I absolutely love to party and to go to clubs, but I also really like just going to a dimly lit, cute little restaurant and talking for hours. Love those little Italian pizza rest. with red-checked tablecloths and a candle on the table in a wine bottle. Just staring across the table at that person you want to be with and flirting (Lord knows, I'm a big flirt!!). Sitting there talking and touching hands, the way that person's eyes look in the candlelight. Walking down the street looking up at the stars, holding hands and brushing up against each other-just feeling all that anticipation building, that's SUCH a sexy date!! Then later, well, who knows??
I have to agree with jjiggl. I'm not the type to look for some type of expensive date. (Like you, I'd feel like I was just using someone I barely knew.) I'd rather do something that was fun, like go to a science museum or zoo. I don't drink at all and am not fond of chocolate, so champagne and chocolates wouldn't make me too happy!
If we were at a science museum, I could listen to him tell me different things he likes and knows about. Ditto in a zoo. I could share all the things I know about animals from watching the Animal Planet! LOL I think we would both have fun with no pressure on how much things cost. Sure, I could take myself to either of those, but it wouldn't be with HIM, so that would make a big difference! I think the company matters more than how much money is spent.
Spending time on a gorgeous sandy beach with warm water to swim in and lovely palm trees to shade me and him would also be a wonderful date!
Now if he offered to take me up in a little plane for a ride, I wouldn't mind sharing the flying costs and plane rental with him, which I would think was only fair, since plane rentals and gas for the planes is quite expensive.
Now this is only my opinion and certainly not meant to insult anyone else's choices in their perfect date!
Jessica that sounds like a WAY cool DATE !!... its interesting what peoples different expectations are on what a perfect date should be , it is an individual thing I spose, I have never been one to be showered with flowers and chocolates and dinners, and the few times I have been taken to dinner I felt kinda strange when he paid, it was a nice feeling tho, but nothing I would expect to happen every time, in a relationship ... sometimes I will pay, sometimes he does, its not something I really think about who pays for what... as long as , like WYLD said, you are having a great time and your sides are aching with laughter... or whatever else could make them ache ;) and you are totally enjoying each others company, then thats the main thing .... :D
You dont need a lot of money to have a good time, imagination is the key, candle lit dinners at expensive restaurants is kinda cliche and thats no disrespect to any of you lovely ladies who enjoy that .... I just think that if the atmosphere is relaxed...it makes it easier to break the ice and REALLY get to know that certain someone for who they really are.....
What makes a date great is not so much the location of the date or how much was spent, but the company. In the getting-to-know-one-another stage of dating, I prefer to go on casual dates. One reason is because I would not feel comfortable if I went on an "expensive" date with a man that I don't know that I like very well. That would make me feel like I am using him and I don't use people.
As for a date being an occasion where a man takes me somewhere or does something for me that I cannot do, I guess that would not be very romantic either. By your definition, dating would consist of woodworking, mind reading, traveling through time, and other things that I cannot do or that are impossible to do, because I can already take myself to an expensive restaurant and buy my own flowers and candy.
Donna, no offense or anything, but some of the best dates i've ever had didn't cost very much at all. Like just putting your hair up in a ponytail and putting on a baseball cap and going to a baseball game, eating hot dogs and coke, just cheering for your team. Or going to the county fair we have here every year and riding all the rides after eating carmel apples and funnel cakes and screaming until your sides hurt. Picnics are great, too. As for a man bringing me flowers, well, I would like it just as much if he brought me some wild flowers he picked on the way over. I think you're missing out girlfriend on what a real date can be!
Make it happen, baby! I'll show you my sweet southern hospitality and we'll kick it! We can check out the nightlife in downtown Nashville, go in all the little clubs up and down Broadway. Cruise on the Rockin' Riverboat and find all those hot bands!! We have killer concerts, girl, no doubt about it. We would have the BEST time!
I would DEFINATELY love to come back over to the USA and visit WYLD ... I always said my next one would be the southern parts ... and I know you could show me some GREAT sites WYLD ... should get to saving again for it !! :D as long as u take me to some of those awesome concerts you have over there ... I will be a happy gal
I like to go to a really expensive nice resturant and then dancing or maybe to the movies. I think if you go on a date, it should be special. I probably wouldn't like going to a concert on a date because it would be too loud. Maybe, I'm old fashioned but I think it should be a romantic date, with the man paying for everything, and he should bring flowers or candy or something. I don't like it when the woman is expected to pay her way, either. I like feeling like the man is spending money on me because he wants to be with me. I guess I don't think of trips to the zoo or to the park as a "date", I don't want to go out and do something that I can do on my own.
Rockchick, oh I think that the 2 of us would be "double trouble" baby!! You'll have to come visit the U.S. sometime and we'll go on a "date"!! We lil southern girls definitely know how to have a good time!
You know I have never been to a comedy act ...altho I did see Henry Rollins the other night and he was HILARIOUS !! man he hates BUSH !! LMAO ...anyways that was off the subject ... yes tiredguy music is a good icebreaker ESPECIALLY if its the kinda tunes u both like ... ;) and WYLD ... I could just see you and I going on a "date" to see a band !! LOL I reckon we would run a muck !!
I have to agree with RockChick on the concert idea. My only other selection would be going to the improve (sort of live comedy act where there is no script... and sometimes the audience gets recruited) to see some of the amateurs going at it. I think music is the best way though to relax and get a chance to meet someone. When the music starts playing and the beat grabs your feet... it's hard to stay down.
The subject of this question has me a bit confused (I know, typical man). Are we supposed to be telling about our favorite thing to do before, during, or after the date? Or (I suppose) the question could have to do with our favorite thing to do instead of going out for our date. Maybe we should have gender-specific questions?
I am a geek by nature..... I would love to see a play or got to a club here that Poetry Readings (maybe I would be brave to share one of mine at the time).... coffee and conversation.
Nothing to big, more intimate and personal.
To tell u the truth .... I have probably been on 6 dates in my life ... so the whole concept is foreign to me ... but I always said to myself , a perfect date would be a hamburger and chips (or fries as u guys call em) on the beach in casual clothes with the sauce running down your arms laughing and just being yourselves.... THEN see a live band !!
A new man that I was seeing invited me to meet him for a walk in a local park. We had been out a few times previously and it was a lazy Sunday afternoon. We enjoyed our stroll...holding hands...little kisses etc. Then he suggested we sit and chat for a bit. We did...cuddling...in a somewhat private area of the park...just enjoying our conversation and each other. It was getting late in the afternoon and he asked if I was getting hungry. I said I was and as we were deciding what to do for dinner...a delivery guy came up pizza box in hand and said "delivery for Mr...my guy" I almost fell off the bench. Pizza in the park...delivered. I thought it was very original, romantic, and I was definitely charmed.
I have had my share of the typical romantic dates, but I think that my favorite dates are the ones where I am in a setting that is not typically romantic. One such date was when I went to the zoo with a man that I had been dating for a few weeks. He and I went to the zoo on an overcast Saturday afternoon in October. There were very few people there because it was kind of cold, about 45 degrees and windy. He and I practically had the place to ourselves and took our time looking at the animals on exhibit that we wanted to see. Because it was cold, he suggested that he hold my hand while I keep my other hand in my jacket pocket. Seeing that the hand that he held was still cold, he put both our hands in my other jacket pocket and we walked around that way. Sometimes when we stopped at an exhibit, he would take his hands out of our respective pockets and warm my hands in his, rubbing on them and blowing on them. When the wind got a bit gustier, he would stop walking and open his jacket and pull me to him, saying that he wanted to give me some of his body heat so that I would not catch a cold. I found this to be extremely romantic.
Before this date, I was not very attracted to him, but I dated him because he was a nice guy. After this date I became very attracted to him. I was attracted to him because he showed concern for me and because he was very subtle in his seduction of me: he took me to a seemingly unromantic place and the physical contact that he made with me was seemingly out of concern for my health--not so he could get "lucky". I have to confess that this approach worked. After a few good night kisses, I was smitten with him and we dated for a few months.