As a very un comfident big man, I need help to get my smile back and get back on the dating wagon.
any advice you can give would be more than welcome

Aww Zbig..Thank You
*wonders just how much it does cost to fly to the US*

(Having nothing to do with the topic): Bubs you got yourself a fan here.

AND...having just read your post on O.S and women in the Uk...If you are serious about finding someone...Thats not the kinda post that will have us ladies fallin over ourselves to write..Gives out the wrong kinda message???

Totally agree with Jack, post a piccie, and yeah, Trixie has got it right, just be yourself, post here and let us get to know you...we dont bite!

Being quite honest here, one of the things that attracts me to a big man is that he is bigger than me. NOt only am I overweight but I am also tall so I am really attracted to big and tall men. They make me feel more feminine, protected, cared for. But there is definitely more to it than just physical qualitities. There has also got to be a good personality, honest, funny, smart, the works. YOu should not be unconfident purely about your weight. You should instead focus on the good qualities you bring to a relationship. I don't know if this helped at all, but I gave it a shot. Oh I just realized if you are serious about finding someone to date, not just looking for s*x, you should definitely change your screen name. With your current screen name many women will assume you are just looking for a quickie and won't even read your profile so do yourself a favor and change your name.

Hello and welcome to the site.
My first piece of advice would be to post a picture of yourself. You may be short on confidence but there's no point in hiding. If you contact anyone, it will probably be the first thing they ask for anyway. Get chatting to all the lovely ladies and your confidence will grow.
Be yourself, keep posting on the forum so we can all get to know you and just enjoy it.
Have fun