I have an issue to speak about but i won't mention any name(s). A woman from this site largefriends sent me a very nice cordial messeage to me via email in which she give me her name and email address to contact, she never did. i am wondering why is this is it that manners, ethics, etc as been thrown out with the times or is it that courtsey is dead? Then we have women in forum complaining that men do not answer the women in these forums when the women show interest. Oh well its just sad about the state of human affairs in society today.
I, too, am guilty of not responding to emails. If you aren't what I'm asking for in my profile, or you start out with something like "hey babe, you big chested (Fill in what you want here), or some other thing that makes me feel he's only out for one thing, then the delete button works quite well and without guilt. Then on the other hand, if I've gotten a nice email from someone who really doesn't "click" for me, I do respond with a very nice "thanks, but no thanks" because I really do appreciate the time, effort, respect and sincerity he's shown towards me. Mr. Right is out there somewhere and someday he'll show up here. Until then I reserve the right to say something or nothing at all, depending on the situation. Good luck everyone and have a great day!
ive also been one to not respond. Usually either because the email starts with something like "hey baby" or they write like "sup, wat r u wering" and that just makes my skin crawl. Why waste my time responding? however snarky a reply may be, youre still acknowledging them and giving that person a reason to keep contacting you. Other times have been purely superficial - im sorry to say it, but my views are different and if youre using a dating website rather than out in the real world, looks end up meaning a bit more. If im not attracted to the person adn theres nothing in their profile that adds any other interest, do you really want to send an email that says "sorry, honey, you just dont do it for me?"
Before anyone goes off about how shallow i am for this (and im confident there will be a deluge of such comments) I know what i want. im more inclined to date someone im less attracted to because i know them IN PERSON, but if im online new standards get installed. Im ok with age gaps, but not online where my age is advertised to people. I dont like getting messages from men who are 30+ online because to me, it says "well hello little girl"(been there). Whereas, if i met someone IRL age might not come up until much later and by then youre both surprised but not all that fussed (done that).
Getting an email from a person who is uninteresting in either profile or message, and either doesnt have a picture or has something inappropriate OR yes, im not attracted to, probably wont get a response because im not going to lead them on and then scream "friends only!" and have them whinge about me later.
my random rantings of the day.
Having been one of "those" women who doesn't respond to an e-mail from a particular sender...(and no, I wasn't referring to the gentleman who started this thread)...I have to say it's probably not rudeness on the part of the lady - she is simply exercising the right not to respond.
There is no unwritten or written rule saying someone has to respond to e-mail or a wink from someone if they don't want to. I have winked at a couple of men on here and had them not respond, so it goes both ways - it's not just the women that don't respond. I have chosen not to respond based upon what I see in the profile (his being married will kill it for me immediately), and I have to admit that once (only once), I asked someone to post a photo, and then backed off when he posted photos in which he looked so angry that they instantly scared me off. (sorry if that sounds terrible, I know he could have been the nicest guy in the world, but it just didn't appear that way, and he had basically nothing posted in his profile about himself either.)
But I have a question about manners and ethics (and morals) for you: Why do men that are already in relationships go on sites like this? You see to me, that's bad manners. There are sites for people that are just looking for extracurricular actives, so why look on a dating site for singles? I'm serious and am very curious to hear your answer.
It hasn't been that long since linden wrote here; however, I wouldn't hold my breath waiting for a reply.
It's my opinion that if one is looking for pen-pals it wouldn't matter what gender on either end.
I'm reading Large Friends phrase: [quote message] Where plus-size friends and singles feel right at home! so I read it that this site is not just for singles nor is it about morals (which are personal)
Just because I am not interested in intimate encounters for myself, doesn't mean that others are not into that scene.
Been there, done that, puked on the t-shirt, burnt it!