I just found out today that this guy I have been talking with for a while and have invested some feelings in has been doing noyhing but feeding me a bunch of bs I just do not understand why people can't just be honest

Thank you Mr Gw I have learned a good lesson and I have read some of your postings so I know what you are talking about. Yes I do wish there was more honesty in the world, but since there are some who choose not to be honest then we just have to keep up a guard. I would rather have hurt feelings by someones honesty than hurt fellings by someones deceit, I hope everyone is enjoying their holiday.

Unfortunatly, there are a lot of people who seem to think that the Internet is like the "wild west" and they don't need honesty or anything like that. I am quite honest and tell people that I am Married and therefore not seeking any entanglements; of course I've had some people berate me for my honesty. Just, in the future, don't assume anything. Wait until you're sure and then let a bit of your guard down. I do sincerely feel sorry for you. In the future, please remember this and maybe you'll not get hurt again. It's sad that honesty is not universal.

Thank you both for your words of encouragment. I do agree it is women as well as men who can be deceitful. I am just an honest person and hope others are as well but I am finding out differently.I have been her before it is in real life that people are deceitful as well so I just have a few more bumps and bruises but I am a strong women and it will take more than this to keep me down for long.

It seems so easy to do on the net unfortunately, and I am sure both men and women are guilty of it , but its almost like because its on the computer that its easy to spin the BS and break away as well, little do these people realise that some of us can acutally develop feeling for someone on the net ...

I know a lot of people "juggle" many women/ men at one time and I spose filter thru them looking for which ones they would prefer, but in the mean time let the others fall for them and dont think of the consequences, cause its easy to ignore a message on the computer or and email .... this happened to me not too long ago but not on this site , this guy was from Canada and spun me all this BS, but something inside me just didnt sit right with him ... and sure enuff after months of false promises and lies I finally had to tell him that I needed to know what was really going on ... and of course, he ceased all contact cause he know I was smarter then what he realised I spose... until just before XMAS when he thought things may have cooled down ... and once again he was caught out in a lie .... so unfortunately, it leaves us with no choice but to keep our guard up .... sad but true, I spose cause I am true to who I am on here I expect others to be the same .... and we all know that will never happen , people hide behind insecurites and deceit on the net (and in real life) , and its something that will always be out there .... but dont give up, cause there are wonderful honest people out there !!

Believe me I know the feeling. I let alot of my guard down recently and I'm getting the same thing. Just biding my time. But my dear, we will persevere.....