Hey Frey.... I didnt know you had found someone from here, and I am sorry its gone pear shaped for you ... men with their baggage huh .....?? and they think WE are complicated, yeah right, anyways , I had no idea of the trauma you had as a child, thats a horrific thing to have gone through, I dont know you personally but you seem to have got your life together quite well thus far, good for you !! also .. you dont need to sit and wait for this guy sweet, it does seem like its a case of "he's not that into you" but you dont need to be the someone he leans on when things are tough with the Ex he wants to get back with ... he needs to get her out of his system before he persues another relationship and doesnt need to be playing with your emotions like a puppet in the interim .... thats what happened to me with the last one, he said he came from a "damaging" relationship for the past 8 years but I am pretty sure he was the one doing the damage, I told him he wasnt ready for a relationship but wanted to jump straight into one with me, and you know what happened ...

I am planning on going to B1tch school soon to see where I go wrong all time, it seems its a case of treat em mean and keep em keen .... want me to grab you an enrollment form ??

Hi ...... Freysh.... so glad to hear u are moving on...... best of luck... I have read most of your posts on here and therefore know u r a very smart lady and will do much better than that guy.......and Modgal........ please come over here and get us all started on the B training....... lol..... ok... I don't wanna be a total B but .... do need some training.... for sure. Best to all....... smiles, me

Mind you, spoken mobile phone etiquette isn';t much better.

I was on the bus last year and heard this guy having the most awful conversation by phone on a packed bus.

"It's like a burning sensation"
"I don't know... I've never had it in my bottom before"
"So I showed it to the doctor and he immediately went 'Oh... that's herpes!'"
and then he finished the conversation with "I'll see you tomorrow then... dad".

quit letting him have all the power. why should he get to choose? no one should have to settle for being 2nd or option b. you are a person! not a selection. don't be treated like an item on a wendy's menu!

OMG Theo.... that is awful. You know, some things should be handled face to face.

People who resort to text language should be locked in a room with a pen, a pad and an English textbook. They should only be allowed out when they can replace "Hi m8, wot U up 2" with "Hello friend, what are you doing right now?".

And Modgal, I bet there's lots of guys who'd go out with you. If you were about 30 I'd be in the queue!

there was something quite funny on TV. This very serious programme about the sexual health of the British and how we're all syphillitic drunks.

This really camp gay guy had chlamidea (sp?) and he'd been spreading it about the place and he was told to contact his sexual partners and let them know.

His response was to send one guy a text message and it was ignored. A text message? "UV GOT CLMIDIA"

Yup I have had the SMS thing as well .... funny coming from a guy who said in the beggining "how slack to break up with someone via email or SMS, you should be a man about it" .... uhhh hem ... yeah right ... lol

You broke up over email? that's not very nice lol What's next? by sms? "U R DMPD"

I tell you what sweetie... you ever come to my neck of the woods... and I'll be more than happy to treat you to dinner and a little southern hospitality!

Oh, boy, do I feel this thread! I waited 13 years before trying to have a relationship with someone, someone I met off this site. It was beautiful for well over a year as we wrote. When we met and he realized I was serious about a relationship, he got scared (I think, I can't get him to open up to me) and although I know he's been hurt in the past ("I've given my all too many times and have nothing to show for it but a broken heart"), well boo hoo pal, welcome to my world! The only thing is I WON'T give my all, gotta save something for me. So I am certainly understanding what all of you have shared and while I do not wish to be a bee-yotch, it seems those are the only ones who get anything they want! I don't know the answer, but I can't compromise my values and morals - I'll stay alone, thank you, and keep on dreaming.

Modgal... I LOVEEEEEEEEEEEEE the new pic! Very pretty!

Hey, maybe we cornered a market here with schooling! LOL Have a great day everybody!

I will look into it for you Michaela ... ;) I have to find the one in AUS first though !

hey there, i wish i could help ya with what's goin on cause no one deserves to have to put up with that. I also agree with Theo, even if he does eventually choose to be with you, there will always be that attatchment to another person, and trust me, I know from experience that you do not wanna deal with the stress of wondering what your partner is doing when he's not with you. I think your a great person! and you are equally deserving of a great guy.. don't let him reserve a spot with you that he can go to whenever he wants, give someone who cares with all his heart a chance, cause trust me hes out there! take care!

Oh how I feel for you. But I cannot add one more thing than what everyone else has said. Run and run fast, because you deserve to be number one, not the one he runs back to when he's unsure of the ex.

You seem like a kind, warm, gentle and giving person from the posts I read and you deserve someone who will treat you like you deserve.

Hey, BTW, is bit-ch chool only in AU or are there some here in the US? If so, can someone pass me an app too? LOL I thought that was so appropriate for what's going on in my life at the moment!

Have a great day everybody!

Hey Freysh, I can't say much more than what has already been said but I wanted you to know I understand how you feel. Run honey, run! He is going to tear your heart apart even more than he already has, that is one fish to another.

Freya, I can't say anything better than those before me have.

But I just wnted to lend my support to you. You are a strong beautiful intelligent woman, and deserve nothing but the best.

*hugggggggs*

Freysh I don't really have anything to add. I just wanted to post and show you some support. You are right you deserve to be #1, don't settle.

WOW... I will record this day in history... I agree 100% with Theo!

Bless your heart Freysh, you've been through alot and that alone is enough reason to not sit around waiting on this guy to figure out what he wants. It sounds like that he is wanting both worlds. You deserve a man that gives you his complete attention. Dating a guy that isn't ready to settle is one thing, but a guy that is thinking about his ex while with you? Nope... run baby run!