I have a question, and would like to hear the opinions of some of the ladies here. I have had some ladies view my profile, and when I look at theirs, there are some things that I don't match on their preferences (such as height, distance, or race). Sometimes it is only 1 or 2 things, other times it is more. I've not received a wink from these ladies, but some friends have suggested to go ahead and send them a wink anyway.
My question is, if I don't meet certain parts of the preferences they have selected, is it a good idea to go ahead and send a wink anyway. I feel that if I'm not the kind of guy they are looking for, then sending a wink would not be a good idea.
I know there are some people that are just looking for pen pals, but I'm talking about the ones that are looking for a relationship.
Just interested in what the opinion is of the ladies on this. Thanks.
Hi Leo64. I have this idea of a person in my head but I've never considered it a blueprint.
The gentlemen that I have had long term relationships with have all been so different that I have trouble finding a common thread EXCEPT for the fact that they were all good gentle decent men.
Every person you meet can bring something new to your life so why would any of us want to limit that just because the hair color is wrong!
So go ahead and say Hi. It's like a true smile on the street or in a grocery store. Why would someone be offended?.....And if they are then you know that's not the right one anyway.
I do tend to ramble on don't I.
I really want to thank everyone for their thoughts. I agree that sometimes things could possible work out, but you have to at least send a wink. I do feel though that if someone has taken the time to be specific about something, like race for example, that sending a wink in hopes that they may change their mind is taking a real long shot.
To goosnguns, it is nice to meet a fellow Leo from 64. I've never really had an image in my mind of the type of person I would like. To me what is most important is a persons character. Physical appearances can change, but the character of a person usually doesn't. I've tried not to limit meeting someone because they didn't meet a certain image I had. I do agree with you also that it is nice to get that wink telling you someone may be interested in you. I have always tried to be polite and send a reply back, even if I may not be interested in pursuing it further. Don't know if all my emails have gone through though. A couple of times I have replied to a wink, only to never get a response back. Don't know why that was, but would have been nice to get some kind of response back.
Anyway, thanks again for every ones opinions. Maybe someday I will meet someone. I hope everyone has success in finding what they are looking for.
Like Biig Biird said...it doesn't hurt. But I'll be honest here...If I receive a wink from someone on the other side of the world, it doesn't get answered, or I send back the reply of "we're too far away". I like that someone has actually read my preferences, and respects them. But, its also nice to receive winks/emails. We all have preferences, but it doesn't mean we wouldn't compromise. I prefer someone that is over 5'10 in height...most of the dates I have been on have been with men under 5'9. So...send them out, you never know! Good luck.
Thank you ladies, I appreciate your opinions on my question. I agree that if it a minor thing such as she is looking for someone within 100 miles, and I'm 140 miles away or she smokes and I prefer someone that doesn't, that those are minor things that could be worked out. What I'm thinking of is when she is in the UK or Canada for example, and is looking for someone close by. Or she is 5'-10" and would like someone 6'-0" or taller (I'm 5'-9"). Or she is looking for someone of a specific race. I figure that if someone has taken the time to put in their profile that "this is what I would like", and I don't meet that, that chances are it is not going to work out. I've read several posts in this forum from people that were upset that they had been contacted by someone, only to find out they weren't what they claimed to be.
I've always tried to be honest about myself, and would like to be treated the same. It would be nice to meet someone, but I've also been told that while I was a nice guy, I just wasn't the kind of guy they were looking for. I've just become more cautious about putting myself out there. Like I said though, I do appreciate your opinions. Thanks.
Nice to know there are guys out there who actually bother to look at the profiles!
I'd say every woman will have her own est of criteria in mind when it comes to compromising, and we'll be more likely to compromise if the guy is a decent fella and not pushy.
Personally I'm unlikely to compromise on smoking, but would be more prepared to give a little on distance, age and height for the "right" guy. Others will have their own deal breakers, so send the winks ... or better still a friendly email!