SOULSEARCHIN - Let me start by saying - - you are so friggin' gorgeous! Yes, I'm straight, straight totally straight - LMAO!!
I've been on the site for about a month and a half and originally kept my searches within 50 miles of me, because I was really hoping to find some new, cool people to go out and have fun with. Unfortunately, not too much luck; unless I wanted to meet a couple of dorks for immediate sex . But a friend of mine told me to "expand my horizons" and I connected with someone who is quite a ways from me, but turns out he's more than likely moving to Florida because of work and family connections.....oh, lucky me! LOL
I guess I said all that to say this: Don't look at it as a "long distance relationship" - - look for a friendship, and if it's meant to be, who knows what's out there for you!!!
And if you and the family come to Orlando (say you want to visit the famous mouse house or something) - - look me up for sure!!
A long distance romance will work with effort. I know because I had a long distance relationship with a very nice young woman. We were about 360 miles apart. When our relationship got serious, I moved from MN to NE. We got married. Gina & I had a happy marriage for over 15 years. However, our marriage ended when she passed away last month. I was blessed every day we were together.
I agree with some of the thoughts expressed here but I believe that The choice of how far you are willing to be away from one another is the real question. I was recently involved with a person that lived about a hour and 30 minutes away and that was too hard for him to handle. Years ago I was involved with someone that lived a 4 hour drive away and we had the best relationship and it
worked. So the best advice would be to
have a deep conversation and see where you stand.
I think anything is possible it depends on how bad you too want to be together. I also find most great guys so far away it can be rather frustrating however I still keep trucking along. My profession allows me to move about and If met the right man I would go in a heartbeat. Love should have no bounds I agree why limit your choices?
I agree with musicnut. I tried it for almost 3 years and it didn't work. The guy always wanted me to come see him but he only once made the effort to come to see me. We talked on the phone daily but its just not the same as having someone across town that you can hop in the car to see and hold. Its hard when you hear that he is going out and you wish it was he was going out with you. The guy I dated cheated on me also so that put a bad taste in my mouth. The only thing I can say about it is it can only be for a certain amount of time if you do it and both parties have to be willing to travel to see the other. All in all, I wouldn't do it again.
I just started searching outside of my area and I am sooo glad I did. I have seen and talked to some really great guys. You never know where or when you'll meet "the one" so I stopped limiting my searches.
I've done it. Thank goodness for unlimited long distance! LOL!! It is hard though. The trust you have to have in each other. And the finances alone can kill you. But I'm not sure I would be able to do another country. Or continent. Just doesn't seem feasible to me. And I've gotten winks on several sites from men from all over the world. Italy primarily. Why there I don't know. Much applause to those that are giving it a shot. Personally, I think in the long run if it's right it will work. And both parties have to work at it.
Well, personally, I've never tried it, and was pretty much against it... but thanks to one persistant gentleman, I'm going to fly back east this next week to see if there is any chemistry between us. Not sure how the long distance would work out in the long run, but as posted before... friends at the minimum isn't a bad thing.
Hi all, I am just starting to consider a long dis. relationship. At least he is only a few hours away in the same state. It is very hard thing to do.....but what in life is easy right!! If it turns out that it will not work then I will still have a great friend to show for it & life goes on??
Thank you Rockchick I hope it all works out for you and your guy too.. I know the phone cards we get here.. Are LOUSY to say the least.. I recently bought a 10 dollar one.. Only to find out I got 8 Min's to NewZealand.. But he can get one for 5 bucks.. And get like 200 Min's to here go figure..
Well I am going thru it YET again .... Aus to the USA ... and he is hopefully going to come here in June, its more frustrating than anything to not be able to see eachother physically, and yes it would probably be easier to throw it in the "too hard basket" but would also be unfair too ... its expensive and time consuming but ya never know, the calling cards over there are MUCH more expensive than here, my mum jsut bought a card for $20 in the USA that gave her 4 hrs... over here I can pay $10 for nearly 30 hrs !! and the way we talk we need it ! :) when we meet it could be worth it in the long run ...
Pink thats AWEFUL for him to be turned back after all of that travel and selling everything to see you ... I hope it all works out for u both
_Willow write: A long distance romance would be better than none at all......
I disagree... I've had a long distance relationship, and it's VERY painful. I don't know that it's possible for it to work unless you put the finances into making sure you see each other often... which I can't do... and obviously he can't do either.
My heart gets so lonely for someone to hold me... not just a chat on the phone.
Yea any long distance thing is hard..I have been talking to a guy from New Zea land for 3 years now.. We have had our ups and way downs LoL but were best friends for it.. He even tried to come here last march.. 3 thousand dollars later after he had gotten rid of everything he had.. Over there only to be turned around here at the airport.. By immigration over something very minimal.. He had to go back there and resettle himself all together.. We have spent prob hundreds of dollars in phone cards.. To keep in touch nz to usa is not a cheep call lol.. I'm Finlay going there in August.. Guess the hardest thing about a long distance relationship.. Especially one as long as ours is waiting to see.. How things will go when we Finlay meet.. It can work out depending on.. How much you both are willing to put into it I guess..
I'd consider a long distance relationship with someone either at the other end of the UK or some places in Europe as air fares are quite cheap and most UK places I can set off at 9am and be there for mid afternoon! If two people are willing to make a go of it and maybe even relocate then go for it I say!
I guess it depends on who the people are in the relationship. I have been in three long distance relationships in my life and in the first two cases, the relationships did not work because we were too far apart, could not afford to visit frequently and because we lacked patience. In the relationship that I am in now, we live 350 miles apart and visit one another at least twice a month for 3 day weekends. We also talk on the phone regularly. I guess it works for us because we are homebodies and don't like to go out much. We keep in contact over the phone, talking off and on through out the day for about three or four hours. We wake one another up with a call every day and talk to each other before we go to sleep at night. It is the best thing that we can do to feel close between times that we see each other again.
I would say that the thing that keeps our relationship going is that we have found in one another the things that we require in a mate. He has all of the traits that I asked for in a mate and to be honest, he asked for basically the same things in the woman that he wanted to meet. Because we were both in extremely bad, life changing relationships before we met, we are greatful for the kindness, understanding and patience that we have for one another. Having received what we both asked for, we know that we will be together, under the same roof in a matter of months. While we are sad when we have to say good bye until the next time we see one another, we know that our separation is only temporary.
I would not discourage or encourage a long distance relationship because people have different ideas of what constitutes a relationship. I only know that mine is working and I know that my honey is worth the time and effort that is expended to be with him.