I have a hard time approaching a bigger girl. Most of the girls I approach don?t think I am serious. When I approach a girl at the bar or out and about we talk for a few seconds and she walks away. Even after I try hard to flirt with her. What is the best way to say ?hey I love girl of all sizes and I think your cute? with being a bit more tactful. Please help

I would definitely take you serious if you approached me anywhere. I can usually tell whether a guy is genuine or not. It's in their eyes. :-) Take care!!!

I would have to agree that persistence is the key...
Even with the confidence that I posses, there's always the "is this for real?" factor that always pops into your head...
Unfortunately we live in a not so nice society that views beauty to be one of thin build...It's a shame too because there are many Beautiful Big Women who have tonnes of things to offer...
U r definitly a Cute Guy just such a shame you live so far away...
Good Luck

well if you came up to me and started talking to me I would definately not turn and walk away! Although most BBW do not think they are worthy of such a cute guys attention and they are afraid of being made fun of. Just be aggressive!

Turic,

I definitely agree with some of the other posters here, in that a little more persistence on your part will get you taken more seriously. The right BBW for you will know and accept your admiration. We know you can't help but have mad love for our beautiful curves.

Well from my own experience...
Every time a cute guy approached me it was unfortunately to laugh at me or to make his friends laugh...
ALTHOUGH I don't have a low self-esteem and I am proud of my self... I felt pretty hurt! So now I just don't trust anybody that is cute and acts like a ?
Maybe is the way you act before or after you try to approach a girl that is not working for you.

If you came up to me i sure wouldn't walk away i would be like yeah baby whats up your hot

Ok so this situation is im sure hard for both sides. From your point your a handsome guy and that has to be intimidating for bigger girls. I mean not all of us has confidence, so we dont take you serious, but then on our side im sure that a lot of us has had a humiliating situation or two and that is what is in the back of our heads we dont want to be made fun of or to be of a joke. But if your genuine then a girl should be able to tell, so good luck.

Loki, you hit the nail on the head (so to speak). I can be friends with anyone, and I just don't let myself believe that it is/could be anything more. Once I was led astray, and now I'm even more scared. (well when a guy says he's in love with you then hits on your roommate, how do you not get scarred for life?)

I think I am finally at that point in my life where I'm fed up with my love life and I know that its up to do something about it. About a year or so ago, I noticed a guy noticing me at one of my favorite bars. I mean really staring so that my friends were noticing as well. And part of me was scared to say hi because what if he was staring because he thought I was so fat and ugly, and part of me was scared because what if for some strange reason he was attracted to me? Now I could kick myself for not introducing myself, even after several weeks of our cat and mouse game. So I made a promise that next time I would go say hi. Well there never was a next time. I haven't really met someone since then that I could make up for that mistake. So I think from now on, I need to keep my eyes more open, and get a bit bolder.

The world is just so scary, and not just for us bigger people, its scary for everyone.

Aaron,

I wish you luck in finding the right one for you. I'm still new to the area, so I'm pretty much starting from scratch myself.

Amy

Turic the answer is, persistence, patience, eye contact, and saying things she can easily believe. I had a guy I had a crush on that was as cute... let me amend that almost as cute as you flirt with me and I can honestly say I didn't believe he was for real. I mean really I've had offers but I haven't had the normal flirting banter and genuine interest in me before. It took a long time ( a couple of months) to think he was interested in me. Then because it had been going on for so long we were kind of stuck and I had to find a way to tell him I wanted to go out with him ( that took another few weeks). Then it ended up that he had plans for that day, I was embarrassed, he was unsure about my reaction to that and he was beet red, and I said something funny and walked off. Now I don't work with him any more and I regret that I lost that chance but the way he dealt with it had been the only way that would git through to me...FLIRT, TALK, TOUCH (without being aggressive or obscene), AND MAKE IT OBVIOUS WHAT YOU WANT THEN REPEAT THE POSSESS. I know that you think oh, it's not going to happen, what about bars where you don't have that kind of time? Why don't you look for the one someplace or introduced by someone you know where you can take your time... work, take classes for a hobby, church, join a club, girls your friends and family know.

I am a thick sexy women, and I love it when a man speaks his mind! Next time you are interested in a curvy, beautiful girl just tell her so:) Be like, " I love your sexy curves:)"! Hope this helps!

crissy27

well hears a chance 4 u 2 possible meet one more boy friend.

I wish I could just snape and be in front of u. That way, there would be no mistake if I were jockin or ont when I say this. I would like to do more than just aproche you.

this is biggc. I wish u could make me a lucky guy:)

i just had to say this. I really wont to see a pic of u so I can see if your yummmm

ha, I just had to say, i completly agree with that guy. you are a sexy looking women.

You shouldn't think that at all ever because you are simply stunning. If you were a statue the artist would have no choice but to gouge out his eyes and melt down his tools but he would do so happily knowing that he had created a truely beautiful work of art.

I on the other hand tend to assume that anyone who is taking an interest in me is somehow taking the p*ss. But on the plus side this means that I'm immune to any "honey-pot" traps that might be laid for me by secret agents. Why they'd want to lay a trap for me at all is another question entirely though...

First of all I'd like to say that both Turic and Shy Smile are both very good looking guys.

Well I've had a few encounters of guys coming up to me in bars/clubs asking me out, but I've always had the feeling that they were dared to do it or thought it would be fun to put a larger girls hopes up in thinking we have a chance with a good looking guy who can have any model sized girl instead. I get the feeling that some guys, not all, think that a BBW is lonely and is easy.

pearlessence I once had an encounter like yours but not in school. There was a guy interested in me but I tried everything not to make him like me cause of a "rumor" if you'd call it was being passed around that this guy was dared to see how far I'd go if I went out with him. I believed the rumor and I was stupid in not asking him if it was true. Well truth always wins out in the end but it was too late. I did find out he really liked me and respected me because his mother who raised him was a BBW.

Well I'm still unsure when I see a good looking guy makeing eye contact with me in a crowded room, what I really need is for someone to prove me wrong.

I dated a very handsome man for a while. I think it all depends on the amount of the ladies self confidence when aproached by a man. Due to many BBWs have very low self-esteem they assume its a joke or a man looking for a one night quickie, coyote ugly thing.