Hi there,
I've been on the site for a while not and have checked out tons of profiles and everything.
Im wondering if there is something in my profile that is totally putting people (men) off? I thought I was very thorough on my profile.
I would appreciate any feedback.
*Smile*

Hi Countrygirl...Adding my 2 cents in here. You have been given some good advice and hope you follow through on what they suggest. I could write a book..LOL! If you are not getting what you need from your relationship and have doubts haunting you, then the sooner you know the truth..the better. You owe that to yourself!!! He is obviously getting what he needs and has chosen not to "hear" you. You are "NOT" pathetic...You are openly offering your heart to someone who is not being open in return. No good reason can I think of that you have not been invited to his home. And the mention of another lady expressing interest in playing was a hidden threat, in my opinion. I have been doing this online dating for 4 years and have met some wonderful men and some snakes. It has made me grow and has not made me jaded...just wiser and more careful of who I give my heart to. Take care of you and demand the respect you so much deserve.
Hugs...Vel

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My entire point is not to condemn yourself for having your heart broken. Even if its happened to you before, it will never be the exact same thing with the exact same person. Depending on the situation, you may need time to grieve for the broken dream that no longer exists. We all have hoping hearts. We hope for love and companionship and sometimes the person we hope the most to have is the one that cannot return our love. Try to learn something from the situation, but don't condemn yourself for hurting.

Hugs,
Laura

Aww, Countrygirl, you are hardly pathetic. You aren't ready to relinquish a dream that you thought would come true. I've been there, done that and have the zillion t-shirts. Unfortunately, as long as we all have hoping hearts, we will all experience this. I'm going through it right now. I thought I had finally found my English sweetie, and he was so full of love for me when he last spoke to me before going to England for a week to attend his father's funeral. He told me he would call me when he got back on Sunday. I didn't really expect a call, since I figured he would work on Monday and had to get used to the time difference. He didn't call me last night, either. I gave him the benefit of the doubt until I saw that he was logged in here within the last three days, meaning that he somehow got online, probably read all my emails to him an didn't even bother to respond. The only thing I know from all this is that he is still alive.

Don't get me wrong, I'm the type who usually gives everyone the benefit of the doubt, but if it was ME in the reverse situation, I would have handled things quite differently. I don't think I'm pathetic, just someone who believed and trusted in someone and basically got my heart ripped out in little pieces. Will this relationship work? I haven't a clue. I guess that all depends on his excuses for what happened. The last time he didn't call for three days, it was because he got hit in the throat with a wire, and was told by his doc not to talk for several days. Couldn't blame him for that. Seems like I've become quite good at sewing ? my broken heart together again. Oh well.

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Countrygirl..... the longer you let this go on, the more it will hurt. I am speaking from experience. A bad relationship (or a relationship with no future) is not better than no relationship at all.

If you have a hang up about meeting someone on the internet then why do you bother? I'd just tell whomever you are talking to that "This is Eve and we met on the internet, isn't she great?"

I have a question
what do you tell your mates if you meet online, "hi this is eve that i met on the net"
I feel uncomfortable with that due to my hang up about the net.

I have to be hinest with you guys and tell you I am afraid to talk to him because I dont hink I could handle the truth if it's what I think it is. I am not ready to give him up yet altho I know thats how it will end, am I pathetic or what

What a shallow comment.

To: SteveNads..whats up with this comment? I am surprised to read this...

"there have been girls I've dated and I never took them to my regular hang outs because I was afraid of what my friends would say if the lady didn't measure up to certain standards"

who are u truly protecting your image or their feelings? just curious?

has anyone heard from Mistyblue? Girl, we need some updates!!

Countrygirl... you have been given the best advice.... TALK TO HIM! Tell him how you feel and let him know that you want to take this relationship public so to speak. If he balks any at all, then he is hiding something and you are better off without him. It might be that he wants you all to himself, but you need to talk to him about it. Who knows.... he might just think that you are happy with being alone together inside. TALK TO HIM!

I can only say if this is a problem for you and if your gut instinct is telling you that he isn't doing right by you, then heed that instinct... but if you think its more that he's just a homebody that appreciates your company without interuption and you can live with it... happy trails :)

I did ask him several months back and he said luv if s*x is all i wanted there is a lady down the strret that made it clear she is willing to play and he has told me he travels and works so much he loves to relax at home. did I mention he is 8 yrs younger than me?

Country, I'm not sure what to tell ya. At first glance, it appears that he may really like you and wants to be with you, in private, but doesn't want to go public. Still worried about public comment. I would suggest asking him because he may have a good reason. Some people just don't like going out. OR, maybe the lovin' he's getting from you is so great that that's all he wants to do, and going out somewhere cuts into your bed time. For different reasons, there have been girls I've dated and I never took them to my regular hang outs because I was afraid of what my friends would say if the lady didn't measure up to certain standards. Is there a chance he has more than one lady friend and he doesn't want to run in to her with you on his arm, making the other woman feel unworthy compared to you? Again, ask him.

Well countrygirl,

I say you should talk to him about this directly. Dont beat around the bush. Communication is the key to understanding eachother. So, talk. *smile*

Ask him why he never takes you out?
Ask him if he is ashamed of being seen in public with you?
Ask him if all you are to him is company and a roll in the hay?
Ask him if he see's the relationship becoming anything more than what it is?

These are the questions that I would ask if I were in your shoes. And Girl, Expect answers! If he doesn't want to answer them straight up, I say it's time to move on, cause there's another woman out there somewhere.

Hi guys I am looking for feedback, opinions or just advice. Here is my problem. I have been seeing a man that is from London he has a home here as well as there he has to travel back and forth lots in his job. When he is in London we talk nearly every day and when he is here we see each other as much as possible. Now this has been going on for 8 months we have never been out of his condo not even for a cup of coffee all we do is meet relax and talk and then have love time if ya know what i mean. I dont know where this is going or what to think. any feedback will be greatly appreciated.

The more you interact on the forums, the more responses you get. Why? Not just because you get your picture noticed more, but because by sharing opinions and such, you are giving an insight as to 'who' you are and how you think.

Just as a picture is worth a thousand words... so is a paragraph or two.

I look forward to hearing more from you as well as others more often!

wooohoooo! Have fun and be safe!

Well making a posting here was certainly a good way to get people to look at my profile....