Sometimes being the only bbw and single in my somewhat large circle of friends gets lonesome and an inkling of depression kicks in; what i'm looking for is some quote or saying unique to bbws (who cares if u made it up yourself) to use as a mantra when doubts creep in. Any suggestions??
Love yourself...others are bound to follow. That is my motto.
"To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long love affair" - The Importance of Being Earnest
I was in a failed engagement a few years ago and I have been basically single ever since, and when I am feeling lonely, I just remind myself that it is better to be patient and wait for Mr. Right than rush it and wind up with Mr.Wrong. If he is the right one, then he is worth waiting for.
I went to the Bahamas a few years ago and it is true. I was on the beach and I couldn't get any sun because of all the guys coming up to me. It is a great way to boost your self-esteem. Also a great place to have alot of fun.
1- Have you not seen Monique's Fat Chance? Start using the phrase Fabulous And Thick when you think of being F.A.T.
2- You need a trip to Nassau Bahamas where the men love all women, no matter what size, you will find several stepping to you with all seriousness. It's wonderful for self esteem. In fact, we should have a BBW convention - I'd be happy to meet you there!
3- Connect with other BBWs/BHMs.You might find a local group that meets offline.
Balance. I believe the one of keys to life is balance. You need to have a balance on what goes on in your life. Like where you go and what you do. If all you do is go to the same places and do the sames things you tip the scales to boredom. If all you do is take chances you tip the scales to disaster. You also need to balance your friends. Find another BBW to hang out with.
Never lose sight of your self-worth and the value you add to a relationship.
Then always remind yourself
BETTER TO BE ALONE so that you are free to find the RIGHT ONE, then to be hooked up with the wrong one who consumes your time and energy and may cause you to miss your opportunity for finding life long, TRUE love!
There are truly awesome genuine guys out there, hot men that appreciate you as you are today, I hope that Y O U can find the good in who you are T O D A Y and MAKE IT WORK for you!
"Sexuality is in the mind, before all other places".
Our attitudes, belief systems, level of self-love and self-worth set the stage for what follows, and for what results. Being angry, anxious, frustrated, bitter, or unhappy affects your ability to think clearly, live fully and love life!
What's more, we radiate what we think intensely, and we attract or manifest accordingly. When your thoughts are negative, choose to be more aware of having positive thoughts instead, making the right CHOICES and and moving forward with defined actions.
My profile clearly projects, "My confidence in myself and my ability to please the men I have been with override the vision our society projects sexy and sensual to be".
I have my personal reasons for not having my pic on line, but would be happy to share it with you.
I LIKE BIG BEAUTIFUL WOMEN WITH A GOOD HEART,THAT IS EASY TO TALK,
TO I LOVE, TO HOLD HER HAND IT IS A TURN ON, FOR ME I'M A SUPER SIZE
BIG HANDSOME MALE I'M A DISABLED YOUNG GUY WHO LOVE THE BIG BEAUTIFUL
WOMEN LIFESTYLE, CAN YOU SEND ME A PIC?
DO YOU LIKE YOUNGER MEN? I'M 34 6"4' 422 LBS i live in lockport new york in western part of the state WORKING TO LOSS SOME
MORE WEIGHT, i like country music, walk, swim, football fan ,Pepsi or mountain dew, ice cream, a good home cooked dinner, down time with someone spaceal chubby,I am a larger man looking for a romantic women.Looks and build not important. It is what is in the heart that counts!
I agree with what the people here have said - you ARE beautiful and have a knock-out smile! I read your profile, too. They are right- you are just fine the way you are. I'd like to respond to your questions: "Variety is the SPICE of life" and NEVER forget that!! LOL I am often the only bbw in groups and sometimes it's painfully obvious, but a lot of the time I don't think about it at all. Just like I don't think, "Oh, I'm the only white girl here" or "Goodness! I'm the only biologist here". Yes, we are not the current description of the "American ideal" but that has changed over the years. And it has also changed throughout history. There have been eras in history where well-endowed women were the height of beauty and desire. Fads come and go. Ultimately, how you carry yourself, what energy you radiate, and who you are is what counts. I once received a very interesting, but good comment from a lover (who was not accustomed to sleeping with bbw)- he told me "You are so comfortable!" I was shocked at the statement, but then I realized that he is sure right! There were no sharp points on my body, only softness and comfort and warmth. It made sense, though I had never thought about that aspect of me before then.
After looking at your profile I am at a loss to understand how such a beautiful and charming woman, with a smile that could soften granite, could ever be lonely (I only wish you were in the UK.) But as for blasting away those negative thoughts, remember you are unique, you stand out from the crowd, you are not one to be penned in with the trend following sheep, say it once, say it loud, I'm Big, Beautiful and proud.
cpraprincess write: Be happy you are not like the rest of thepeople in your circle. You are who you are and you are beautiful not matter what. WHen that thought creeps in do somehtignelse to keep your mind off of it and yes its as as it sounds.