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Posted on Thu, Apr 29, 2010 09:09

If given the opportunity to have something that you have been in search of all your life and it has finally been given to you. Would you be afraid to receive it? Have previous relationships stunted your growth with someone who seemed like they could be perfect for you? How do you overcome the uncertainity of not wanting to be hurt again and take a leap out on faith?


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Posted on Fri, Jun 18, 2010 20:42

Quoting ozredhead62

Some great answers here already but for me I find that I have found it is never about the person you are looking at as your potential partner, but alway within yourself. If I find that I am doubting if I should get into a new relationship because of possible pain then I know that I have not handled my issues and still cant trust my judgement. When I acknoweldge that I made decisions according to where I was at the time myself, and that I may not be the same person now, I can move on and be willing to give new love a go. Now if I was presented with something "that I have been in search of all my life" then I would NOT reject. Despite possibily being scared, I would take it with both hands and not let go .... well I hope I would. lol Sadly though we can sometimes be our worst enemy.


Thanks great advice as always. We can be our own worst enemy.


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Posted on Fri, Jun 18, 2010 20:37

Quoting butterbll

There is an Anchient Chinese curse that goes like this "May all you wildest wishes come true".I think if one was to settle and stop trying to obtain ever higher and loftier goals after obtaining their present goal would be a great loss. Because some times life takes off in a path we never expect and to reject that path I feel is a loss of ones potential.So expect great thing from your self and others , but dont expect to be perfection. However to being forgiving is no excuse to let other use you for a door mat either.Expect others to Respect you and give that respect to others as well.


Great advice. Dang that really gave me some thought.


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Posted on Fri, Jun 18, 2010 20:00

Quoting Babycakes63

Holla, Think about it! I jump in with both feet! If I don't open myself up to possibly getting hurt, I don't open myself up to love! You just gotta be smart about it! I have been in a few unhealthy relationships, no diseases or drugs, i am talking emotional! Just get wiser every time. Get back up, dust off and try again...a little wiser each time. Just my two cents. Elaine


You know what I wish I was more like that. I am so cautious and I never open myself up to different possibilites. How do I let go?


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Posted on Thu, May 06, 2010 07:54

Some great answers here already but for me I find that I have found it is never about the person you are looking at as your potential partner, but alway within yourself. If I find that I am doubting if I should get into a new relationship because of possible pain then I know that I have not handled my issues and still cant trust my judgement. When I acknoweldge that I made decisions according to where I was at the time myself, and that I may not be the same person now, I can move on and be willing to give new love a go. Now if I was presented with something "that I have been in search of all my life" then I would NOT reject. Despite possibily being scared, I would take it with both hands and not let go .... well I hope I would. lol Sadly though we can sometimes be our worst enemy.


Life is only as wonderful as you think it is.

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Posted on Fri, Apr 30, 2010 20:10

There is an Anchient Chinese curse that goes like this "May all you wildest wishes come true".I think if one was to settle and stop trying to obtain ever higher and loftier goals after obtaining their present goal would be a great loss. Because some times life takes off in a path we never expect and to reject that path I feel is a loss of ones potential.So expect great thing from your self and others , but dont expect to be perfection. However to being forgiving is no excuse to let other use you for a door mat either.Expect others to Respect you and give that respect to others as well.


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Posted on Fri, Apr 30, 2010 13:37

Holla, Think about it! I jump in with both feet! If I don't open myself up to possibly getting hurt, I don't open myself up to love! You just gotta be smart about it! I have been in a few unhealthy relationships, no diseases or drugs, i am talking emotional! Just get wiser every time. Get back up, dust off and try again...a little wiser each time. Just my two cents. Elaine


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Posted on Fri, Apr 30, 2010 06:10

Quoting whitetexasrose

These questions are fully loaded.  I think if I were given what I had been in search for all of my life, I'd be really weary of it.  I think the phrase "if it sounds too good to be true it usually is" fits the best.

However, this comes from plenty of horrible relationships and experiences.  Relationships where people went to another sex, relationships where people weren't truthful, freaky people, possessive ones, cheating ones, skeezy ones, and just plain raunchy ones. 

I think the way to overcome uncertainty is to look and find that you are happy with yourself.  Naught said it best on my blog when she told me to be happy and confident in who I am.  It takes a lot of soul searching to be able to see that you can be fantabulous regardless of size.  If you ever need to talk certain instances, I'm more than willing to listen and / or help.  Which goes for everyone in the blogging community.



Wow! Thanks whitetexasrose. I thank you for your comment and for reaching your hand out to me. You gave me some of the best and valuable advise that I could ask for. Most people do not realize that everyone is still a work in progress. I left relationships like the ones you have discussed. When someone does you like that do they really think about what their actions have caused. Trust is everything in a relationship and I so not want to punish anyone for what someone else did. If I ever get into another relationship it will have to feel right and on my terms. Thanks again.


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Posted on Fri, Apr 30, 2010 02:41

These questions are fully loaded.  I think if I were given what I had been in search for all of my life, I'd be really weary of it.  I think the phrase "if it sounds too good to be true it usually is" fits the best.

However, this comes from plenty of horrible relationships and experiences.  Relationships where people went to another sex, relationships where people weren't truthful, freaky people, possessive ones, cheating ones, skeezy ones, and just plain raunchy ones. 

I think the way to overcome uncertainty is to look and find that you are happy with yourself.  Naught said it best on my blog when she told me to be happy and confident in who I am.  It takes a lot of soul searching to be able to see that you can be fantabulous regardless of size.  If you ever need to talk certain instances, I'm more than willing to listen and / or help.  Which goes for everyone in the blogging community.



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