I'm really starting to feel like I'm incapable of love..of loving someone and being loved in return.
My first instinct is to curb any feelings I may have or that may develop because I just cannot believe that someone could possibly like me as I am. Maybe it's just the case of self-preservation but I seem to have this knack of doing things to push people away before they get too close.
I know I should learn to love myself before I can open up to anything else. There are times when I think I'm okay with who I am but more often than not, I end up doubting myself.
I've always told myself not to be emotionally dependent on anyone. At the same time, I do want someone whom I can lean on..instead of always being the one people rely on.
Confused, cynical, jaded and neurotic. And maybe more than just a little scared of being hurt...but then again, who isn't?
I'm totally right with you... still doing it to myself and delting any affection or complements that i do get... I have these walls that i have ]up around my heart and dont let anyone close unless they are family or friends that Ive had for like forever.
I would say that i love myself the way i am. i would consider myself confidant and all the things males are looking for but i hate making the first move because of the fear of being rejected...
Sorry i couldn't help but less you know your not on your own if you get any tips share. I enjoy reading these threads because i get alot out of it.
WOW jjiggl -- that is an awesome two cents worth, you should get some change back.
I think the hardest thing sometimes is to be vulnerable to someone. It's very scary and a hard thing to do -- or at least for me, but when you take that gamble with the right person it can help validate the beauty and love we all have in ourselves.
I think it is funny sometimes to think how men can make us feel so wonderful and show us beauty that we never saw in ourselves. But the flip side in finding that right person is that there can be some heart wrenching players out there who can tear you down that you have to weed through. That's why I try to stick with my "friends first" policy, which seems to work for me with weeding out the losers, well most of the time.
I have been there. Done that, etc., etc. They say that you have to love yourself before someone else can love you, but how does one do that? What if Mr. Right enters your life while you are working on learning to love yourself? Do you just push him away anyway because you haven't learned to love yourself? Do you ask him to just wait a bit while you "learn to love yourself"? How crazy is that? Is it possible that we learn to love ourselves while we grow to love someone else? My answer would be "yes". But the only way that it can happen is if we are vulnerable. If we accept the fact that someone thinks we are lovable. Maybe we just have to "fake it until we make it". Of course, this cannot be done with just ANY partner. The one that we are "learning" on must be open to love. Someone who wants to be loved AND who wants to love.