That there are so many of us looking for true love?? I wonder if we were more happy within ourselves if that would still be the case? I've been single for 4 years and have yet to meet the one that will send my heart into overdrive. I've decided that perhaps I should just give up on romance and concentrate on living life to the fullest! I'm not sure what that entails though... LOL!

So you've been single for 4 years? Sweetie I've been single since my husband died in 1977. I think that's 30 years now!!! But I haven't let that stop me from living my life! I have traveled and continue to travel with my single female friends or with groups. I am active in my Church and attend many training seminars. I've retired from one job and gone back to school to learn a new career field.
Honey, life doesn't stop because you're single. Yes, I want to be in a relationship, coupled, married, but I know when the time is right, it will happen. I'm not saying there weren't lonely times, that I didn't need help to raise my children, or that I didn't wish for someone to share my travels and adventures with, but there were choices I made to move myself forward. There are things you can do for yourself. You will always be lonely if you continue to sit and bemoan your situation. Get up and out, start having yourself a good time, do all the things you want to do. You never knows who you may meet while out having yourself a wonderful time not thinking of meeting "Mr. Right".

Moniquedesiree, why should seeking romance and living your life to the fullest be mutually exclusive pursuits? By all means, do NOT ever put your life on hold waiting for a man to enter it. Go do the things you want to do NOW. Take that cruise, get that degree, find that ideal little house.... whatever "living your life to the fullest" would entail. And you can continue to look in the meantime.

No way, don't you dare quit hopes and dreams are actually the only tangible, enduring things that we all possess. Your time will come if you're true to yourself and those around you.
I have been in simular situations, alone for 3 or 4 years, then poof when other aspects of my life are satisfying, all of a sudden someone special notices and introduces themselves into your life.
Be patient, I'm not saying with arrogance in mind but there could be some loose ends that need attention.
Be well.

I absolutely agree, we have several choices in life, we can sit on the sidelines and watch life pass us by as we "wait" for that ONE special person, or we can get up and ENJOY all life has to offer and live life to the fullest. That is what I do, am I happy that I'm alone, NO, but am I willing to give up on life because of it, absolutely NOT!! Life is too short and I'm going to enjoy every minute that I can!! I hope you all do too.

The simple truth is that romantic love is overrated !

A person can have a wonderful life ( I think ) without romantic love !

Sometimes the fantasy is better than the reality ...... LOL !

I've found that "a watched pot never boils"

if you go looking for love...you'll never find it. and the harder you look, the less likely you will find it.

I think it may be human nature. we all have a idea in mind of what we are looking for...but odds are the one you will love doesn't fit that picture at all.

on the same line, how many women say "looks aren't important...I just want someone who will respect me" and they look right past the one that would respect them (because maybe they're a little bit of a geek), to date the "bad guy" who treats them awful..because they have this idea they can "fix" him?