i have been depressing myself with the fact that i've been single for six years and counting. i should snap out of it really but six years, i'm starting to there's something wrong with me.

Hey there young man,
You have your whole life ahead of you.Life is too short to be feeling sad and blue.I have one of the most difficult lifestyles to accomodate a steady relationship.I have been single for 11 years.Its a long story but listen to Mommy Fresca,you'll be fine pumkin!!

i guess i am not alone having never dated... 20 yrs and counting

sometimes hope is all we have...

I'm conflicted on that.

On the one hand, obviously everyone wants the ONE love that lasts for ever and ever. But I think there's something to be said for relationships that don't last for ever.

If you can have fun with a person for a while and love that person then even if it doesn't last for ever it's still a good thing and a positive experience in your life.

My last relationship lasted 5 years and ended well but I don't regret a single day I spent with her or essentially giving her my 20's. It didn't last but I was loved and loved and it was a good thing.

It's all very well looking for your soulmate but it's not the only option.

You know it's so hard to find someone who likes you for you...everyone goes through these tough times...and it's better to wait for the right one..than to spend years with the wrong person.

And you know what....it only has to happen once!

Lipi,

Getting no response back is not unusual. I can't tell you how many emails I've sent with nothing in reply. Hang in there.

BigDude,

I'm 48, soon to be 49. Never really had anything close to a decent relationship (just 2 bad ones using me only when they felt they needed "something" and I was fool enough to think I wasn't worth more than that). I keep waiting for my chance at love and I've said it before and I'll say it again, I may be 90, but if that's as long as it takes, so be it!

Have a great rest of your day everybody!

Believe me you are not alone. I truly believe that when you look to hard for true love you never find it. It is when you are not looking that it finds you!

Anyways--I have finally joined this site and sent several emails to people only to get know responses-Is this normal or what?

The best thing to do is to fall in love with yourself!! No one wants to love someone who doesn't have the confidence to love themselves!! Don't let having/not having someone in your life define who you are (thinking something is wrong with you)...when you find that love for yourself others will want to be closer to you!

I hear where you are coming from. I will be 35 in a couple of months and still no one in my life. I keep waiting to meet the right guy, but I have had NO luck at all. It can be extremely depressing. I have found that the thing that works best for me is to just keep myself occupied with work and friends.

Of course, I keep trying to meet people, but keep striking out.

All you can do is keep trying (at least that's what I keep telling myself).

I am there also but for me its been 13

years too busy raising my daughter to

think about being single.Now she's gone

and I'm alone and feeling it. Big guy

if there's a kinkos around where you

live they have computers to rent and you

can upload a picture from there , its

easy and not really too bad pricewise.

You would only need to do it once. And

there's nothing wrong with you ! Just

keep coming back to this site and Just

find things in life to enjoy while

you're waiting for the one for you.

Well bigdude420 you shouldn't feel bad. I'm 26 and have never had a "formal" girlfriend either. Probably because I s*ck at approaching women and usually chicken out ... hahahahaha. That's really screwed up too since I'm very good boyfriend material for the right lady ... hahahaha.

At any rate though my ineptitude at meeting women the old fashioned way has brought me here to these online dating sites where I can get to meet someone a bit more before meeting and thus hopefully I'll be a bit more relaxed around them.

So don't get too down, there are lots of other guys and girls in your exact same situation. Now if we can work on getting those guys and girls in our situation together that would be awesome.

Rodney aka bbanditx79

Dude, You are young hon, and you will find that someone special.
Chin Up

oh i've been used, cheated on, you name it, it happened to me all before my six year slump.

Dont feel bad at 23. Wait till you're 30 like me and still no one wants you! Actually you should be thankful that they're leaving you alone. If women have decided you're undesirable then some will leave you alone, others will date you to use you for money or to occupy time till the guy they REALLY want comes along. Believe me, being alone is better than being used. Been there, done that.

i'm from united states. don't feel bad because i think that their something wrong with me2. I know that this may or may not be uplifting, but you are not the only one. But I try to build the strenght day to day little by little to get my self esteem back. I just try ro avoid the things that will make me want to do things that couples are doing. instead I try to make friends and smile and be lady like. Sometimes being in a different enviroment does alot of good. That's what next on my to do list.Sometimes we can get too comfortable in our enviroment,because it can be lonley dark and painful. So i started a thing's to do list. I found the courage to look at the things around me that I can fix or change about myself. It doesn't seem like much at first but after awhile some suggestions will come about,then I write them down and try what work best for me.I hope that I picked your spirits up alittle. I'am where you are at. And it can be hard, I know trust me on that one. If you like write back.p.s. I'am glad too that I found this web site, cause I like to make friends,so if you can't show a picture,don't worry I don't have a scanner, so all we can do is at least stay on line with updates on making friend-smile good luck;somewhere theres somebody for someone.

thanks dana_baby(you look beautiful by the way), i feel a little better.

I'll join your club, it's been a very long time since I've been on a date with a guy.

I'd just about given up when i fell across this site and found that I'm not the only one out there who is in this situation.

Keep looking sweetheart, you'll find the right girl for you. It just takes time.

like i said before, i would post one if i could, but since i can only go online through my cable tv i don't have that capability.

I agree... you're still young and need to put yourself out there. I see you don't have a pic. If you're a large man and self conscience about that, this is the place to not only feel safe, but feel good that there are women looking for a BHM. This is the only place I've found that I don't mind posting my pic. We're all shapes and sizes here and it's ok... so post a pic, let these young women know what a BHM you are and start sending some interest signals, emails, post on the forum, pop into a chat room and before long, we'll be reading your posts here about that wonderful woman you've met!!!