I find myself alone once again after the person I thought was the one cheated on me with another man (I'm tired of that). I want to meet someone, but there's one problem: I can't get women to notice me.

I think my looks are a major part of it. I've been told by numerous women that I'm not very attractive, and even flat-out ugly. I know I'm not skinny, but I don't think being judged by my weight is fair at all.

Then there's the fact that I'm absolutely terrified to approach a woman. I've been rejected so often that I'm afraid to ask anyone out, especially if they already have someoneand I don't know...I prefer to know for sure if they're single, but I can never tell.

I'm genuinely afraid...I no longer believe there's anyone out there for me, and that I will be alone for the rest of my life. I've tried this site and a few others, and no one seems interested, which doesn't help.

So the question remains...should I give up, like I'm seriously contemplating?

hey all i am new to this area also but lemme say beauty is in the eyes of the beholder if they dont appreciate a nice soul of a person then they need help looks arent everything u know so dont worry about them if it bothers u alot on urself ,as i have this problem on my own also but if it bugs u try to find a new way of looking at things like a new hair style and maybe a lil make over i mean i always am updating my looks all the time but i do this for me anyways i feel its not the outside that should count its the inside one who is true and pure in the heart but then again most arent like that i know i been thru alot lately myself with guys though ,but i am not gonna let it stop me and get me down u gotta have faith and strength and yes there are more out there waiting around but looking too hard and they seem to run the other way again i know been there i am just out enjoying what i can with people iknow if something happens then it does but u know there is always a reason why things happen the way they do so just enjoy this time do all of the stuff for u not someone else only u.then maybe just maybe someone will wanna hook up with u till then enjoy the time alone like trying new hobbies or something anything is good if u give it a try.well hope this dont sound bad or nothing.laterz and peace out

WOW!! That was fast work Passionate!!!

Hope things work out for you...

Congrats! Tell us more!!!

If you've found someone special in a few days - - you are one lucky guy! Don't feel like you're rowing that boat alone, though. I've never had anyone be so rude to me and say the negative things that you've heard. You're certainly better off without those types of people in your life. I've always had a high self-esteem; I know I have a lot to offer someone, but don't seem to be able to connect with that "special someone".....sometimes the loneliness is so bad my soul aches but you can't focus on that, because then you can't function. So, with all that said, I will say this.....are there no decent, single men in Orange County, FL?????? BLAH !

Thanks for all the support. It was just what I needed to keep my confidence up. I realized that giving up would only make me miss out on someone special...and I'm happy to report that I've found someone very special indeed. :)

Thanks for the boost in confidence, and good luck to all of you in everything.

Hey there!!! Honestly if anything it looks like its the girls in the US that are missing out... Seem like your a loving and caring person and any woman would be privilaged to be with you... Hang in the CUZZ she could be just around the corner... If not fly over here i will find you someone... Cheers

Heck no! Don't just "give up". Only losers "give up" at anything. You might try finding some smart pretty women like a lot of those on here. Or, you might ask for some Divine advice from Sister Jack. Really, don't bother going to Bars and places like that; the woman of your dreams is probably right near. Wait for her, don't settle for less; remember that it's a LIFETIME commitment.

Passionate.. there are many different views on what is good looking and ugly.
Just because some have said you are ugly doesnt make it fact.. just their opinion.

WHat matters is that you gain some confidence and love and accept the man that you are.. looks and body. Confidence is something everyone finds attractive.. so if you work on that first.. the rest will follow, trust me on that one.

Also..just a bit of advice...don't go into looking for someone with a negative attitude that its going to fail before it even gets started! BE POSITIVE!!

Your profile is well put together and well versed..so obviously you are intelligent. Change what you can.. improve on what you can.. and then accept yourself and others will also accept you.
Good luck hon.. and keep us posted. HUGS

Oh my... no you shouldn't give up!

Firstly, you are not ugly. I can't tell for sure by your picture, but there may be a possibility that you need to step up your style. Go find a friend or relative that will help you update yourself. I think that is important at your age.

Secondly, you need to get your confidence built up. Women like a man that carries himself with a security in himself. Stay positive. Find within yourself the knowledge that there IS someone out there for you and those that pass you by have just missed a great guy and it's their loss. As you get more positive and confident, that will shine through!

Good luck and DO NOT give up!!!

Pash....no you shouldn't EVER give up.
But maybe stop looking quite so hard, relax and enjoy yourself more. Stop beating yourself up about how you look. You look just fine.
My opinion is that attitude is what makes a person attractive or not. If you worked on your confidence a bit I think you'd notice a big difference. Nobody likes a big-head but self-confidence is a good thing.
Keep smiling x