(Be sure to see the post below for the first part of this....thanks :))
Well I'm not buying it. You are free to believe anything you like, and if part of that is your belief that women need men (because you didn't state otherwise) then more power to you, and good luck with that.
Additionally, I do not view intimacy as a strictly sexual thing.......because it isn't. Intimacy is built through closeness, and sexual relations certainly apply, but they are by no means the only avenue for intimacy.
Again, this is only what I believe. You are free to think about it any way you like. But for me, I don't NEED a man for anything. I want them, I love them, I desire them, but I don't NEED them. (This could quickly revert to an argument over syntax.)
I am responsible for myself. I am in charge of my life. I get to CHOOSE who I want in it and what part they play.
I'm so glad you asked about this. If mine is an opinion you have not encountered before, I hope you can view it as just that...an opinion. I'm not trying to convert anyone to the dark-side, nor I am I rambling on about something without provocation...
LOL Diva! I know what you mean!! Perhaps you can help me explain this to Writer, who has asked for our input.
Writer, you asked an interesting question and made some good points. I'll try to address what I think your major question is.....I believe that you are asking me why it is that I think a woman does not need a man.....if I'm wrong in my paraphrase.........I'm sorry!!
In my post, I was referring to neither love nor sexual relations. I was speaking much more generally. I'll speak only for myself here, since I don't expect many others to agree, and that's ok. We'll all believe in ideas that 'fit' for us, and this is the one that fits for me.
I am not a girl who invested a lot ot thought into the 'Price Charming' stuff. I refuse to believe that there is a person who will glide in and wisk me away from my mundane life and show me there is more to the world than the ho-hum existance I have been living. The reason I don't believe this?? I know that only I have the power to change my life. Only I have to power to see new things. Only I have the power to better my situation. (And this would be if I felt my current situation was in need of a new spin...)
I don't count on someone to 'complete' me. I am a complete being, totally independent of any man or any woman. That's really what my post boils down to......independence.
This is not to say that I don't love and desire men. I certainly do both, but I know that love and sexual relations from a man cannot make me the person I want to be.
The same can be said for a man. Acutally, it's much more common for that method of thinking to be acceptable for men. Imagine the older gentleman who has never been married. We view him as living a perfectly happy and full ife. Now imagine an older women who has never been married. The picture is VERY different. We view her as a spinster, who must be living a lonely and hollow life, devoid of any human contact.
One reason you can't get what you want is because there are lots of people who LIE and let you think you're going to get what you want because they want the same the thing, only to say, Sorry just kidding. Of course, WE'RE supposed to know it was all in fun even thought nobody said so in the beginning, but hey, we'll never see each other so $crew you. Just give me Shui, Southern, and a few special others, and I'll be a happy pappy!!!
I think that preferences are just that -preferences. They aren't deal breakers, just something that you would want if you could get your perfect match. Besides you never know, you might meet someone who makes you want something you never realize you wanted.
Thanks for your interest, MrGW, but I am taken. I met my man on this site in March and we have been together ever since. If you notice, the only physical preferences that I listed in my profile were that my potential mate be MALE, (of course!! LOL!!) and 5'7" tall. Well, my man is MALE and 5'6" tall. After chatting with him on IM and talking to him on the phone, I did not care what he looked like, how tall he was or how much money he made because I really liked him and hoped that he liked me too.
I guess that I posed the question because it seems that there are alot of people on this site who have not found a mate and I was wondering if part of the reason might be because of the preferences listed on their profiles. I know that we all have preferences, but does that mean that we won't be happy with someone unless they possess the physical characteristics that we prefer?
I don't know how this thread of conversation started, but speaking about getting what one wants, I have noticed that many of the female profiles list physical preferences that may exclude some male members. Preferences such as height, race, hair color or bald versus full head of hair. What I would like to know is how strong are your preferences? MUST your potential mate have the PHYSICAL attributes that you list on your profile? What are you willing to settle for in order to meet the person who may be your potential mate?