Hi

O K so here are three real questions that I would like to hear from you in your opinions...

WHY do you all ASK for a AFFECTION open communicative ATTENTIVE GUY who can be forth right? Yet when you get one Panic and run???
( 6 times this has happened to me)

What is the insecurity you feel when a Man like myself says WOW your a Beautiful Lady. The stunned LOOK is just amazing. It is a simple nice compliment, Why is it taken so negativily???

If we men could show up at your door RIGHT NOW!~! and give you something you have NEVER had from any man in your relationships that YOU feel would make them ever lasting. WHAT would that one thing be and WHY????

O K Have fun and lets see where these everyday questions lea us to more (c;{

KISSES ED

I love an affectionate and attentive guy but I have been around a guy that was a little too affectionate and attentive. I didn't want someone following me around waiting on me. The compliments are wonderful and make a woman feel great but if they are said all the time it feels insincere and fake. Feels like a sleazy line after awhile. To me if a guy shows up at my door and is real and comfortable with himself and confident - that is the guy I will go after everytime. I also like a guy who has a life of his own and isn't looking for me to entertain him. I like a guy who has ambitions, desires, goals, interests and hobbies. Someone who wants to to further his life and not just professionally. That is what I find attractive and catches my eye and keeps my attention.

I consider myself to be a very affectionate person and like the same in the opposite sex, keeping in mind that there is a time and place for everything. Depending on who one deals with what you believe is being affectionate is smothering to the receiver.

As for your beautiful lady compliment, your obviously either dealing with individuals that have low self esteem or perhaps your sincerity is questionable.

I man that can be honest with me at all cost. Wow! Wouldn't that be great I have found that in past relationships the men that I have dealt with have lied about things that weren't even that big of an issue which to me made their character questionable. That's really been my only issue and to not feel as though you have to be in my presence 24-7 to know that I care.

My answers are for the "getting to know one another" phase of a relationship.

I want a man who is affectionate, but is appropriate with his affection. This means that he does not want to ram his tongue down my throat within the first few minutes of meeting me...or not necessarily on the first date. During our first passionate kiss, I prefer that he keep his hands in respectable places on my body, ie; not the areas that are covered by underwear and not on my thighs. It may not be romantic to some, but I don't mind if a man asks me if he can kiss me if it is our first date. In fact, I find it endearing and cute.

As for open communication, I feel uncomfortable when a man tells me about his secks life, his secksual techniques, and his past relationships UNLESS I ask him.

I also cannot appreciate a man's "open communication" when he uses this trait to tell me that I should change something about the way that I dress, wear my hair or my makeup.

Lastly, I do not want a man to give me comments on how he likes that I have big "girly parts". Comments about my body make me cringe and make me feel that I am not more to him but pieces and parts.

Delivery of the compliment is very important too. A simple, "You look lovely"..."I like the way you are wearing your hair"... and other sweet compliments like this said in a pleasant way are always appreciated. If the same compliments are said and are accompanied with a lear, I feel number one, -- dirty and want to cover up; number two, --disappointed-- because I don't want to be seen as a secks object and was hoping that you are the one person who sees my true beauty and not just my big bootteey. I am also disappointed when I feel that I might not be able to trust this man to take "NO" for an answer.

The other thing about compliments is that they MUST be sincere. No corny lines. No double entendre. It is best if a man is himself. Phoniness is a very big turn off.

Hope I helped.