to get a couple of tickets to the local football game for that sunday since we're both football fans, but the Titans are playing away that weekend. So, alternatively, I did some searching and found the best "sports bar" in Nashville and am arranging with the restaurant owner to make that a special time for her. There are a few things she likes to snack on when she watches the games and they're not on the normal menu, so the owner is gonna make them special that weekend.

Provided the weather is good that weekend, I'm also planning a quiet piknik(sp) at the local park. I've picked out a very nice and somewhat out of the way spot near the lake with a very nice view. My daughter and mother are in cohoots with me and are going to make the meal and pack it (I even found one of those "piknik baskets" you always see in the movies). If the weather turns sour, then I'll set up the piknik in my basement with a cassette loop of sounds I recorded at the lake.

Other than the long wait to see her again, things have been going well. We're still talking several times a day and we go to sleep talking to each other. I've talked to her 6-year old daughter a couple of times and she wants to meet me (I'm arranging a return visit the first week of October). And I've even talked with her best friend and her mother a few times in the past week...

Now it's just the long wait... sigh.

Mrbiggles,
I am so happy for you HUGS
That's kind of the way it happened with me and my sweetie...its been 6 months and we still are in awe at how it all transpired and fell into place..and to think, neither of us was actually looking for anything serious.
You have my best wishes for continued growth in your relationship with your new love.. does my heart good to see that online relationships can turn out positive :)

I am so happy for you, I understand the trying to keep a rein on things too. But it is odd how mothers sometimes knows best.

I'm so happy for you! That's what I want so much. I can just hear it in your words! Keep us informed and make sure that the first time you say 'I love you' that it's special and to be remembered forever. Those are powerful words... so use only if meant!

Well, we've had our first "oops", so at least that's out of the way now. :)

I said something stupid in chat (you know it would have to be me that did it) and it upset her. Of course, I got upset for being an idiot. So I called her immediately and apologized. We talked about it and decided it wasn't as big a deal as we were both making it out to be. And we made up. Sadly, we were not together for the make up part...

This are still going strong. We're talking daily, emailing each other 10 to 15 times a day, and IM'ing each other constantly. So far it hasn't gotten old.

I've come to realize that I'm totally in love with her. We've hinted around that to each other, but not actually come out and said it directly yet... But I'm gonna let her know when she comes for her visit.

We're also already making plans for me to fly out to meet her in Detroit where her parents live so that I can meet them. Probably the weekend before Thanksgiving.

I am REALLY trying to keep from getting out of hand, but it's really difficult. I am absolutely amazed at how compatible we are and how "in tune" we are with each other...

Of course, all our family and friends keep urging caution and telling us we're moving too fast (except for our mothers, who seem to think that we're doing fine, which is interesting).

Younger brother, actually. :) And he's happily married.

Way to go Mr B!!!!

See, this thing DOES work sometimes!

I wish you both a great future!

Gordy

Aww...I have been readin the posts, and waiting for the next installment!!
I think its Brilliant for you both, and I wish you all the luck in the world.
Goes to show....It can happen!!