it's quite the paradox... almost a joke played by god or nature in a way... i want to keep my morals about me, so i'm not going to run to a "woman of the night" or drunken woman, but at the same time... i have all this energy that is pent up... i just feel like an outcast...
i don't know... maybe if i met someone i wouldn't be so... worked up, even if we waited till marriage... i guess it comes back to the fact its not cool to be alone
on that note... sweetests day is today...yay... yet another time for couples to rub it in my face that i'm still single
oh and... if no one wants to be with a Virgyn... well you see what i mean, like an exclusive club that you can't even get into
I suppose it depends upon where you think sexuality comes from. To me it comes partly from genetics and partly from your up-bringing so in a way your sexuality is a ticking clock waiting to go off.
So you can date someone chastely, for ages and then get married and find out that you have completely different and incompatible sexual needs (not less one of you could be gay). All the communication in the world isn't going to help you then.
the thing is, having never dated i've not really thought a lot about waiting for marriage or not... yeah its more of celebate by chance not choice
like... i guess it would really be up to my partner... so no matter if its 7 days 7 months or 7 years, as long as both sides are confortable with it
i guess the thing is now, i've waited so long, i want it to be with the right person. i live on a college campus... i don't doubt that i could go out any weekend and find some drunked co-ed who would sleep with me. but that is wrong, taking advantage of people, and sleeping with some total stranger, seems immoral
i don't know it's easy to say this or that now... i guess once (if) i meet someone i'll see what happens
Niceguy - You're not really cewlibate by choice though are you? Well.. I guess you could have gone to a ho'oker...
I think waiting for marriage is a disastrous idea. Sexual compatibility is a substantial part of any long term relationship and not "testing the merchandise" is like playing russian roulette. It's also a bad idea because it means you'll both be virgens. One virgen might be tolerable because one gets to teach the other (which can be fun) and if you're the guy you get the whole "de-flowering" experience but with 2 viegens you get a recipe for bad nookie.
i don't think i have a mental illness... that i know of atleast...
just never dated or anything... if i ever meet someone i'll see how things go... like... waiting to marriage is ok with me, but really whenboth parteners are ok is the best time i would think
of course what do i know, im clueless on these things
To me, celibate means NO *ex. Could be due to *ape, childhood *exual assault, or re;igion; not to mention no *ex drive. Even if Mr. Right comes along, there will be problems w/ intimacy...IMO. What do u all think?
This site won't let me post the word s-e-x. This is an adult dating site, so what's up w/ that?
Wow! suellis you took the words right out of my mouth!
suellis write: I am currently celibate. Due to my religious beliefs I am planning on waiting till marriage. The thing I find interesting is that in this day and age that is hard to admit. Most men once they hear that run the other way. I can't seem to make them understand that doesn't mean I don't like to kiss, cuddle, hug, I just prefer not to have intimacy until marriage. I am only 35 and would love to be in a commited relationship, but I am starting to believe that is not going to ever happen unless I am willing to compromise my morals and values. I don't know what the solution is...Do I say okay I will have s*x just so I can be in a relationship or do I spend the rest of my life alone? If some man could answer how I am supposed to handle this I would love to know the answer.
Rockchickbbw I hope you're right. But they seem hard to find for me. I agree they are out there. Of course that's what I want to believe.
Rockchickbbw write: Do you mean celibate as in someone who doesnt sleep around and will only be intimate with yourselves once you get to know eachother...?? or someone who will be intimate after marriage ...?? Just a question ... I think its possible to find one, a lot of women think that men are after one thing only, but there are a lot of men who dont go after anything in a skirt, and who have standards and morals set for themselves ...so I dont think it will be that difficult to find.... good luck gals !!
Divadawg, I would love to move to the west coast, too! My elderly parents are living in a senior citizens place near there.
I'm also in love with all that ground crystal sugar-white sand over there! That is simply gorgeous! Not to mention all the adorable little shells and clear water just off Sanibel Island. (sigh)
Since I'm having such awful luck with men now, I should just get a nice female roommate to share expenses and the horror of our love lives! (giggle) Do you know any ladies who just want a female roomie and friend? A bbw would be perfect, but size isn't an issue with a roomie. She has to like pet pigs as I have two adorable ten-year-old ones. They only weigh 60lbs each, so they aren't big. It was an idea anyway! And it never hurts to ask! (grin)
re: Plug Ins... You don't burn anything because it isn't the kind you find in those s*x shops, you buy the thing at Sears and its called a 'muscle relaxer'. (rolling on floor laughing) There is a soft plastic thingie at the end, and nothing else ever touches you. (giggle) Nothing to burn or otherwise damage you.
Rock... Over here in the US, we run on a lot less current than Oz and the UK. Sooo, the best part is that it hardly makes any noise. It is supposed to be quiet, because if you use it like it says on the box you can do it in the living room surrounded by lots of other people! (giggling hysterically) Oh, and I like that other thing you mentioned, too, but if you use them both at the same time, you will be stuck on the ceiling from exhaustion and pleasure after the 50th one!! (big grin)
Shuie-... Ok, I will contact you! At this point I'll take any help I can get! (giggle)
jjiggl-... You don't have to worry about your kids with this one. It is nothing like a s*x toy, it is supposed to be used for muscle aches and looks like that, not the other type of toy. If a kid found it, just tell them it is for a sore muscle. (grinning)
When I was married to my ex, we had a c*ck ring v*be that we had used and I forgot to put it back in the drawer one night after we were done. (Hey, I had other things on my mind at the time! lol) Anyway, the next morning, I was getting ready to go to work and my step sons always had a ritual of coming into our room to watch me put on my makeup in the mornings. My ex was still in bed and we were talking about the course of the day and what not and all of a sudden I hear our oldest say (he was 12 at the time), "What's this?" I turn around to see him holding this thing with this look of puzzlement on his face. I look at my ex and my ex looks at me and we both say at the same time: "I don't know." Inside I was DIEING!! OMG!! Finally, he just shook his head, layed it back where he found it and left the room. After he left I shut the door and we both started rolling!! Embarassment to the max but hey, what can you do? Neither one of us wanted to freak out about it but neither one of us wanted to tell him what it was either.
kewannap write: Shoot.... my kids still my batteries out of mine all the time. But then again, you know you've got it bad when you are running around in the living room at 2 am trying to find a remote that operates with AAA batteries so you can steel them to "finish" because the ones in your toy died
That's the reason I keep a battery supply by my bed....just in case!
ROCKCHICK ! ! ! Funny you say that about 911 - - did you know I work in emergency communication? HA! Be really embarrassing having to explain that to coworkers!! Whew.......
And jiggl.......oh Lawd!!.....my boys found one of mine, but I didn't find out for a year+ later when my daughter clued me in! Yes, I was humiliated! My 15yo daughter tells me, yeah, I walked in on them going, "what's this" and pushing the buttons and it was all vroom vroom and she said she yelled "OMG - - put that down! put that down!" Oh, boy - did that open up a can of worms! Still LMAO
Toys are great but I'll stick with the battery kind. When I want to use mine, I want to use it NOW! I don't want to have to fumble around trying to find the wall outlet in the heat of the moment lol. Can you say "mood breaker?"
Because I have heard that they can become quite addictive, I haven't bought one.
Besides, I shudder at the thought of one of my young nieces or nephews going into my bedroom to look for something and finding my toy. Just the thought of having to explain to them what it is or why they cannot play with it is enough to keep me up all night. SCARY!!