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Posted on Fri, Feb 26, 2010 17:53

So.....how does one think they should be dumped? I certainly never thought by email ....is that the new age of technology or cowardness ? Obviously I'm hurting and don't know to respond as I'm in pain - you have to accept it - you can't make someone love you especially when they appear to have moved on. Time is the great healer - Day 1.


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Posted on Mon, Mar 29, 2010 18:57

Thanks Bizzle, nice to see you around !


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Posted on Sat, Mar 27, 2010 21:20

Hang in there girl! Went on an introductory 'date' long time ago and by the time I got home there was the sorry, no chemistry felt email waiting for me. Guess cuz I really don't get out a lot I thought whings went ok for first encounter. Guess my people meter doesn't work anymore lol!!! Hand in there, oh I said that already..must really be getting old lol


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Posted on Tue, Mar 09, 2010 17:19

Ok - I am better - not over it but I am going forward - thanks for all your positive thoughts - better now than later - so putting myself back into the game slowly since I know I like men and don't want to be alone. It's been just over a week and a half - I finally replied to his email which was part of going forward. I do agree - better to hear something than nothing but it is really hard to share with your family and friends/co-workers that you got dumped especially when they ask what are you and the "coward" doing for your birthday - constant reminder due to timing was hardest.


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Posted on Mon, Mar 08, 2010 18:39

Hi smoosh. So sorry to hear that happened to you. Yep that is a cowardly way out. You'll meet someone who appreciates you smoosh. Time will ease the hurt too. Hang in there ! Bravo neal. You said it best!


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Posted on Mon, Mar 08, 2010 13:16

Aw, Smoosh. Not sure if it was a heavy relationship or not, but yeah, that's a pretty cowardly way to tell someone it's over. BUT it's better than never hearing from them, without a phone call or explanation. I hope you feel better soon! xoxoxo


In your rocking-chair, by your window dreaming, shall you long, alone. In your rocking-chair, by your window, shall you dream such happiness as you may never feel. –Theodore Dreiser

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Posted on Tue, Mar 02, 2010 15:48

Personally I think this is cowardice, especially when it ha been a long term thing and I can understand the hurt caused by this. Though some people just cant confront seeing other being hurt and take the easy way out for themselves. Sorry that you had to experience this Smoosh but if this is the character of the man, then you deserve so much better. You are a warm and generous person and I know that you will in time find someone that will see how special you are. Big hug to you xx


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Posted on Tue, Mar 02, 2010 14:10

Thanks for support and feedback - I guess I didn't realize it was more commonplace. Heavy sigh - Day 5


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Posted on Sun, Feb 28, 2010 23:40

I'm sorry to hear this you are a very sweet person...which could be the reason he couldn't look you in the face or take hearing the pain in your voice over the phone. Nowadays it seems the computer is taking the human out of human being. It sucks and I hope it gets better for you.


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Posted on Sun, Feb 28, 2010 22:18

Smoosh, Sorry to hear the Former boyfreind you were dating took the COWARDS way out to dump you by Email. I agree for some the email is the easyiest and lest dramatic way out. However I feel ending a relationship It is a honorable mans duty to look that persons eyes and see the hurt his actions will cause . I am sorry but to me doing it in person boils down to Honor and Respect for the person getting the Dear John/Dear Jane treatment. Come on folks GROW A SPINE and Take Responsability for you actions .


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Posted on Sun, Feb 28, 2010 14:23

I saw a story on the news the other day that says breakups via email, IM, and text are on the rise. Apparently, not having to look the other person in the eye and not having to face the other's emotions makes some people feel better. Personally, I think it's a cop-out. I'm sorry for your pain. You deserve better.


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Posted on Sun, Feb 28, 2010 12:19

Being rejected in any manner sucks! With that being said; I have maintained that this cyber dating,( what ever the proper terminology is for this 7th ring of hell I have entered into actually is)the fastest way to get rejected and now you don't even have to leave your own house!! Modern technology is a love hate thing in of itself. Different cultural re-writes of manners, and common courtesy are going by the way side. I am not sure Smoosh, but dear one you are entitled to run the gambit of emotions, and know this in the deepest depth of sorrow there is no time. Wishing you well. Qadesh


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Posted on Sun, Feb 28, 2010 06:48

Smoosh, Sorry to hear this news. I agree, that is the cowardly way to do it! He shoulda been a man, but then again, some people don't even do that! Get back up on that horse gurl. You are right...Time heals all wounds. Love, Elaine


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Posted on Sun, Feb 28, 2010 04:26

I don't think there's any perfect way to be honest Smoosh, but maybe there are some plus sides to the email thing.... Not everyone will feel the same I'm sure, but the "benefits" I see (if you can ever have a benefit when something hurts!) include: - It's better than not receiving any communication at all and never quite knowing what happened (how many times have most of us moaned about the disappearing acts?!) - It could be easier to be rational and stop things getting heated and overly emotional/agressive - It could be easier to be clear about the exact reasons rather than have a tearful or angry face to face meeting - It could be better than being taken out for drinks or a meal and be told in a public place where anyone could overhear or see you getting emotional when you'd rather these things were private (and when you've got dressed up for a night out only for it to end like that!) - It saved either of you from having to make your way home feeling upset when you probably just wanted to be on your own to get things straght in your head. I kind of finished my last "relationship" in a conversation on instant messenger. We'd tried to talk face to face but I just got too upset to get the words out even tho I was the one doing the dumping. So it's not great, but whatt way is there?! Anyway, be strong, and good luck ..... let's hope better things are around the corner x


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