i have sort of met someone but its the same old thing now i got his attention how do i keep it??? this happens to me loads tehy meet me like me then ops there gone never to be seen again im not a needy clingy person i dont think lol

I totally agree with GW. You should never have to worry if you got what it takes to keep someone. If they are really interested in you for who you are and not whats under the undies... then they will make an effort to stay focused on you. I have had a few who have said that they were BBW admirers and then tried to get me in the sack... when they saw I wasn't putting out... I never heard from them again.
Unfortunately, there are a few people out there that think big people are so desperate for love that they will do anything... thats what makes it hard for the real BBW admirers. As ya'll can see by my profile... I don't hide a darn thing. I find that if I tell them like it is up front... then I weed out the weirdos, or the ones that are out just to test the mattress. Besides, if they can stick around after the mud mask photo... it means they are not a wuss. LMAO

girlfriend you have to do different things, surprise him with something new, pop up on him wearing nothing underneath your coat or skirt, get real agressive, freak him up and down, turn him out girl!!!soon you will be trying to get rid of him,when i find the guy im looking for that is what i plan to do but i am still in my selective processing stage,anyway have fun with that man, good luck!!!from one BBW to another.

very astute, mr. gw, you coulda co-written that book, 'maybe he's just not that into you'.

it is great to hear a man's honest opinions and advice. we need more of it, if we are ever going to come together and not be looking for love in all the wrong places.

I agree - if you're looking for a relationship, than don't fall into bed too quickly. That will weed out the men who are looking for just 'casual encounters' but are less than honest about it. And it also sends a clear message that you're not 'easy' and relationship minded. And don't forget, a nudge is good, but men like the chase too.

So - hang in there!

You shouldn't need to "keep" him. IF he's worthwile at all then he'll be concerned about "keeping" you. Whatever you do DON'T go to bed with him because you think this will keep his attentions. Do it only if it feels right. Any relationship will evolve naturally out of respect, MUTUAL caring, and attraction. You're beautiful and hopefully he'll feel the same way. You might need to give him a "nudge" though, not all men are either willing to or able to express their emotions.