I was reading in Kahlil Gibran's book "The Prophet" and it had the best description of a healthy marriage. I think it can apply to any partnership.
"You were born together, and together you shall be for evermore.... But let there be spaces in your togetherness. And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
... And stand together yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow. "
I love that visual of the pillars. If you have an archway, and one side leans too much on the other, the whole structure will collapse. Both have to be strong and independent to work.
I've never had that - have tried, but not been successful. But I keep the faith :)
I have to say, I loved Kahlil Gibran. Havent read it, I'll admit, since my husband died (it was his fav book, the Prophet), but if you are looking for less sappy, theo, read something other than the love section. The children section was always my husband's favorite, but the Prophet has many many many different subjects to peruse...
Those words are very nice and profound. I think they mean that in a relationship the two people should support eachother, care for eachother, and love eachother without being domineering. The two trees might grow in different directions and not follow the same route but there is the foundation, the roots, the love to bind them togeather and make them strong