Here's to hypocrisy...

I get messages from large guys and I'll be honest- Its a turn off. I REALLY don't want to be rude. I just can't bring myself to be attracted to a big guy whatsoever. I came to this site because I am a big girl not because I'm looking for a big guy. Hmm, should I not be here? Do I sound rude? I just know what I want.

..and I want a hot boy heheheh (with a great heart and personality of course!!)

SO I have been off this site for a while...But now I am back because I am single again!!!

Anyone need some feathers ruffled?!?

NO U R NOT OUT OF ORDER AT ALL
Just because we r all on a site for plus size people, does not mean that we r any less fussy than slim women/men or that we r not entitled to voice our oppinions, especially when it comes to sexual preference.
How many of u men so they want a bbw with,big chest,junk in there trunk and lots of other requirements, u go girl,u state what ur sexual prefernces r because we would all be lyeing if we said we r attracted to any kind of woman/guy.
Tall muscular black guys, LL COO LJ lookalike will do 4 me, any one has his number LOL xxxxx

I like to think I am still a spring chicken (I am right? pleeeeaaassse?)

Anyway, I don't think much of Ashton either. I've never watched the "punked" show, but he plays the same character in anything I have seen him in. No range at all.


Now, throw a few pounds on Jonny Depp, and I may need to become a stalker.

Ashton probably doesn't want to sleep with you either Theo.

I very much agree with you mrgw I am a large guy myself who prefer larger sized woman. we all i guess have our preferences but you do not have to be rude and up tight about it. I would be nice and cater to any size woman and be respectful. have even dated a smoker a time or too all depends on how you go about it.

Well they're bloody welcome to him. I'd strangle him in his sleep.

Hahahaha, well there are plenty of woman who'd take him in a minute. He very much embodies that "All-American Frat Boy" look and attitude that a lot of the younger bbw on this site want.

I say younger bbw since as woman, bbw or otherwise, get older they tend to loose some of that shallowness and go for a guy with more than just looks, but I find that to be getting less and less true ... at least in the USA.

jumps up and down and shouts.... ME, ME, ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Who'd want an Ashton Kutcher? I watched 30 seconds of that candid camera knock-off he does and felt like kicking the screen in.

Well she is certainly entitled to have her preference. I wish she'd just word it differently. Saying she wants a guy that "takes care of himself" is like saying we bhm's don't take care of ourselves. There are both bhm's and bbw's whom try and eat right, exercise and such, but aren't thin. So that's really my only gripe, if you want a justin timberlake or ashton kutcher type guy then simply state that, but don't simply say a guy whom "takes care of himself" since I'm sure if I were to say that about the woman I'm seeking I'd catch major hell.

Anyways good luck.

To each their own. I take no offense. Just because you are a curvy lady doesn't mean you have to like big men. You are attracted to what you are attracted to. There are PLENTY other women out there who do like big bearish men.

Oh my G0d! Another shallow person, please restrain me someone and stop this frothing at the mouth!!

Gordy(a BHM and bloody proud of it!)

lwyrgrl,
Just checked your profile. You might add to "what your looking for" your preference for a "hot guy" and whatever your definition of that is. You could also ask that large guys not wink or message you. Word it whatever way you please, just be as tactful as possible. You'll still get winked and messaged by large guys who don't bother to read your profile but that's happening anyway, but it should cut down on the number.

In fact, I wouldn't be surprised if there weren't more skinny guys than big guys on here. When I searched under London to see what the other guys were like that's pretty much the snapshot I got.

there are heaps of smaller guys on here Cooley, I think the ratio of smaller guys looking for bigger gals to the smaller gals looking for bigger guys is MUCH greater ...

You are right overthechill. Why would you expect to find a small man on a Plus size website. That is why it is called largefriends.

LWRYGRL.. Kudos to you for stating your preferences. At least you know what you are looking for. I did not think you were rude.. but I did see where it could have been worded better. And I actually understood what you were trying to say to begin with. Not only did you ruffle feathers (heheheh) but you got people to talking and interacting with each other. Thats a good thing! Have a blessed day.

lol, "THIN skin"...I'll leave that one alone ;o)

Thanks Steve!

Man, lwrygrrl, you sure can stir up some dust. I just couldn't bring myself to answer until today. I have a feeling that everybody must have been wearing their thin skin. I don't see any difference from what you said and those who say they won't respond to anybody over/under a certain age, ageism, or they will only answer people with photos, pictureism. This might be one of those serious threads, though I did see a couple gals on here I know, and they ain't that serious. I hope you stay around and keep doing what you do.