I can tell you why you haven't had any luck yet.
You have narrowed your opportunities by a huge margin because of your line of thinking. Just because a person (male or female) doesn't want to pay to become a member to one of the THOUSANDS of dating sites does NOT automatically label them a cheap date.
(Note: No, I'm not in the least upset... just trying to stress a point so that you and others can get on with having as great a time as my self and others have been having)
It's all about priorities. I would value a Man more who refused to pay for an internet dating site because he would rather spend the money on a date, or in some cases, taking their kids to see a movie, or a pair of cleats needed that the child 'forgot' to mention. That's just a few examples. Life happens and I for one would have missed out on meeting a few wonderful guys if I had never bothered to chase after their "wink", not waiting for them to become paid memebers. I wasn't a paid member of this site for a long time. This is the ONLY site that I am willing to spend money on. I belong to many others that I refuse to pay. Now if the guys on the other sites thought like you did... they could assume that I'm cheap, which would be a complete error on their behalf. Heck, there are so many sites out there that if you tried to subscribe to them all, you'd never get a bill paid!
You might judge a book by it's cover... but my suggestion is... read the book. Chances are, it was well worth the read.
I am on several sites-I have noticed some of same people on them that I run across on the other ones. I always reply to any wink or email I receive, even if I am not interested. I tell them I'm flattered, but I don't think their profile is compatible with mine, whatever the reason is-at least I was honest, it only takes a few minutes to spare someones feelings. Some people never see the emails because they won't subscribe to the site. A wink is one thing, but can't do anything else until you pay, really, would you want to talk or go out with someone who wouldn't pay to send you a message-imagine what kind of date you would have if it got that far! I haven't had any luck yet with any sites, but at least being able to read someones profile is better than having to suffer through a "first date".
I too was on another site but I did not join. For some reson I decided to try this one. I agree... a "wink" is sort of like a friendly wave. Even if you are not what they are looking for they atleast were kind enough to "wave" at ya.
Besides, just from reading some of the messages on here I have noticed that some people have seem to have made quite a few friends.
friends are good :-)... especially if ya get close enough to them and ya can raid their closets...LOL.. Oooooo I like that blouse... It would go real great with those slacks I borrowed last month.. teeheeheee.
I couldnt help but giggle when reading this. Does the word 'desperate' come to mind to anyone else?
If it does, then you know what I'm thinking.
I also am on several other sites. I dont try to file or keep track of anything. If I see someone of interest, then I send a simple note or icebreaker, or whatever it is that particular site offers. If they choose to answer, great. If not, it's no real loss as I have little at that point invested into meeting the person to begin with.
Also, you cant take it personal when people do not reply. Never assume that the only reason for them not doing so is for some negative reason on your behalf. Life happens and sometimes emails get lost in cyber space or a hundred and one other reasons. Some people get far to many winks to try to keep up themselves with who they have responded to or not.
I look at winking at people like a friendly wave or smile to someone across a room. Totally non-commital with no expectations of anything in return. That way, when you do get a reply, it's like opening a gift that was given to you for no reason at all. Very gratifying. *smile*
Just my humble opinion.
(forgive the rambling and mindless patter... I'm beat tonight and am on brain overload) LOL
I'm currently also a member on another site and all I do is file each email\wink that I receive into a different folder in my hm acc i.e. one for LargeFriends and one for whatever other site\s you belong to and if I end up emailing them on regular basis then I just add a folder specifically for them.
Hello There ,
I have used other sites & was embarrassed once by not remembering someone to whom I had winked. Now I make a mental note ,only use one site at a time & only send a couple of winks at a time.
Have not had a repeat of that incident in fact just the opposite. In a two week period I sent six contacts ( not on this site ) & not one person even acknowledged receiveing it . I do not know if they are lacking manners or if I expect too much in this electronic world . Just a polite No Thanks is all that is required . Cheers