I have been a BBW for a very long time and living in Southern California single for a very long. I actually believe that the men in Calif. do not appreciate a BBW, therefore, many of us are single and remain single. If you don't open the book you will not appreciate the blessing received or uncover the jewel hidden inside.
Some may chase and date but there are alot of men that want to mistreat woman no matter what the race is. Finding a good guy that will treat you the way you need to be treated is the problem and finding them single. Where are all the single, serious and loving men at ?
I get so many comments like I like your personality and you have a nice face but I couldn't date you because of your weight. Ugh ! that makes me so mad. I'd rather them just not say anything.Here in California everyone expects women to be size 3 with big tops. I'm Thinking of moving. Maybe Vegas ?
I agree with Deena. I don't have a shortage of interests at all just finding a good quality guy is the problem. I don't think I should have to settle just because I'm a BBW. I just have to be patient and hope the right one comes along.
i get the same thing pretty often. Ive had people (guys) stop me on the street to say i had a bum worth grabbing but its sooo dirty and i just shut down when they say it. its like right, cause THATS appealing. not exactly my idea of the guy i want to start dating.
Honey, from your pics, you dont look like youre big at all. i think you said once you were a US 14, and thats nothing! I mean, if you went to the US you wouldnt have much toruble (least where i was from anyway. anything above and then you have issues) At present i live in the uk and im a top size UK16 and bottom uk20-22 (think thats US 14 and 18-20) but im shaped weird and its impossible to not look like quasimodo. :(
I tend to think im single cause im both fantastically picky, and i refuse to settle for guys who only want me for physical ... er... acts. they dont like me for who i am or what i look like, but what i could possibly provide for them. Thats a choice i make... but also, the media and social stigma has absolutely destroyed my self confidence and my self opinion is so low that its almost impossible for me to believe a decent attractive male could be interested in me, honestly interested, as anything other than a friend...
but thats me personally... I have seen many many lovely big women with partners living a very happy life. Just wish i could join them!
I can't believe people are asking this question because...
if you pick up any magazine, watch any TV show, (other than a few on UPN and the Latino TV stations that show women of size) everyone is thin and young. Young girls are getting lipsuction before they have hit their 16th birthdays.
America is obsesssed with thinness yet 31% of the population is obese and 61% is overwieght by NIH standards.
I didn't get married until I was 42 because it took that long to find someone who was willing to see past the fat and I was only 30 lbs. overwieght at the time. However, it was well worth the wait as my husband was an angel...sadly he passed away two years ago. I am not even going to hope to duplicate my experience with him...lightening doesn't strike twice in the same place.
Good Luck But this is a mean country when it comes to women and men who are larger than the examples of what the media is shoving down our throats.
All these are good points....and I'd have to say that I agree with them all to some degree.
In my experience, I lacked the confidence to put myself into the dating scene, and therefore remained single, or dated men that I had 'settled' for. Thank goodness those days are over....Vegas has truckloads of men that love thick girls!
I don't see a problem of not been with a woman because of her size. I truly love BBWs. Tall women, short women, big women, etc., etc they are all people. Whats counts is personality and wether or not you are willing to accept the other person for who they are and what they are. If man can't accept a woman for who she is, etc then move along to someone who you think you want to be with and be seen with, and vice versa. People have got to stop playing the childish games.