I Haven't dated in about 13 years. My choice. I have been raising my daughter as a single parent and now that she's 21 I am out looking again. My problem is that I have been out of it so long I don't remember how to go about it. I haven't dated since I was a teenager and I know the rules have changed.I find myself either being tongue tied or saying too much. Can someone lend me their fairy godmother ?

I so appreciate your responses. I am trying to follow your all's advice. I am trying not to be so nervous. Thank you all so much !

I agree.... it is hard to figure this dating thing out but I am learning as I go and yes I have made some mistakes but hey I am human as we all are so like someone else said just try not to make it too important.... one guy invited me to lunch and said hey it is just lunch nothing more... and if it turns into more ......that is ok. I just be myself (nerves and all lol) and if it does not work then I have nothing to feel bad about because I was true to myself and that is important to me.... best of luck to all.......

All I can do is echo other's comments...Take your time, be honest, and open and be yourself.
Just don't leap in head first!
Good Luck!

Hey Ithihope! Welcome to the dating world again. The best piece of advice I can give you sweetie is to just be yourself. Don't try to be someone you are not. If you find someone you like, go for it. What do you have to lose except a little time? Yes, you may not find "the one" your first time out, but don't give up. Take your time and listen to that little voice in your gut... it will not lead you wrong. Enjoy the experience and be happy!

Ithi,

I am also in the same boat you are. My son is 15 now and I am just looking around at guys again wondering if I should try dating again or not. I am at a point where he is starting to go out with his friends, so I will be left at home more and more by myself. The perils of single mother hood. I have not had a dating "life" since he was 3 because I have been raising him on my own, no every other weekends off or anything. So I am here just trying to get my feet wet again, and hoping to make some new friends. I guess just keep an open mind, and don't let your heart go too fast, that is my suggestion. Friends go a long way.

Hi there! I know what you mean. I went 10 years without dating after my divorce... same reason, raising my child.

My best advice is to be confident. Just be yourself and enjoy the process of meeting people. Don't get discouraged if you don't find someone to date immediately. I was stupid and got in a hurry and fell for the first man I dated and it ended in another divorce.

This is a great place to meet men and friends... just let that happen!

Welcome back to the single life!! Good luck in your search!

Hi Ithi,
I know what you mean....it's SOOO nerve-racking isn't it.
It was trial & error for me.
With the first one, I was too eager & said way too much. So, with the next one I played it cool, maybe too cool lol
This time, I think I've got a good balance, and it's going really well.
I wish we DID have a fairy godmother, with a magic wand, it would make life so much easier.
But my advice is that you just be your lovely self. Don't think of it as dating, but making friends. That way, you won't feel under so much pressure and it will all happen naturally.
Good luck with it, and I hope you find your prince without having to kiss too many frogs.

Jack xx