I tend to look for other qualities before I look at the guy's size. Does he have a great laugh? nice smile? good teeth (that'a a definate!) hard working hands? wedding band(haha)? What he actually says is most important of all. I'm not into bragging, whining, arguing, yada yada... BUT, if he can hold a conversation, (that isn't initally about politics or religion or only himself)and has a good sense of humor, THEN I'll consider his size. I've dated men of all size types, too skinny and I'm self concious, too large and I felt smothered when we cuddled (breathing is good!). I usually feel most comfy with someone who is physically and mentally my equal, but that's not a hard and fast rule. Besides, aren't rules made to be broken?
I can only speak for myself and personally I dont care what people look like, it is and always will be personality what counts.
Im a big lass myself and have had same responses as you Gordon, by one or two guys, water off a ducks back to me.
Give me a big strong guy anyday...nothing like a great big bear hug from a strong guys arms, to keep you smiling!
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Personally I only care about whats on the inside of a person as apposed to whats on the outside. I find a goood sense of humor and someone who is comfortable with themselves the biggest turn on. Size in a woman or a man doesnt matter. Their appearance isnt important. If there's a guy who looks drop dead gorgeous and treats me like sh*t and another guy who looks like quasimodo and has a third eye in the middle of his forehead and treats me like I'm special I'm gonna go with quaimodo every time. Same with women too since I'm Bi sexual.
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You've introduced yourself already man, now tell people a bit about yourself, what tv shows do you watch? What food do you like? All that sort of stuff you know, then you can find out which ladies like the same things and you can get chatting! Good luck!
"YOU I LIKE BIG BEAUTIFUL WOMEN GOOD HEART EASYER TO TALK TO I LOVE TO HOLD HER HAND IT IS A TRUN ON
FOR ME IM A SUPER SIZE BIG HANDSOME MALE IM A DISABLE YOUNG GUY WHO LOVE THE BIG BEAUTIFUL WOMEN LIFESTYLE"
I gotta say I don't tend to give scrawny, skinny men a 2nd look, For me, it's large that's hunky & handsome.
All the way.
Always has been.
Likely always will be.
It is true that women tend to look at a mans' income to see if he can provide for a family, etc, if she is at that age. If she is older and working herself, perhaps it doesn't matter so much anymore and becomes less of an issue. (We do live in such a commercial & materialistic world & even the basics of life can be expensive, so it is important that one can care for one's needs & wants)
More importantly though it's morals, and solid personality, combined with good humour.
Don't give up, fellows - I'm sure there are women there who would very much like to spend time with you.
Take your time, have fun and get to know each other, see where it goes ...
Gordon: Sorry, I know how much that stings! Happened to me, too, only after 3 months of daily phone calls and professions of true love (from him). So I travelled the 3,000 miles to visit him. Turned out that he was fatter than I am (the photo he had posted was almost 10 years old and he was quite svelte then), but that didn't change my feelings for him and I was more than willing to "go for it". Unfortunately, he just couldn't deal with my being so fat.
Anyway, I see soooo many big men with small women out here (California) that it appears to be the norm. In fact, I read something recently that the large man/small woman dyad tends to be the happiest statistically.
What does any of this mean? Just that you are a great guy (anyone who lets a teddy bear sit on his head, I mean come on ;-) ) with so many wonderful attributes that any woman who rejects you because of a few extra pounds does NOT deserve you!!!!
I agree with you, Trickbuzzer about how some large men only want skinny women. Because of the preference, I wonder if these men prefer the skinny women because these men lack "large" parts. (LOL!!) I will go on record and admit that when it comes to immediate physical attraction, I am immediately attracted to the Reuben Studdard type. And if he is well groomed and sharp, then he will definitely get my attention.
I guess it depends on the man, but the one thing that I know from experience is that if a man is interested in you and he is much smaller than you are, that man is very confident that he can "handle" you and is more than ready to take on the challenge. And I will admit that in every case where I have been with a man who was smaller than I, I have never been disappointed. My boyfriend is 190 lbs less than I am and 3 inches shorter. I can assure you that the big grin that I have on my face in my pic, is NOTHING compared to the one that he puts on my face now!!
I prefer big tall men. Nothing like being cuddled up to a big hunk of a man. Smaller guys although they claim to love BBW's, always seem to have that hidden fear that they will get squished. They may not say so but you can see it in their eyes. LOL
However, most of the big tall guys seem to prefer the teeny tiny waif looking girls. :-( I always miss out.
yep yep yep yep... sighhh
Smplystriving who said your too big for most guys? More like most guys are too small-minded to appreciate what a beautiful woman you are. You would fit right in to these big old arms and I would sweep you off your feet.
Petal711, if it is a teddy bear your after, well just put a chain around my neck and lead me anywhere (long as it's not to a Vet.) Best wishes to all you lovely ladies & may your god be with you. xx Jack