i love meeting people, but i haven't found love, or even that special connection. at 43, i'm tired of being alone...i think that i will enjoy this site. finally a place with a queen size madonna, can meet others like her and make friends, and maybe, just maybe find that right guy who will make that spark jump.
LOVE DOES EXIST AND IS REAL. HOW DO I KNOW I SEE IT AROUND ME EVERYDAY. MY SISTERS HUSBAND STILL THINKS SHE IS THE HOTTTEST WOMAN ALIVE MY BROTHER THINKS HIS WIFE IS THE SEXIEST WOMAN ALIVE TOO. AND MY PARENTS AFTER 36 YEARS OF MARRIAGE STILL ARE VERY DEEPLY IN LOVE. I AM NOT NAIVE I SEE THEM EVERYDAY AND ITS NOT THAT SYRUPY KINDA I LOVE U BABE ITS THE LOVE THAT HAS BEEN THROUGH 36 YEARS OF MARRIAGE THE ONE THAT HAS RAISED 7 CHILDREN THE ONE THAT STILL MAKES THEM WANT TO BE TOGETHER EVERY CHANCE THEY GET. ITS THE LOVE THAT HAS GROWN , CHANGED AND HAS BEEN WORKED AT FOR 36 YEARS BECUASE I KNOW LOVE IS NOT EASY.
I for one am tired of the negativity on this site. There are so many BBW sites on the computer for a reason. Most men prefer a women with extra padding. Try to find a site for UWWS (underweight women). Good luck.
I do appologize if I am posting/commenting this in the right spot.
I completely understand what you are saying about men not wanting bbws. I am not even sure why they date me... yes, I do. For the sex.
I find many men are looking for the barbie doll type. Which is unfortunate, because there is alot of love inside of us. I also find that romance and wooing are no longer COOL. You hear alot of "if it feels right, just go with it" or "you are a grown-up now, you can do what ever you want". I know for me, I want to feel special. I don't just want to be a "warm body".
There are many days I want to break down, cry and give up on finding love. I do find myself very hurt and sad that we don't build toward love. Romance, wooing... who feels the butterflies anymore? We have so much inside of us to give and no one to give it to.
Until then, I guess we keep ourselves open to love, all though it gets cold, and hope that it comes. Find someone that you can give your whole self to. Heart, body and mind.
BOOOOOOOOOO!!! Don't do that! You're 25!!! When there are real (not movie) 40+ year old virgins out there, including a former Miami Heat basketball player who lost his virginity in his late 30's... I think that 25 is WAY too early to give up! On top of that, you're cute (not in the cuddly baby way, but in the HEY NOW kinda way). I mean, I can only see the mini pictures since I'm not gold, but I see no reason to give up now!
iloveunicorns write: i love meeting people, but i haven't found love, or even that special connection. at 43, i'm tired of being alone...i think that i will enjoy this site. finally a place with a queen size madonna, can meet others like her and make friends, and maybe, just maybe find that right guy who will make that spark jump.
what are your ideas on love and romance?
I have to have the utmost faith in myself, and in men to believe there IS love out there. I have loved before, but it was not returned. At least not the way I was giving it. I REFUSE to give up hope. And you shouldn't either. There IS someone out there for each of us. And one of these days, it's just going to up and smack you in the face. Like I said, have faith in yourself.
Scarlet_witch has an understanding far beyond her years. She is very right... there are many types of love... and some loves do not last forever, as we change. Even a strong friendship is a kind of love. I suggest, and I think, along with Scarlet_witch, that we all need to be loose about love... to look for it, but be aware of how elusive it is. We must bend with the wind to a degree. In my case, my wife has drifted from me, and I cannot do a thing about it, yet I do care for her, but also long so very much to hold a woman in my arms again... not just anywoman... but a woman who can share a sort of storybook romance with me, who understands that we are loving each other in a "never-never" land setting, and that we can only spend just so much time there. But, while there, we can be in paradise. Between visits, we can have our dreams....and something wonderful to loook forward to... our next meeting. This is not a perfect solution, but life is not perfect. Sitting home with a woman that will not allow me to touch her, and dreaming of what "might be" is not a perfect solution either, but it is far more depressing. I believe that we all should have our dreams... and they will differ from individual to individual greatly! The closest thing that I know to real love is that which my dog has for me! Will Rogers once said, "If there are no dogs in heaven when I die, I want to go where they go!" I say when love drifts your way... enjoy it when you can... because it may yet move on at a later date. Now, you all probably think I am crazy!
MrGW write: I just started reading this thread this morning; how could you people possibly be so down on Love? First of all, love is not somthing you find, discover, or even create. Love is a shared "state-of-mind" between two people. A lot of people seem to complain and say "Love hasn't found ME yet". You cannot just set around and whine, you also cannot go out and search for it. Love is somthing that happens. When you feel it then you must be willing to share that love, be able and willing to express that love. Too many people seem to be afraid of expressing their Love out of fear of rejection. There is a saying "to feel the Love of others, we must first Love ourselves (or somthing like that)". How many people can actually say that they are satisfied that they are trying to improve their lives and be the best that they can be? Again, in order for Love to happen, we must first Love ourselves. I know that I don't have the correct words to express totally what Love is but I hope that I've shed some light upon your search.
What about those who posted positive thoughts and experiences about love?? You always seem to point out the negative MrG... not attacking you..just making an observation
I just started reading this thread this morning; how could you people possibly be so down on Love? First of all, love is not somthing you find, discover, or even create. Love is a shared "state-of-mind" between two people. A lot of people seem to complain and say "Love hasn't found ME yet". You cannot just set around and whine, you also cannot go out and search for it. Love is somthing that happens. When you feel it then you must be willing to share that love, be able and willing to express that love. Too many people seem to be afraid of expressing their Love out of fear of rejection. There is a saying "to feel the Love of others, we must first Love ourselves (or somthing like that)". How many people can actually say that they are satisfied that they are trying to improve their lives and be the best that they can be? Again, in order for Love to happen, we must first Love ourselves. I know that I don't have the correct words to express totally what Love is but I hope that I've shed some light upon your search.
I am in my late sixties... very romantic... love the thought of love... but with an exceptional few, I don't believe love is there...except from our pets. For some reason, and I never knew why, my parents hated me from birth. When I married, for a few years my wife and I were like rabbits, but then she started losing interest. I tried for some thirty years to romance her - in every possibly way. She just continued to lose any interst in intimacy or romance of any kind. So... now we live like business partners, which is what we are, I suppose. When my kids were teenagers, they started hanging around with very bad company and using drugs and turned their back on me. I went through hell for some ten years trying to save them from themselves... with no help from my wife. Now we are trying to have some kind of relationship, but it is too late and very lame. So... Love... don't know what that is. I do get it from my dog... my cats.. but have never known it from a human. I think it is basically something to dream about. However, it is possible to have a friendship with a lady... and share the "art" of love making...from time to time.... IF, you both have your eyes wide open and understand the terms of the relationship. That is far better than just sitting home and dreaming.
I would like to think tha love does exsist. That I have been passed by because there is something better out there, but deep down inside I have come to the realization that I am going to be alone for the rest of my life. I still have that hope that I am wrong, just like I play the lottery every week. It could happen, right?
khrag write: Well as a guy just out of a 12 year marriage, i can tell you love does exist. It takes time to cultivate it though. When my wife and I first got together, as with most couples, it was lust. Wasn't until six years ago, when we briefly broke up that I realised I wanted to be with her every second for the rest of my life. On the down side, yes love exists, but it hurts like hell as well. We are seperated now, and she has moved on. I am just starting to, but it is hard to not talk to her. It's a double edged sword. Choose carefully.
Hang in there, hun...been there...done that...it DOES get better and easier.....
alexispc84 write: I have been hurt numerous times believing I was in love but those guys never lasted in my life, they love fast girls and I coulnd not fit that description. So when they finally finished beating up my heart I do believe I have found the right person for me after a year of friendship, but i do not want to move too fast and get hurt like before, but I believe love exist, but you can not demand it, it will sweep over you and trust me you will know when it does, by the way,m this baby is all the love I need for now, and since I can't find anyone that I can actually say I will marry, she will have my love.
Your baby is just the CUTEST!!! I just wanted to reach in the puter screen,and pinch those adorable cheeks!!!
love does exist. fundamentaly for my own sanity i HAVE to beleive that.
is it in my future? right now? i don't care. i just need to know that at some point it will be. but also, there are so VERY many types of love!! love of a parent for a child, love of freinds, love of siblings..etc.
but the love we are focusing on here is that brain breakin, heart wrenching lose y'self in their eyes type of love.
yep..it's out there. i refuse to think otherwise. oh but hey..can we like chill it on the fairly tales we read to our kids, cause in my humble opinion, we are SERIOSULY setting our kids up for a fall. the girls to beleive that they aren't complete unless they have "prince charming" and the boys for giving an image that is near impossible to live up to.
and where pray tell is it written that "true love" has to last forever? i mean thats why i like the idea of "hand fastings " rather than marriages.. people do change, and so do their desires. why must we marry and stay "forever" with the same person. and this totaly brings up the whole "polyamory" issue. why can we only "love " someone of the opposite gender and ONLY one? makes more realistic sense to do the polyamory thing..and whoa..i am sure i'm freakin some of y'all out but realy..humble opinion here. least in a group your always gonna find someone to cuddle with. :D
I think that when we're young, we think of love as the 'feeling' we get. The tingle up your spine, the butterflies in the stomach when we're with that special someone. But those things don't last and then people decide they're 'not in love' anymore.
I believe real love is not a physical feeling. We choose to love people we are attracted to... but real love loves the unloveable. The woman that still loves her spouse after horrible injuries have disfigured him, the man that sees beyond the fat of the woman he married when she was skinny, the people who choose to look at a heart and fall in love with the character of that person... not the exterior that can and WILL change with time.
Yes, true love does exist and hopefully someday I will feel that kind of love for and from someone... I don't think I've ever really had it before.