To be honest i think u need to re evaluate yr relationship, u havnt been together donkeys years so for no conversation or laughs together, that shud make you rethink wether u are right together, also i recall u saying yr intimate life isnt very exciting, well it really doesnt sound like u r both meant to be, maybe just friends wud be better, especially if u r thinking about seeing some1 else or even thinking of doing it.
Theres nothing wrong with men or women having friends of the opposite gender, but when u start thinking about doing other things with them then u really shudnt be in a relationship, a bit of gentle flirting is ok if in a relationship, but anything more basically is cheating so do yrself and yr g/f a favour and end the relationship, then u can be honest to yrself and others and possibly meet that person u get on better with.
I may come down there and give you the swift kick. WHAT is going on in your brain? Do you NOT FOR ONE SECOND!!!!! believe that this woman you are with...the one you can physically touch....Do you not know that she KNOWS and can feel it? If you are NOT going to give her the 100% she deserves AND she does. YOU stop chatting with THE OTHER WOMAN!!!!!! and start chatting and sharing with the woman your with...she WANTS that from you she NEEDS that..YOU yes YOU need to try harder to get this relationship your in to work and if you just don't want to then let her go so she can find someone who WANTS to. COME ON SMARTEN UP!!!!!!!!! BB Jeanie
I agree with curvy, you dont have to give up, but if youre unhappy with the way things are going, you have to do something to change it. A relationship is hard work and you do get stuck in ruts occaisionally. My opinion is though, you seem to be somewhat interested in this online friend and I think she might be confusing your judgement in regards to your relationship. If you want to give your relationship a valiant effort, I think you might want to stop talking to your friend for a little bit. Even just a few days or a week. This way all your attention is focused on your g/f and youre not distracted by this other woman.
Its not that you have to give up on her its you have to reflect on why your doing this and what is wrong with your relationship with her... you need to decide to fix it, be honest about your on-line friend to your spouse, or if your relationship with your spouse is beyond fixing. I had a friend that had that problem and I told her to list the positives and negatives of her relationship cross out anything to do with the other guy she was friends with and anything to do with her daughter. then look at the bad stuff and decide if it was fixable and if she would be willing to put up the time and effort to fix it... her and her boyfriend are together and are probably going to stay that way for quite a while.
Hey Run, bet you're happy to see me again, huh? lol. I think the main question you have to ask is why havent you told your g/f about your online friend? Is there a reason that you dont want her to know about your friend? I think that if you and your online friend do share this much in common, it would only be fair to yourselves to see where it could go. If you and your g/f are at the point right now where you dont talk or share or socialize too much with each other now, where is it going to go in 1 year, 3years or 5 years down the road. If you are already on a downhill slant chances are, its just going to keep sliding. I think there is a reason you dont want your g/f to know about your online friend.
Run2Love write: Never in my life have I ever used the term, "friend with benefits". I think that's so disrespectful to both sides. It puts the soul and personality of that individual in a box of which you may as well label...trash. I don't think I will ever use that term.
I dont' think its any more disrespectful than calling someone a girlfriend that is only a sexual arrangement and nothing more.
I do not think u r cheating on her emotionally. U can admire many other people u encounter in your life. But if u n your girlfriends relationship has already gotten to the point that u 2 r not laughing or having much 2 do with each other socially then i think u r cheating yourself n should not settle 4 comfort rather then move on n be alone or b with sum one who u could laugh n have fun with. Life is 2 short 2 waste years in a relationship that has already fizzled n burned. now which of the 2 of u will b the first 2 admit it? If u c it then she does 2.
If you are not doing anything with a female besides sex than that is all it is. Don't call it a girl friend or a friend with benefits cause there is no friendship. You have a friendship with someone online. Nothing more. Likewise don't make it more than it is.