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Quoting one2one:
Quote: I hope if I ever show rudeness or insensitivity someone tells me so in an intelligent but blunt way.
OK, Azure, but please remember you asked.
I have seen a lot of what I consider put downs in your blog comments. Questioning other people's intelligence, maturity and morality has been pretty common, in fact. And you have gone as far as indicating that men deserve it when you wrote, "But you must admit, so many men that were stinkers caused it." Which is a little like the classic abusive thought process that says, "If she didn't ___, I wouldn't have to hit her."
Really.
Referring to women as "us" and men as "them", making generalizations and broad, sweeping statements can easily polarize and offend both men and women. I've cringed at some of the things you've written. I would be insulted if I were a man, and as a woman I don't care to have you speak for me.
Ever.
Comments like, "Until men can see this is their problem and force themselves to learn how to communicate all their emotions there will always be this nasty gulf between men and women." is another good example. It creates a rather inhospitable (nasty) environment in which to do that, while assuming they can't anyway and that everyone knows it.
I don't. I've known men who were better at communicating their feelings for me than I was for them.
Although you give lip service to the idea that everyone is entitled to their own opinion, I don't think you really believe it. It's used in a context and way that is meant to discount what they've said. I think some of your blog comments suggest instead that everyone is entitled to your opinion (which is fine, I'm a big believer in freedom of speech), but then you take it a step further and expect everyone to submit to it (not fine, a bit like intellectual fascism, actually). You praise everyone who agrees with you and blah, blah blog (or is it flog) to death everyone who doesn't until they give up or acquiesce.
Now, I know I've likely offended you, although that wasn't my intent. So, I realize I'm on thin ice asking you to do me a favor, but I'm going to ask anyway.
Wait.
Wait ... for a couple days before you respond (because I have a hunch you will) to tell me that I don't know what I think, what I feel, what I see and what I've heard.
"Nothing is at last sacred but the integrity of your own mind." -Ralph Waldo Emerson
Quote: I hope if I ever show rudeness or insensitivity someone tells me so in an intelligent but blunt way.
OK, Azure, but please remember you asked.
I have seen a lot of what I consider put downs in your blog comments. Questioning other people's intelligence, maturity and morality has been pretty common, in fact. And you have gone as far as indicating that men deserve it when you wrote, "But you must admit, so many men that were stinkers caused it." Which is a little like the classic abusive thought process that says, "If she didn't ___, I wouldn't have to hit her."
Really.
Referring to women as "us" and men as "them", making generalizations and broad, sweeping statements can easily polarize and offend both men and women. I've cringed at some of the things you've written. I would be insulted if I were a man, and as a woman I don't care to have you speak for me.
Ever.
Comments like, "Until men can see this is their problem and force themselves to learn how to communicate all their emotions there will always be this nasty gulf between men and women." is another good example. It creates a rather inhospitable (nasty) environment in which to do that, while assuming they can't anyway and that everyone knows it.
I don't. I've known men who were better at communicating their feelings for me than I was for them.
Although you give lip service to the idea that everyone is entitled to their own opinion, I don't think you really believe it. It's used in a context and way that is meant to discount what they've said. I think some of your blog comments suggest instead that everyone is entitled to your opinion (which is fine, I'm a big believer in freedom of speech), but then you take it a step further and expect everyone to submit to it (not fine, a bit like intellectual fascism, actually). You praise everyone who agrees with you and blah, blah blog (or is it flog) to death everyone who doesn't until they give up or acquiesce.
Now, I know I've likely offended you, although that wasn't my intent. So, I realize I'm on thin ice asking you to do me a favor, but I'm going to ask anyway.
Wait.
Wait ... for a couple days before you respond (because I have a hunch you will) to tell me that I don't know what I think, what I feel, what I see and what I've heard.
"Nothing is at last sacred but the integrity of your own mind." -Ralph Waldo Emerson
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