How do you know that what this is saying is real. Sounds just like what your old guy used to say in the beginning. How do you weed out the " just like my ex? "

I'd have to agree with you, cutelittledevilsmom. Depending on where you are at in getting to know each other though, I think communication is also important. For example, my ex used to call me by several pet names, which in and of themselves were sweet, nice names. One of them, though, if anyone ever called me by again, I'd probably instinctively pull back from that person, just because of the memories associated with the name. If it's something like that causing the red flags, that needs to be discussed.

There is no fool proof method that i know of except trust your gut feeling.If it feels wrong to you,then nip it in the bud. I know if I had gone with my gut feelings I would not have 3 failed marriages. Any one else care to venture a opinion?