I've been lucky to this point. There's one girl within 40 miles of me and we're still in the email phase of things. But most others "in my area" haven't been on for over a month. I've actually started looking to other states where at least they have active members.
I don't know if this applies to many other men on here but I joined in 2008 and found a lovely lady on here. We spoke for a while and then met up.
We hit it off from day one, as we had both been badly hurt before we took things very slowly. I was contacted by a couple of ladies in this period and had to mention I had met someone on here and wanted to see where it went but was flattered at the attention.
When we started seriously dating it never crossed my mind to come on here and remove my profile, not even sure if you can as have not looked.
Anyway we split this summer but we had a few good years which im glad we had but last week I thought id have a look again and came back on here and when i tried to sign up it already had my email address and I just had new password sent and got back in to my old profile.
I'm sure that when I was on here in 2008 that there was alot more activity and if you went in to the chat room it was constantly buzzing. I have only seen one person on here the same time as me and as it was a male, im afraid I was not interested to start a conversation with him
I am now in the perdicamanet that one of the ladies who contacted me in 2008 but I politely turned down due to my budding relationship and lives a reasonable travelling distance from me is still on here and logging in, but not sure to contact her. Cannot be very nice to suddenly out of the blue "hi sorry could not chat to you years ago but im single again so how about a chat" Seems a bit heatless or am i reading too much in to it?
I have had a few days trawling through the listings and most do not seem to have logged in for a long time, Just like me.
Im sure that the people who run the site could either put in an additional filter for say people who have logged in within the last say 6 weeks and another for all members so at least you have a fighting chance of seeing profiles which are currently being used.
I'm new here too and feel like I have been hoodwinked! The profiles are very old and I don't believe that many of the men here have logged on in months. Even here on the message boards the posts are old.