I still haven't found what I am looking for. I've wanted love for so long, but I haven't experienced a healthy long lasting relationship.

I am disappointed as I realize, I will not be able to say that I had a high school sweetheart. And at this rate, I won?t be able to say that I met my husband while I was in college.

It's hard to fine someone that meshes well with who you are at your core and is taken by your beauty.

I am acutely aware that I am not sought out, not accepted, and not deemed attractive by my peers. In my age group only 2% of females weigh as much as me. I am not even considered by guys my age. With so many beautiful women, sometimes, I don't blame them.

At other non-BBW dating sites, I read profiles of guys who fit my ideals to perfectly, but I don?t meet their ideal woman's body type. I spare their time and my emotions by not expressing my interest.

If you only knew how much I search?
If you only knew how optimistic I have been...
If you only knew how much I desire to love and be loved...

You wouldn't say that I haven't been patient, looked hard enough or that I am too picky.

I am aware other BBWs have been more fortunate than me, and have found love & acceptance as BBWs, but I haven't. I just wanted to share this in hopes of finding someone to prove me wrong, someone to cheer me up, or someone who could relate.

Why do I ardently seek love?
Love augments self esteem. Love can make you feel complete. It's rewarding in itself to know that someone means so much to me.

More than anything, I want to know that I am worthy of a relationship with someone who meets my ideals and doesn't have an ulterior motive. I deserve exclusivity, love, mutual attraction, attention, & affection.

Yep, I relate, but not from the perspective of a more mature woman. I didn't date when I was in high school, and I didn't find the love of my life in college. As the years went on, most of my closest friends got married and had families, and I felt overlooked. I felt flawed. I finished college, then graduate school. The more I advanced, the smaller my pool of potential partners became, and that concerned me for some time. But as I got older, I realized (REALLY realized) my worth and decided it was OK to wait until the best possible man came along. I kissed some toads along the way, and some of them were real princes, but just not MY prince. Then I met HIM, and in pretty fast order we both knew we were meant to be together and have something special. I met him at 49, married him at 50... and became his widow at 53. I wouldn't trade anything in those four special years for any of the "Mr. Wrongs" I could have had when I was in my 20s. He was well worth the wait.

Build your friendships now, work on your self-esteem, take care of you, get your degree, start your career, date, enjoy your life and open yourself to the possibilities. My guess is, there is someone out there for you and you will eventually find each other. It may not be in your ideal time (setting a time limit sets the stage to pick the wrong person because they happen to be there), but relax and enjoy the scenery until you stumble across him.

A lot of young guys have bought into the commercial picture of beauty in models and movie starlets who are artificial. I grew up in TX and all but one of my girlfriends was a BBW. Just open your eyes to all the possibilities around you. A lot of women complain that hot guys won't give them the time of day, not realizing that they may be treating some wonderful potential lovers the same way.
Just feel the love, baby!

Your right! Love can make you feel complete that is why you should LOVE YOURSELF FIRST!!!! Complete yourself. No one can do that for you no one should do that for you.

Everyone is worthy of love and you are a beautiful lady!! The right one will come along, we just never know when or where that will happen. I wish you the bess of luck and a life filled with love and happiness.

you sre worthy, but i find if i look for something its harder to find.but if you just let it happen itll happen that way...
adam

So true

Stop looking for love because you cant "find" it. Love is something that is created between two people if its the real kind that will last.

Lust happens alot, crushes happen alot. But love...be careful what you wish for. Love leaves you helpless and at the mercy of the person you love...when its 50/50 its a great setup.....when its 70/30 its dangerous and wasteful.

Love yourself and identify who it is you are....the better you can express who you are the easier it will be for the right guy to nail down that YOU are the one he is looking for.

Self awareness is the best answer to the "love" question....if you cant love and appreciate yourself why should anyone else?

Your a pretty girl with tons of life in front of you. I could see if you were scarred or disfigured that it would be impossible to find someone who could see past that but your a normal pretty girl with a little extra weight...this site is filled with guys who see past that and want to find the person behind all that.

If your low on self esteem than accomplish some goals that you set for yourself...you can only make someone else happy when your happy anyone who falls in love with you will see through a fake smile...lying to youself wont help

Be positive and positive people will find you....be negative and negative people will surround you

I think the most important thing is to love YOURSELF and accept YOURSELF first. Once you are able to do that, I am sure you will have no problem finding the right man for you; someone who loves, respects, and accepts you for who you are.

With that said, I have been where you are (mostly as a teenager). I let other's opinions of me and my weight define who I was. I was always "the fat girl," the one no guys my age even looked at. So, I dated guys older (sometimes MUCH older) than myself. But, of course, these guys wanted something from me that I wasn't ready to give at the time. So, began another struggle...

As I got older and went through the experiences that I did, I grew as a person and learned to love myself and my weight. And my life (and self-esteem) has never been better. I couldn't care less what anyone thinks of me, how I look, or how much I weigh. I am who I am; take me or leave me! I am comfortable in my own skin (and body) and I am not ashamed to call myself fat. My newfound view of myself opened up a whole new world of love and intimacy that I never imagined.

YOU ARE WORTHY! You just have to look inside yourself and realize that...

A better question be, why are you looking so hard for someone who isn't worthy of you. Honestly, trolling dating sites, gazing longingly at the "Pretty People", if you're not their idea girl, why spare them a second look? Anyone who is shallow enough to not want you just because you dont look a certain way isn't worth being with in the first place. We all know the world at large is a harsh judge of who we are, why are you torturing yourself?
I can tell you honestly, for the first time since I was probably 12, I have no boyfriend, no girlfriend, no love, or crush, or want. And, as much as I hate to sound like a therapist, or worse yet my mother, the truest thing anyone can tell you is that... you have to want yourself first, before anyone else can. Falling in love isn't going to fix you, or make life better, if anything it makes things more complicated and overwhelming. You can't let the lack of a high school or college sweetheart dictate how you view yourself- because when you do everyone else can sense it.
Also, if it means anything at all, the people I know who are the most happily married only met when they both gave up on looking.

most of the times ive found that for everyone who complains that they havent found the right one yet there is at least one person they know who is that right one, pretty much what im trying to say is you should give that one person a shot even though you might have put them in the friends zone before..

of course you are worthy, we are just as worthy as girls who are thinner then us, you must be confident with who you are, inside and out. my previous boyfriend of 1 year, had told me that one of the reasons he was so attracted to me, was because i was confident with who i was. So darlin, you must be confident! we are super gals, express your intrest to guys, and if they arent intrested, thats their fault! not ours.=)