Last night after everyone had left and we were done cleaning my fellow castmembers and I had an interesting conversation.
One guy at work is always telling me that I will find the right guy and that there are many out there who want women with meat on their bones. So last night I asked him about his "type" of woman and he named people I work with who are a size ten. He then went on to point out that Anna Nichol was not only famous but big and many men loved her. What man wouldn't like a woman who had money and could enhance her looks?
I then asked him to name one "real" girl who he knew that has found someone? She had to be over size 16. He couldn't name one. I told him it was because many men want plus size women but they don't want anyone to know that they like them. I have been on chats and I tell men right off that I am not a small girl so we don't waste our time. And every time they say that it doesn't matter but when it comes to meeting they want to meet in my town or they just want to stay in.
He then went on to tell me that I could try clubs. Yeah right. I want to go to a club were most of the girls are a 0 and try to fit in...fish out of water. In the end we called it a draw because he was still convinced that somehow it was my fault that I was not getting a guy because I was not putting myself out there.
Should we have to wear a sign "BBW, single and looking"? In the words of a great man " You cant fix stupid"(Ron White) so I guess I will just have to leave well enough alone and let him think what he will.
Couples are a funny thing. I have noticed that the most successful ones have one thing in common. They balance one another out. The two personalities tend to be more opposite but they compliment one another in such a way that things work. High strung people matched with more mellow people. These people come in all shapes and sizes. My sister is very happily married and met her husband when she was well over a size 14. Same with both of my cousins we are having a summer of very plump brides in my family. So rather than looking for someone that does/doesn't like you based based on your size look for the yin to your yang....nothing else should matter.
depends on your definition of someone are... I know plenty of big girls with nice husbands, jerk boyfriends, and or a diffrent lover ever week. I want the good boyfriend or husband so I'm picky. Some people just have an easyer time finding the rite one and others have to seach the world over. I think Im one of the unfortunite search the world over types but I dont think that their are no guys that want big women... one of my friends has a husban that seid that he dosnt care if she loses weight but she has a fight on her hands if she losess her huge rear... I thought it was funny, she seid she would work out to loose weight and if her rear goes to bad... its her butt not his.
I see a very negative attitude in many of these forums about being a large woman. Please look around you. Go shopping. You will see that all women there are not size 10's or 6's. I would venture to state that the majority are overweight. Please stop denigrating yourselves.
It's hard for everyone as long as you have standards. There are a # of chicken heads who would gladly sit next to me at the moment. But I want what I want and am not willing to settle. Stick to your guns Dixie and you'll be happier in the end.
I have always been plus sized and never had a hard time finding someone to be with but it does seem harded to find someone to date per say...Dont get my wrong I have had some great and bad boyfriends in my time but it does seem to be hard. Granted I think it is hard for everyone to a point!!