Personally, I think it's not so much the size on your dress that attracts a man to us, but rather the shape and size of our body and body parts. Some suggest any woman over a size 14 up to a size 24 is a BBW and any woman a size 26 and above would be considered a SSBBW.
Personally it's all just preference...and I think that everyone has something special and unique that others find appealing or attractive. I've been told on a few occassions I'm definitely a BBW, but I wasn't a SSBBW because I don't weigh more than 300lbs.
I've had a few friends of mine who are in the 14/16 clothing size range and were told by a few men that they weren't big enough to be called a BBW but they weren't thin enough to date?! I was like..now that's just assinine. At any rate, I hope that helps you a little and I know where you are coming from.
I didn't know we came in size ranges, but apparently large ladies do.
In my experience, I've found some guys to be extreme fetishists. I too have been told I'm not big enough by some and too big by others. Once again, here are the labels. But I digress, I just suppose it just depends on what each individual is here looking for.
BBW? I suppose that might mean different things to different people. To those, like myself, who just adore larger women for their beauty, persomalities, attractiveness, and physique it simply means that you are not some skinny no-shape woman. Some "males" seem to think that because a larger woman is not "beautiful, sexy, or even attractive" according to societies standards that they are somehow less entitled to respect, love, desire, etc... Personally, I think that "males" who have that attitude are lacking in some respect (sic).
I don't feel though that the title BBW refers only to her size; BBW (to me) means that she is a larger woman who is beautiful of personality, intelligence, kindness, etc... A nice woman whom anyone would love to talk with and be around.