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naught_bbw
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Posted on Mon, Feb 15, 2010 13:42

We all have our own little habits and quirks. When we meet a mate, we either accept another person's quirks and issues or we tell them to seek a counselor. I have all kinds of friends with so many issues that we must all find one another through the Loser Beacon that's invisible to normal folks. My friends include cutters, alkies, pot smokers, smokers, OCD-ers, etc. etc. etc. Where would you draw the line for someone with whom you were involved?


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Posted on Wed, Mar 10, 2010 10:04

I love my man sometimes more than I love french fries. I have been in love with him since I was a child. More than a year ago we re-kindled our old flame, and after all these years (17 to be exact), he still hasn't changed much. He's a drinker, a risk-taker, a biker (yes, club affiliated) and has done more drugs in his lifetime than I care to even think about (though I promise he isn't into drugs now). He has 4 kids with 4 different women, 2 of whom he married, 1 of which left him for another woman. I know, he sounds like a real dirt bag and I would never mean to put him out there in this kind of light, but those of us who live in glass houses should never through stones. Keep in mind that I have only listed the cons of his personality, so don't do any judging yourselves. I have a pretty shocking past too. Least of all I have been in trouble with the law in my younger years, had my fair share of one night stands - an aborted pregnancy as a result of one - and have no right to judge anyone for their past actions... I also believe that most, maybe even all adults, as a rule, should be on meds or in therapy (after all, I am middle aged, unemployed, realizing that I will never live up to that "potential" my dysfunctional parents pinned on me, loved ones are dying or close to it, kids are entering teenage years for christ sakes, I think I need some MEDS! I KNOW I am not the ONLY one!). So... for now, as long as he is a good father, lover, provider, remains non-abusive, loving and compassionate - and puts me second after the children, I am good with it. All of it. For now.


In your rocking-chair, by your window dreaming, shall you long, alone. In your rocking-chair, by your window, shall you dream such happiness as you may never feel. –Theodore Dreiser

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Posted on Sun, Feb 28, 2010 18:24

Besides the obvious ones--cheating, lying, abusive, substance abuse--I have to say that I would draw the line who made promises that he could not keep. I don't ask for much, require alot of time or make demands on anyone, but if a man tells me that he is going to do something for me or we make plans to spend time together and he breaks the dates frequently, then I am out of there. That is too disappointing to me. Makes me feel that I am not worth his time and that he would rather be doing something else.


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Posted on Tue, Feb 16, 2010 00:38

I just met someone from this site actually.  It's only been a couple of weeks and we're still getting to know eachother but everything seems fine.  She appears to be a sweet, wonderful woman & a devoted mother to her boy.  However, I have two kids of my own (one of whom is autistic and requires special care) and I'm trying to finish college in addition to working and running a household. So if I found out that there were problems that would take away from my focus on any of those things or put those things in jeopardy I'd have to step out of that relationship.  If I was in a long-term, committed relationship and my girlfriend or wife developed some of the issues you mentioned, I'd try my best to help her work through them.  I wouldn't be able to just abandon her.  But again, the line would be drawn if helping her required sacrificing my kids in any way.



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